aileD Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 Just curious. Have any of you ever decided, along with AP, that you would have one final encounter? Meaning you both say it needs to be finished and both decide ahead of time that it will be the last time. How did it turn out? Were you able to stick with it? My husband had like 16 of these with his affair partner. Just made it harder on her when he didn't say yes the last time.
aileD Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 He would say things like 'it just happened' or 'it would be weird if I said no'. He would also say that in his mind he didnt want to, but 'it' just responded, so what could he do? Seriously it actually makes me laugh now. Ok so I saw my husbands emails to his AP saying the same things. That he felt bad for me, I was coming on to him, and "it just happened" but he didn't want it to, it hardly ever does. The reality? Hysterical bonding. (Look it up). We were BOTH all over each other all the time. He initiated and did things we haven't done in years. Hell, the affair probably made us have better sex than we did before. Men lie. Especially when it means getting sex is the result. (Not all men, but a lot innaffairs) 3
MidnightBlue1980 Posted October 30, 2016 Posted October 30, 2016 Ok so I saw my husbands emails to his AP saying the same things. That he felt bad for me, I was coming on to him, and "it just happened" but he didn't want it to, it hardly ever does. The reality? Hysterical bonding. (Look it up). We were BOTH all over each other all the time. He initiated and did things we haven't done in years. Hell, the affair probably made us have better sex than we did before. Men lie. Especially when it means getting sex is the result. (Not all men, but a lot innaffairs) We all lie. Women just lie better. It's been proven. 2
eye of the storm Posted October 30, 2016 Posted October 30, 2016 One last time, then a plane ticket shows up. One last time, then a text to pick him up from the airport. One last time is never the last time.
Grey Cloud Posted October 30, 2016 Posted October 30, 2016 It is quite a mental image, all those wives grinding and bouncing up and down on their reluctant and unwilling husband's "reflex" erection, whilst he looks away and thinks only of his beloved OW. Yeah sure, like that happens... Hahahaha - classic!!! LOVE this! When it's said like this it puts all their excuses totally in perspective!! 2
SammySammy Posted October 30, 2016 Posted October 30, 2016 I've done this twice. Both times in relationships. Once, it was truly the last time. We made love one more time and went our separate ways. Another time, we made love and I moved out the next day. However, she came over to my new place often ... to get what she needed. Until that fizzled out. She was so sweet about it. She would call me and ask "can I come over"? She would come over, we'd take care of those needs, and she would go home. My point is that we can do it one last time with no intent to trick, fool, or manipulate anyone. Sometimes, relationships run their course. Some adults can and will move on when that time comes.
Grey Cloud Posted October 30, 2016 Posted October 30, 2016 He would say things like 'it just happened' or 'it would be weird if I said no'. He would also say that in his mind he didnt want to, but 'it' just responded, so what could he do? Seriously it actually makes me laugh now. My xMM would say the same - "it would be weird if I said no" or "she initiated". The fact of the matter is that he enjoyed a healthy sex life with his wife (with extra cake on the side with me!). 1
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