angelica11 Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 My semi-LDR boyfriend and I got into a huge fight and he ended up saying some very hurtful things. We didn't talk for a week and I wasn't sure if we were broken up or not. He finally contacted me on Friday, saying he was very sorry for everything and for hurting me. I said thank you for the apology and also apologized for my part in the fight. That was the extent of the conversation. So now it's been the whole weekend and he hasn't made any effort to talk or see me or make things right or anything like that. Although, he was preoccupied with his kids and all the Halloween festivities. Should I wait for him to contact me again? Or is the ball in my court since he broke the silence and apologized? I don't really know where our relationship stands at this point and I'd like to talk about everything and see where we are with everything. Personally, I feel that it should be up to him since he's the one who crossed the line and the fight was because of something he did, granted I could have reacted better. Anyway, I am being distant because I want him to show me I can trust him again, but I don't know if it's also my pride or self-preservation stopping me from being the one to ask him to talk.
elaine567 Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 What was the fight about, what did he do and how did you react, and what did he say that hurt you? Is this your first real fight or is part of an ongoing battle?
Shining One Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 It's neither your job nor his job to initiate contact at this point. He has already reached out and apologized for saying hurtful things. Now, whomever wants to make contact should make contact. 1
IfonlyIknew Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 The ball is in YOUR court to continue or not. I think he should have made more of an effort this weekend, we all get busy with our lives (kids,family whatever the case) my personal outlook is if you have time to go to the bathroom, you have time to send a quick text/call, that would make all the difference to show someone is thinking of the other. In your case, he did reach out and apologize and it's left hanging at this point, now it's "who wants us more" He may be testing you. I'd keep some space for the day.
barbarame Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 If you want to talk to him then talk to him first if he still has not contacted you.
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 Since you haven't provided any detail regarding the argument I'll side with your man at this point saying that he DID make the first move and apologized. As far as I see it, the biggest hurdle here as been reached and he initiated it which is more than most people do when they've done something hurtful. What you're doing now is just childish in my opinion. If you want to figure out where you stand or move on from that argument then pick up the phone and call him already.
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