lakerman34 Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 I'm confused. I was talking to this girl for MONTHS. She lived out of state (connected thru OKC), and was moving to my city. We spoke for roughly 5 months. Then, come July, it cooled down when I went on vacation where I didn't have access to internet. During those 5 months, LOTS of nudes were sent, and very sexy pics. We even had phone sex. Never met in person. Almost 3 months ago, she moved to my city. We haven't spoken much. I've asked her numerous times to hang out (she lives in the city next to mine, really, about a 40 minute drive), and it's always met with skepticism. So, I stopped talking to her, but once in about every 2 weeks, she'll message me (usually something like correcting a spelling error in a Snap that I send to the world). I spoke to her saying "is this happening or not? Let me know." She said that she was skeptical b/c she knew I was skeptical about the age difference (7 years, she's 19 and I'm 26). She told me she'd call me after work. She never did. I sent her a Snap of my face (I was looking REAL good that day) asking her "remember to call me. I have a funny story to tell you." Nothing. I'm dropping this, obviously, but I guess my question really is, why do girls do this? Also, worth mentioning, not another guy in her life. Her two best friends are a gay couple, and it seems to be like she spends a LOT of time with them and her sister.
BDJ_1 Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 She likes the attention. You hear from her when she needs some. 1
Herbalist Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 Sometimes it is kind of like the female version of the stereotype about how guys will have sex casually with a girl but then they don't want to actually be serious with a girl who has casual sex in the first place. Some women are actually similar this way and will devalue a guy in their mind if he is all about the sex stuff right away. Like they might think he is hot and enjoy the sex stuff sure but then they will also think of him as just some dude who likes to mess around but is not relationship material. Basically even though it is hypocritical no matter who is doing it, people of both genders do it. I think maybe some guys are just surprised when women do it because it is a male stereotype.
Author lakerman34 Posted October 29, 2016 Author Posted October 29, 2016 I just don't really understand it, is all. We would talk on the phone for 3+ hours. She sent me photos of her boobs, ass, and lower extremities. She would almost beg me to send her pics as well. We would talk every night, throughout every day, and then when she finally moves closer to me, it's as if she got cold feet. Girls be frustratin'
Shanex Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 I'm going to refer you to a good LS poster who recently wrote : ''Don't be an emotional support for a woman you haven't seen naked''. Move on, she ain't interested. She keeps you for the attention, and she would make plans with you if she really wanted anyway.
joseb Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 Have you video chatted with her? Do you know she is who she claims to be?
Shanex Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 She's probably 600 lbs or married... Or both. Great catch for a ''cute girl'' Yeah I think the OP has had enough. The BS saturation point is reached. Move on.
Popsicle Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 Or both. You're right, probably both. Most of the 600 lb women I see have husbands.
OnlyHonesty Posted October 30, 2016 Posted October 30, 2016 She is using you for an ego rub, for a solution to boredom and as her emotional pillow when ever she feels the need. She has no interest in spending time with you and enjoys the fantasy. This will never change and don't forget, she is just a girl too. Your best bet is to block, delete and move on.
Author lakerman34 Posted October 30, 2016 Author Posted October 30, 2016 (edited) We Skyped multiple times. Real, 19, great body. Yesterday, I sent her a text asking her to give me a call again. She just said "I can't rn." I replied, "well, later tonight then." No call. Blocked, deleted, adios! I really had nothing to say to her, honestly, it was more of a test to see if she ACTUALLY would take the time to make the call. I'm not surprised she didn't. Edited October 30, 2016 by lakerman34
Shanex Posted October 30, 2016 Posted October 30, 2016 We Skyped multiple times. Real, 19, great body. Yesterday, I sent her a text asking her to give me a call again. She just said "I can't rn." I replied, "well, later tonight then." No call. Blocked, deleted, adios! I really had nothing to say to her, honestly, it was more of a test to see if she ACTUALLY would take the time to make the call. I'm not surprised she didn't. Seems like ''cute girl" was voted off the Island. You took the right decision. Try to find a girl genuinely interested.
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