Red butterfly Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 My lover of three years has broken up with me casually.I do not know whether to be happy or sad about it but that is not important. However it has been about four days after the "break up". Its not official hence the quotes. And i would really wish to collect my stuff from his place;we were not leaving together but i spent a considerable amount of time in his place. Question is is it okay for me to need my stuff? What is the right way for me to ask/go pick them? What if he refuses to give them to me. As it is he has already blocked me in all social media platforms:(:(
umirano Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 What's yours is yours, regardless of who broke up with who and how long ago. If you can have a friend pick up your things. It's definitely ok to ask for your things. If he's blocked you use email, few people know how to block that. As a Last resort ask for your things back in person. Good luck and hugs
Author Red butterfly Posted October 31, 2016 Author Posted October 31, 2016 Hello, I would wish to overcome a break up How do i go about it. Please do not mention hooking up with some other guy.
umirano Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 I wasn't going to give you that advice :-) what can I say.. It's not pretty, in the beginning. It sucks, I miss my recent ex a lot right now. Stick around here, write down your story. That helped me in my last breakup before the current one. Eat lots and healthy. Don't drink, don't medicate. Work out. Meet friends. Do things you love every day. Be positive. No negative self talk. Be patient. Sometimes we get over an ex quickly. Sometimes it takes us a while. You're going to be ok either way. In only a few weeks you will feel better and in a few months the current sorrows will only be a distant memory. Get your things back, return his and then vanish from his life and have him vanish from yours. Go No Contact, see pinned threads in this sub forum. Keep posting, hugs!
Toodaloo Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 Take a bag go round bang on the door and get your things then leave. These things are horrible to deal with but once its done its done. You can move on again. Best get it over with sooner rather than later.
Author Red butterfly Posted November 1, 2016 Author Posted November 1, 2016 Thank you all for your candid advise. I managed to pick all my stuff from his place. Only we got a problem the guy is reluctant on letting go.Despite the fact that i love him i want out too. How do i break the news to him? Should i just drop the bombshell via text or have a face to face break up
elaine567 Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 Thank you all for your candid advise. I managed to pick all my stuff from his place. Only we got a problem the guy is reluctant on letting go.Despite the fact that i love him i want out too. How do i break the news to him? Should i just drop the bombshell via text or have a face to face break up As you have been together 3 years you should do this face to face, that is the most honest way to do it. However, if things are going to get awkward or he is a guy that doesn't take no for an answer or it will all descend into a shouting match or you will be frightened for your safety, then just text him. It is not as if this is all new to him and he would be blind-sided and caught off guard (he originally broke up with you), so a text message telling him clearly you are done, is fine.
PegNosePete Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 Only we got a problem the guy is reluctant on letting go.Despite the fact that i love him i want out too. I thought he blocked you on all social media? And you've been round to pick up all your stuff. You don't need to do anything more. You're already broken up. Whether he can "let go" or not is his problem to deal with, not yours.
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