Found condom in bf's apt and we never use any! !

[Anabell]

Hi guys!

 

My bf and I fought 2 weeks ago, we've been in bad terms since. Yesterday we made peace. We are supposed to meet today to spend time together. He went to his work and I went to his place this morning while he wasn't there to pick up some of my stuff for school (that has been at his place for the past 2 weeks). I usually sleep over at his place a lot (except when we fight) so naturally i do have stuff there and usually i would come and nap, eat, etc. He doesnt know I came today. Just when i was about to leave i noticed a condom on a bottom shelf just below the kitchen counter. But it was in the living room/kitchen not like in his room! I would have missed it if I didn't notice the small package. I dont think it was there last time i came about 1 week ago! But we dont use condoms!! 7 months ago I had a IUD so it can't be in case 'I forgot my pill !' We've been together for 1year and a half. About 4-5 months ago, I found a box of about 4 condoms in a drawer. I really did not think much of it and just thought he didn't threw them/forgot. Today, I went to check into that drawer and the box was not there anymore. I don't know if he threw it out recently or months ago, because i didnt check. But there was only 1 condom stuffed in a sex toys box (ours). And of course the one on the shelf... ( which i think he forgot he left it there)

 

This is infuriating. Should I bring it up in his face tonight? What scares me is that he might come after work, notice it and throw it/put it in another place. So if I come tonight after him I can't pretend to notice it and be like 'wait.. What the **** is this doing here ?' Unless I say that I came today I saw it now its not there, what is going on? Which he'll get back at me by asking me why I was there while he wasn't there, I didn't advise him I am at fault blabla, in brief pretty much anything to say that I am in the wrong.

 

Anyway I am freaking out!! What to do ??

 

Thank you!

[darkmoon]

you had two weeks apart, he might say you were not together then, so he had sex anyway, or was going to, he was single in that fortnight after all

[Toodaloo]

I think you need to pick up all your stuff and give him back his key then just walk away.

 

You are fighting your are arguing and he is capable of shagging other women in the short space of time when you are both single.

 

Just walk away. So much easier...

[Zahara]

Unless I say that I came today I saw it now its not there, what is going on? Which he'll get back at me by asking me why I was there while he wasn't there, I didn't advise him I am at fault blabla, in brief pretty much anything to say that I am in the wrong.

 

Anyway I am freaking out!! What to do ??

 

Thank you!

 

Irrelevant. At this point, regardless of how you bring it up or his response, the outcome is to walk away.