baffled111 Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 My girlfriend and I are both young, only 19. we have been together for 10 months, and i'm completely in love with her(actual love- not lust or puppy love. Actual love) anyway...we were fooling around the ohter day and one thing led to another...but then she told me to stop and that she didnt want to have sex...I was kinda confused and then she asked me if i was mad. i took me a second to respond but i said no(cuz i wasnt, just kinda disappointed i guess) I told her i respect her decision not to have sex and to save her virginity till marriage(which is what she wants to do) i said i wouldnt pressure her and i support her. i told her i love her so anything else doesnt matter. i dont need sex, i need her. Well, i already know that she does love my, although not nearly as much as i love her, but im ok with that. I respect her decision and think that its a nobel thing to do. i dont care if we have sex as long as i can have her. sure i would like to, but i can wait. The problem is that now she is unsure. she is telling me that maybe she doesnt want to wait. she feels like she let me down and disappointed me and i told her that she didnt. she actually made me proud of her and proud to be with her because she stood up for what she believes in. she keeps apologizing and i keep telling her not to. i dont know what to do. while i would like to have sex, its not important to me, she is. Also i dont want her to have sex because she feels guilty if she doesnt. I've never pressured her and i never will, i respect her to much. I tried telling her not to have sex with me, but she says she might want to now. I'm torn because i want to, but then i dont want to if its just because she feels guilty. I don't want her to give up on saving her virginity because i was a little disappointed. Also i dont know how to convince her that she didnt do anything wrong by not having sex with me and that i really do support her 110% in waiting for marriage.
Leah Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 she actually made me proud of her and proud to be with her because she stood up for what she believes in. This world would be a better place for everyone if more people thought like the two of you. Stand with your own convictions and continue to support hers. You say you love your girlfriend very much, even moreso than she loves you so it leads me to the question... you say you support her in waiting for marriage, but i'm not clear on what your intentions are toward her? marriage? or do you know yet.
Merin Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 Mad props to you for having that kind of care and concern for your GF Tell her exactly what you've said here regarding how you feel and keep the communication open. Best Wishes
Marshbear Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 It's a noble cause you are engaged in, my good man. You will feel like a heel if she gives in and has sex with you but you really want to nonetheless. I feel for you. I guess just tell her you will respect any decision she makes and that you will not leave her for greener pastures of she wants to wait.. Good Luck...
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