Gusteau Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 I met a girl online a couple of weeks ago, we chatted online for a bit and then went on a date which went really well. We really seemed to hit it off, we have a number of common interests, conversation was fun and natural and I made her laugh a lot. She's always quite irregular with texting/messaging, she would usually reply to my messages hours or days later. I heard nothing from her on the day of our date so wasn't even sure if she'd turn up but she did. A couple of days after we met I texted her asking if she'd like to meet again and for the first time she replied straight away and said definitely but she'd be busy for a couple of weeks so couldn't set a date. I sent her another message a couple days later just referencing something we'd talked about when we met up and asked how she was doing but have heard nothing from her three days later. I'm still hopeful that i'll see her again but i'm really not sure if she's interested or not. I dont know if she is just genuinely busy or to cut my losses
lakerman34 Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 I met a girl online a couple of weeks ago, we chatted online for a bit and then went on a date which went really well. We really seemed to hit it off, we have a number of common interests, conversation was fun and natural and I made her laugh a lot. She's always quite irregular with texting/messaging, she would usually reply to my messages hours or days later. I heard nothing from her on the day of our date so wasn't even sure if she'd turn up but she did. A couple of days after we met I texted her asking if she'd like to meet again and for the first time she replied straight away and said definitely but she'd be busy for a couple of weeks so couldn't set a date. I sent her another message a couple days later just referencing something we'd talked about when we met up and asked how she was doing but have heard nothing from her three days later. I'm still hopeful that i'll see her again but i'm really not sure if she's interested or not. I dont know if she is just genuinely busy or to cut my losses "Definitely" = She's definitely interested "I'm busy for the next couple of weeks" = She's busy (hence no response) Send her a text next week, asking what's up. If no response (or light convo), wait another week to text here thereafter. If no response 3 weeks in a row, just assume it's not happening. Some girls are like this. I remember one in particular, I thought it was done with her, then 2 weeks later she came over and we had awesome sex. Not everyone is attached to their phones.
iphone_user1 Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 I've been multidating lately, one girl is really irregular at texting. Sometimes she texts steady, and sometimes she takes a day to reply, gives short texts or we wouldn't text or call for a few days, she asked me out on the third date though, so we met. Face to face she's a whole different person, kind of weird.
leogirl876 Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 I was gonna say from a girl perspective, she's not that interested. I don't take days to respond to a guy that I'm really interested in, and I use the line "I'm gonna be really busy the next few weeks" to kinda keep him on the back burner or to try to make him go away. I know I shouldn't do that, but that's what women, and men do!
ff12343 Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 (edited) I was gonna say from a girl perspective, she's not that interested. I don't take days to respond to a guy that I'm really interested in, and I use the line "I'm gonna be really busy the next few weeks" to kinda keep him on the back burner or to try to make him go away. I know I shouldn't do that, but that's what women, and men do! "Busy for a few weeks" is all you needed to hear. I would NOT text her and wait for her to text you. Even if she is busy, she can say hi. Guess what? She can do it while sitting on the throne. Don't be plan B. What do you think would happen if after 1 interview, they called you in for a second one and you said "i'll be busy for a few weeks. I'll let you know". Edited November 1, 2016 by ff12343
LastAcorn99 Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 I can understand your confusion. Instead of guessing, why don’t you just ask her upfront if she’s still interested in keep in touch with you, or want to be off the hook? All the best!
transform yourself Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 I would advise to be patient and speak to other women or do something to occupy yourself so you are not constantly thinking of when this woman will get back to me. I remember I was in this situation where I would text a woman and I'd keep looking at my phones 50 times, even checking my inbox just in case I have received a message. Generally, when I send a message or call a woman I leave it at that wait a week before replying, as if a woman genuinely likes you she will call or text you back, period!. So don't call multiple call or text after you send a message. Here is a favourite video of mine check it out relating to this. Also don't use texting to build attraction and rapport. I only use it to invite her out and if you got intimate i usually call because I find that 10 minutes of a call of you being present when speaking to her is 100 times better than exchanging 20 minutes of texts as the woman gets to see and feel the real YOU! Regards
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