clynn Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 This guy and I dated for only about a month. It didn't work out, basically, we broke up after just a month. The reason was because he was fresh off of a serious relationship and he asked to take things slower (we'd started off pretty serious, and he was setting the pace....)....I instead suggested that we just stop seeing each other. So we did. Several months later, we reconnected at a party and we've begun seeing each other again. Albeit periodically. I do have some wonderings about what this is or where it is going....aaacckkk! Probably it is too soon to ask these questions? What do you think? And how can I broach a conversation without getting too heavy about it? In the meantime, he is going travelling this summer, and will be travelling through an area where my dad lives. My dad is going to show him around for a few days. Also, we belong to a club together adn this fall I am the lead on a project and he has offered to be my "right hand" which I think is really cool though I of course am also nervous about how that might work.... Nonetheless, the dating between us is still fairly casual and we haven't made any verbal commitments to one another and we don't see each other too often, once ever 2 weeks maybe, although we talk frequently, and also we both work a lot and he is sometimes out of town for work. Thoughts? Comments?
westernxer Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 Doesn't sound like there's any sparks between the two of you. Cut your losses now.
Author clynn Posted July 12, 2005 Author Posted July 12, 2005 oh yeah? Really? You get that idea from what I wrote, huh? Interesting. Why? Hmmm. I think that we do have sparks but that we're also both somewhat reserved......but, then...hmmm...... so what about asking him anything? no?
westernxer Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 It's so obvious he's not into you... guys who are into you have a hard time hiding it. He's probably still pining over his ex. You can ask him, sure. You'll probably save yourself a lot of time by doing so. Just ask him point-blank. Anything less than an affirmative means it's time to go.
alphamale Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Doesn't sound like there's any sparks between the two of you. Cut your losses now. I would agree with the above....if you want to keep it just casual or a sexual thing that is kewl....but I would not expect much more.
Author clynn Posted July 12, 2005 Author Posted July 12, 2005 aaaw, thanks. Guess I was not really knowing at the same time. And wondering about his intentions because of his interest in getting closely involved on a project with me, etc. And the whole visiting my dad thing... so, thanks.
westernxer Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 Well, you are in the same organization. Furthermore, why would he want to get close to your dad when he can have you instead? Maybe he digs your dad.
upsetnhurt Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 Clynn, Don't presume that is the way he feels. There is no harm in asking him....just be prepared that he may or may not be motivated to taking it to a new level.
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