stan98 Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 Hey guys, I want to give some background info because i feel like its really essential to everything. So Im a 22m and ive dealt with pretty terrible anxiety and depression for as long as i can remember, more of anxiety than depression. I have been seeing a girl for about a year, i really fell for her and she was the single most supportive person ive ever met in terms of helping me with my mental issues. Around 3 months ago i was going through a really rough time with all this and i made a horrible decision and decided maybe we needed a break. I think i took a lot of the things i was going through out on the situation and made an emotional decision. We didnt talk for a few weeks, but eventually we ended back up together. Flash forward to this week. Things were getting kind of weird between us. I had been feeling extremely down and sad the last few weeks and i was really showing it. She came to me and said that she thinks we need to take a break, and i need to work on myself. She also said that she still wants to be here for me to talk to, and also to hangout if needed but that being together wasnt the best for either of us right now. But i feel horrible about everything. On one hand i think maybe this is a good idea, maybe i really do need to just work on myself without another person, but on the other hand it makes me so mad and upset that someone would just leave when things were at the worst and say "well maybe when you get better we can see each other". Right now i just feel incredibly and overwhelmingly sad. I lost hope in everything, i know i had made mistakes in letting her go earlier but i tried my best to let her know how sorry i was for that and how bad it hurt that i let that happen. I just need help on how to handle all this. The worst part is, i met her when i transferred colleges and when i met her i invested so much time into her and not into finding other friends. So right now im alone, i hardly know anyone. I realize i need to work on myself, and i actually have suck out help seeing a therapist, and im going to start exercising right after i post this. I just dont know what to do, it kills me, absolutely kills me, to think that she could be out with other guys. I dont know if i should text her, or just leave her alone. I just needed to vent to someone, in hopes that anyone could give me any advice. Wether it being how to hand the situation with her, how i could go about meeting some new people in my town, or just in general how to do things to take away the pain. Thanks
LastAcorn99 Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 I’m sorry about your situation. While I can understand your pain and hurts, I can also see why your GF would want some space. I believe that seeking the help of a therapist is a really good start at working on yourself. Also, I would suggest that you take this time apart to make new friends by signing up for some of the co-curricular clubs and activities on campus. Please take good care of yourself, and remember that better days are always ahead.
Sweetfish Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 Take this opportunity to fix the depression and anxiety. I believe the working out and eating healthy will help you GREATLY. These events you've been having has taken a toll on her and the relationship and you shouldn't see it as "she left at your lowest moment". You have a chance to fix things with your self without her. I would leave her alone. Do not contact her unless you have some very noticeable results
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