Aquaman83 Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 I am not sure where to start, I met this girl on Hinge and we went out. At first, I felt like it forced date - like hard to get conversation going. Once we talked about our past, and we found out we had a lot in common. Which the chemistry seemed to start to spark. At the end of the date, she kissed me and had a short little make out. We talked later that night for a second date - to be brunch yesterday. She text'd me Saturday that she wouldn't be able to do brunch. I said no problem, and cont my saturday night. Midday sunday, I reached out to her bc I was thinking and we decided to meet up for dinner. This time around, it felt like the non-organic questions and so forth. The date was good, she looked amazing. At the end of it, we had a quick kiss and we parted ways. I generally get a little weirded out if I felt like there was no chemistry and that she would lose interest. I asked her out for Thursday/Friday night and I got well we have to play friday by ear; It might be the only day I am free but my friend is in town for that last night and etc.. Then i asked would another night be better? (she said friday would be the best bet) I am old for games, and says hey if you weren't feeling it - you could tell me its all good. if you are then just ignore this... (only thing I say that, 90% of the time you hear that, she is not interested) she told me she is not going to beat around the bush. She is seeing other people casually. Thoughts on this? I like her, I am dating other people casually... but i like her the most out of the people that I am seeing.
Mrin Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 Two things happened: 1. She had a good date with another guy on Saturday. Could have involved her spending the night. 2. You got committeed by her committee of friends.
IfonlyIknew Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 Ok you say you like her the best out of your casuals, casuals don't usually make a huge impression there is always "one pulling", she is it for you, you are not it for her. Could it be something that turns into more? Only time can tell, but given the hand dealt you are just another casual date to her so now it's up to you to put in the effort to be the leader of the pack on those causals if you think she may be worth it to you.
jstar845 Posted November 2, 2016 Posted November 2, 2016 It seems like the young woman does have an interest in you as you are interested in her. The dates you went on with her indicate this. I understand your concerns as you want her to be honest and you want to know how she feels. It does seem that some of the signals she gives you are not clear. Additionally, I see that both of you admitted to dating other people causally. I’m wondering have you thought about communication with her on how you both feel and the seriousness of the relationship?. I hope this helps. Best wishes!
smackie9 Posted November 2, 2016 Posted November 2, 2016 If I was really into a guy, I would not tell him that I'm casually dating a bunch of guys, I would drop my other planned dates, accept a date for the best nights of the week (Friday/Saturday), and make him my priority. She's still fishing to see what else is out there. She's not that into you. 1
central Posted November 2, 2016 Posted November 2, 2016 (edited) She's still fishing to see what else is out there. She's not that into you. Possibly, but not always. There have been women I've been very into, but it was early days so I continued dating others briefly before choosing them. I've had women date me and others as well, and choose me. Just because someone seems the clear best, does not mean they are the best, or that you are good at choosing. Only enough experience with dating gives you perspective, and even then you can get it wrong. Besides, how do you know if they are into you, if they don't know you are into them? Someone has to speak up first, and often it is assumed to be the man's role. It's not over until someone makes a choice, or tires of the game. Edited November 2, 2016 by central
smackie9 Posted November 3, 2016 Posted November 3, 2016 Possibly, but not always. There have been women I've been very into, but it was early days so I continued dating others briefly before choosing them. I've had women date me and others as well, and choose me. Just because someone seems the clear best, does not mean they are the best, or that you are good at choosing. Only enough experience with dating gives you perspective, and even then you can get it wrong. Besides, how do you know if they are into you, if they don't know you are into them? Someone has to speak up first, and often it is assumed to be the man's role. It's not over until someone makes a choice, or tires of the game. Well the proof is in the pudding......lets see where this gets the OP.
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