Nemanja Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 Hi guys. I met this girl few months ago. We both are foreign students from the same country living in US. At first, i didnt even know her name, she was just a cashier girl, and i had a girlfriend. One day, my girlfriend heard she was talking about me, and she noticed that this girl likes me. After we broke up, i started getting attracted to this girl. After some time, i started working at the same place as her. She gave me her number, and after a few "dates" it was obvious that she likes me too. But, i screwed it all up acting like im not interested. When i realized im losing her, i tried to fix things, but i wasnt very successful. I mean, even now, after some time, she sometimes shows me how much she cares for me. About 1 month ago, she asked me to live with her and her sister. We started living together 10 days ago, and we were having fights every day. About stupid things, like, my smoking addiction, lack of sleep etc. She notices little things, like which word do i say a lot, what i eat, what i like. She is getting angry about stupid things, like, when i am texting someone, when i dont text her in the morning from my room, and sometimes, cuz of that, she doesnt talk to me all day. Her sister says that we act like a couple who has been married for 30 years. When we are watching a movie, she always sits next to me on the love seat, and her sister is alone on the couch. If we have a fight, she says how she has to find a boyfriend, this guy told her that she is pretty, she likes that guy, but that guy is an idiot when we are cool. Her sister is always telling me how should i treat her, what she does or doesnt like, that im the only person here that she cares about, but that she doesnt want me to know that. And she is always trying to talk to me about her. I dont really know what to do, one day im sure she likes me, and the very next one, she acts like she doesnt care. She always says to everyone that we are just friends, even tho she is flirting with me every day. But when i try to go further, she stops and change the subject. She wants to know who im texting, where i go, what im gonna do while shes at work. But still, even tho everyone think we are in a relationship, most of the time i dont even know if she really likes me. We live together, we spend all day together, she even doesnt sleep sometimes, just so she could be with me. But, on the other hand, she insists that we are only friends. She is texting me when she's at work, when im at work, and we spend the rest of the day together. But still, im not 100% sure if she would be with me. How do i find out ? What to do so i can be a 100% sure she likes me without asking her or her sister ?
LastAcorn99 Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 Given what you shared, I feel like it would be best for you to move out, keep some distance, and see how things work out. May you have the wisdom to make the right decision. All the best! 2
Author Nemanja Posted November 1, 2016 Author Posted November 1, 2016 Well, that is almost impossible, cuz i promised them i will stay with em over the winter, plus the apartment is rly expensive for two of them to pay everything. Thanks anyways, i appreciate that!
Herbalist Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 What about just owning up to your initial BS with her in a sincere way. Like admit to her that you liked her early on but you were stupid about it and tried to play it too cool and act like you weren't interested and now you regret it since look at all the dumb **** it has caused. You started the game so you gotta end it.
Author Nemanja Posted November 2, 2016 Author Posted November 2, 2016 This is one of best advices i got. I dont know, i am considering doing that, but id like to avoid direct conversation about that and just try getting her to notice it from my behavior. Yeah, i know, it would be the best if i told her, but as i said earlier, i want to find out if she likes me or not without asking her, cuz we live together, it would be awkward if im wrong about everything. But thanks again, i appreciate that!
EveryWomanJ2911 Posted November 14, 2016 Posted November 14, 2016 Maybe its best to just get some space of your own so that you both can sort things out? Adding the pressure of being roommates to a potential relationship is not really conducive to a positive foundation for a romantic interest. Plus, you both will benefit from the breathing room of your own living arrangements to just enjoy life, and not rush things because you're under the same roof. Her family living there puts them in the middle of your relationship and only complicates things. Please consider that you might have harmed your chances of a successful romantic prospect by simply moving too fast. Praying things move in a more positive direction. Blessings Friend!
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