SparkPlug Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 I'll lay it out straight - I think that posting my problem on a forum will do absolutely nothing to help the situation, as I think 'love' is largely unexplainable. I, however, have taken the advice of an old, old friend and am attempting to seek help and opinions from people I don't know. This is a big leap of faith for me, since I believe this will yeild little results, but hold hope that I'll be proven wrong - in fact, I want to be proven wrong. To begin, I'm a 17 year old male. I have had a handful of successful, proven, and lasting (lasting for such a young age, that is) relationships. Through them I've learned more about myself and find myself taking many more risks, which usually prove fruitful. I think I recently took a risk that sent me straight into a brick wall, and could even cost me the friendship of the person this is all about. I met what I believed to be an awesome, captivating, and down-to-earth person through a multitude of summer activities. My friends largely disagree, saying that she is cruel, whiney, and very aggrivating if she doesn't get her way. I shook my head at them, shrugged, and decided to give her a chance. Soon, I found myself liking her abit more and more - we can connect on so many levels, be them spiritual, musically, or our sense of humor. We went out a few nights back, just the two of us, and went for a nice little drive, stopping here and there. The conversation was non-stop: filled with laughs, good moments, and a general understanding of each other. It even went as far as me talking with her and helping her work through her current boyfriend problems (which I chose not to sway in my favor and look all angelic in comparison to her boyfriend). The night ended on a good tone, and she made it clear that she didn't want me to take her home at the time, but I had no choice (she agreed and was alright with it in the end). The general feeling of the night left me elated and made me believe that there could be a chance for something more. A day passed, with a casual phone conversation and glints of hope for plans to be made the next day. I zoomed out of work the day we were both hoping (at least I think we both were, it's difficult to determine) to chill later that night. After some exchange of words, I told her we needed to talk. Sometime during the exchange, she basically asked me if I 'liked' her, and I took the risk - I responded with a yes, not even thinking that the outcome would be less than desireable. What I was confronted with was a complete shut out: no response to any messages, when I call she promptly hangs up, and when asked if she wants to go out for food, a trip, or another drive she won't respond. I've given up trying to contact her for the time being. I'm not the type of person to get agitated if someone doesn't share feelings for me that I share for them, but I find it highly depressing that someone would toss a whole friendship out the window because I took a risk. I'm at a complete loss of what to do; do I call, send her a message, drop by her place? Were my friends right? Is she really not a cool person, or have I committed some fault along the way? Any help is appreciated. I'm sorry if this thread appears twice - I posted as a guest for the first message on accident.
J dub Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 She has a boyfriend, what do you care what she thinks?
Author SparkPlug Posted July 11, 2005 Author Posted July 11, 2005 I usually wouldn't care, or even risk (read: be stupid enough) telling her how I felt when she's involved with another person. Things changed slightly, however, when she said I made her boyfriend look less than likeable judging by how the one night had gone. Part of me thinks she tries to grab the attention of whoever she is currently with, and another part of me believes otherwise. I'm not down with 'stealing' from other guys, but her current boyfriend seemed largely undeserving, clingy, and overly cruel to her - according to her own friends, who were rooting for me in this particular situation. I thought I'd take the chance and lay it on the line. Heh, bad idea.
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