enchanted771 Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 My boyfriend and I live together. We have kind of hit this bump in the road, and we have been indifferent with each other. For example, usually he doesn't pay his phone any mind, but I noticed this week he window shopping online (Amazon, etc) when I mentioned it to him, he got kind of defensive saying I get jealous of everything (mentioned his friend, nephew, etc). I let it go, because I know he's been stressed more than usual and perhaps this is his way of escaping. Am I making a big deal out of it or do I need to resolve this? He also mentioned I'm not fair, because he doesn't say anything when I get on my phone, text, fb, etc. I only mention this to him because before he gave me his undivided attention and now he will go on his phone lately. It seemed to have Bothered him that I fall asleep when we watch a movie and I fall asleep too so ever since then he started this behavior. Thoughts?
Redhead14 Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 My boyfriend and I live together. We have kind of hit this bump in the road, and we have been indifferent with each other. For example, usually he doesn't pay his phone any mind, but I noticed this week he window shopping online (Amazon, etc) when I mentioned it to him, he got kind of defensive saying I get jealous of everything (mentioned his friend, nephew, etc). I let it go, because I know he's been stressed more than usual and perhaps this is his way of escaping. Am I making a big deal out of it or do I need to resolve this? He also mentioned I'm not fair, because he doesn't say anything when I get on my phone, text, fb, etc. I only mention this to him because before he gave me his undivided attention and now he will go on his phone lately. It seemed to have Bothered him that I fall asleep when we watch a movie and I fall asleep too so ever since then he started this behavior. Thoughts? Is this the guy you started dating in June from online? If so, you are living with him already???? 1
Gaeta Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 How did you ask him about amazon? You said in your last thread that when you get bogged down on something you can be annoying and you don't know how to let it go. Was it another one of your endless nagging?
Toodaloo Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 Seems to me as though there are other issues... He is using examples of when you have been jealous of people that are important to him. I get the feeling he is fed up and doesn't think you get on with his extended circles. He also feels like you are picking on him. I think he is fed up, bored and wanting out. Personally I think he is starting to check out of your relationship. I don't think its going to be long before he says good bye.
Redhead14 Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 I apologize if I've misunderstood . . . if not, the comments below stand. If I understand her thread history correctly, she met this guy online about a year before they reconnected and met in June and were living together in July??? They both have bigger issues to work on . . . like desperation, maturity and learning how to be independent, secure people who don't act on impulse and without insight. 1
Gaeta Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 I apologize if I've misunderstood . . . if not, the comments below stand. If I understand her thread history correctly, she met this guy online about a year before they reconnected and met in June and were living together in July??? They both have bigger issues to work on . . . like desperation, maturity and learning how to be independent, secure people who don't act on impulse and without insight. How can someone move in with a complete stranger after 1 month meeting them. Don't they have family around ready to slap them behind the head? If my daughter wanted to move in with some dude after 1 month meeting, even though she is 29, I'd be hammering some common sense into her head. 1
Redhead14 Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 How can someone move in with a complete stranger after 1 month meeting them. Don't they have family around ready to slap them behind the head? If my daughter wanted to move in with some dude after 1 month meeting, even though she is 29, I'd be hammering some common sense into her head. Don't they have family around ready to slap them behind the head? -- Well, by the time the kids are 29 and doing things like this, I'd say the parents failed to do their job when it was their job. That being said, even if a parent hasn't done a good job of preparing their children for adulthood, once the children are adults, they are responsible for themselves and simply have to learn the hard way. The scary thing is that there are tons of adults on these boards who are clueless . . . 1
Author enchanted771 Posted October 28, 2016 Author Posted October 28, 2016 I apologize if I've misunderstood . . . if not, the comments below stand. If I understand her thread history correctly, she met this guy online about a year before they reconnected and met in June and were living together in July??? They both have bigger issues to work on . . . like desperation, maturity and learning how to be independent, secure people who don't act on impulse and without insight. no this is my ex I believe.
Redhead14 Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 no this is my ex I believe. this is my ex I believe -- I believe? Either it is your ex or the guy you dated in June . . . And, even if it's your ex, it means you're living with him within a few months of the break up which is still a bad idea.
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