Jrdoty88 Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 So this asked me out Saturday and I gave my number and left Hes super sweet and cute. We slept together a litte later and we both agredd it was amazing and hot. We both felt something. Few days later, We made out again and agaon it was hot. Next night, he texted me that our personalities "didnt" match. I was like caught off guard... we clicked like I havent ever before. Is he just scared? Hes not in it for the sex, he wanted to take it slow. What do I do?
Redhead14 Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 So this asked me out Saturday and I gave my number and left Hes super sweet and cute. We slept together a litte later and we both agredd it was amazing and hot. We both felt something. Few days later, We made out again and agaon it was hot. Next night, he texted me that our personalities "didnt" match. I was like caught off guard... we clicked like I havent ever before. Is he just scared? Hes not in it for the sex, he wanted to take it slow. What do I do? Sweetie, he's done witchu. He got what he wanted. You basically, had a one and a half night-stand. he wanted to take it slow -- Really???? So he had sex with you a "little later"? Don't do anything. Don't text or call him. Don't chase him. I always tell women that the first time they sleep with a man, they should assume it will be a one-night stand until the guy shows her otherwise. He's telling you instead of showing you . . . he's moving on. You sound to be very young, you've have a lot to learn . . . 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 Hes not in it for the sex, he wanted to take it slow. No he didn't want to take it slow. That was cheap talk to convince the young and naive. He got exactly what he wanted and had planned for all along and now is done. Move on and the next time someone says he wanted to take it slow, you probably want to wait a few dates before getting in the sack with a guy. If he wanted to take it slow, he would have told you to wait on the sex...nope, he got EXACTLY what he wanted.
central Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 Or maybe he really does think you're not matched. I've had some hot dates with women who turned out to be incompatible. Good chemistry can make you delusional about compatibility, but can't change a poor match into a good one.
gorf Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 It was a hook up, he just let you down softly by saying those things without telling you it was a fling
ExpatInItaly Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 He definitely didn't want to take it slow. This was sex, nothing more and nothing less.
Toodaloo Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 Or maybe he really does think you're not matched. I've had some hot dates with women who turned out to be incompatible. Good chemistry can make you delusional about compatibility, but can't change a poor match into a good one. Ditto. And more often than not they just do not see it at all... The guy who was rude to the staff at the pub. The guy who had swastikas tattooed on his knuckles. The guy who thought it was cool to keep putting me down. The guy who just spoke at me for an hour. The guy who was staring at the other womans backside for an hour and a half. The guy who went on about his ex. The guy who made sexist or racist remarks. The guy who smelt of BO. The guy with long finger nails. The guy who said people with Downs Syndrome are mongrels. The guy who laughed about urinating on a homeless person who was sleeping in a doorway. The guy who... These are all men I have met that I have had dates with and gone silent on. Some I have openly tried to say no but all just couldn't see what was "wrong" with their behaviour. All were very incompatible with me. they just didn't know it. I suspect though that this guy was feeding you lines for the simple purpose of getting your knickers off... ALWAYS judge a person by their actions NOT their words. I can say I look like Claudia Schiffer doesn't make it true just because I say now does it...
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