victoria88 Posted October 30, 2016 Posted October 30, 2016 Hi everyone, I am brand new here. Let me start by saying that I do not have any experience in dating (or with men in general). I would really appreciate if some of you can share their experience and/or just give me some information about what is going on nowadays... The facts: I am beautiful but very shy. I met a man I fell in love with. Let me explain that he was showing some interest in me very delicately. However after I introduced myself I asked him i he would like to have lunch with me (at work...not a date invitation). He refused because he said he had a girlfriend. A friend of mine had a similar experience. She had a drink wih a guy but he was talking about his girlfriend. I told her that according to me he is not interested in her. I think this is an excuse used by certain men to cut you off. Someone elste told her to ask him whether he wants to have a relationship with her (despite the fact that he had a girlfirend). Actually I am confused: Do men say on purpose that they have a girlfriend (do they think they will not look very interesting if they do not have a relationship)? Some kind of strategy or just trying to say "I am not interested in you"??? I have heard many times that some women still ask the guy to go out with them (despite he is saying he has a girlfriend). What is going on actually? Thank you in advance!
Kelley Posted October 30, 2016 Posted October 30, 2016 The guy has a girlfriend, he has told you that because he is not interested. You don't want to be that girl that chases after a guy that has a girlfriend. Have some self respect and choose someone that is single. It's not nice being the girlfriend and finding out another woman in pursuing her boyfriend. How would you feel about that? Leave it now and move on. 2
Erik30 Posted October 30, 2016 Posted October 30, 2016 It means he actually has a girlfriend, or if it was a lie, (probably not) a guy might use that as an easy excuse to reject a girl. Don't try to fool yourself thinking guys say they're taken as a way to possibly attract someone. He's not interested 1
Author victoria88 Posted October 30, 2016 Author Posted October 30, 2016 Thank you for your answers! Best wishes...
joseb Posted October 30, 2016 Posted October 30, 2016 I think it's a lot more common for girls to use the "I have a boyfriend" line than it is for guys. But maybe thats because girls almost never ask guys out. I would take him at face value and leave him be.
elaine567 Posted October 30, 2016 Posted October 30, 2016 Nothing to be "confused" about. He says he has a gf, he declines lunch - he is not interested. He doesn't have a gf but makes up one as an excuse for declining lunch - he is not interested. He has a gf and despite that he accepts the lunch invitation - he IS interested... Of course some people just want to go to lunch and will accept any invitation, especially in a work/non-dating situation, so it doesn't always mean he is interested in you, just maybe that he is hungry or wants to try out a new place to eat. YOU are in love, you believe you are beautiful, so how could he refuse you? - Your ego is hurt. WE get it, but a guy who tells you he has a gf and declines your offer of a one on one lunch is NOT interested. Sorry! 3
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