Porter56 Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 All right I'm gonna cut right to the point... I come on this message board and see nothing but people going on and on about : "does he like me" "does she like me" "what do I do" ..."what should I say"..."how should I take the next step" and blah blah blah. It's actually very pathetic. It has nothing to do with gender. If it's women, it has something to do with: "does he like me or doesn't he like me" ..."where is this going?" If it's a guy it's "how do I get her to like me" or "how do I tell if she likes me" or "should I ask her out or how do I ask her out?" I am a part of this group...I am a man and I have admittedly had problems asking women out or even getting women attracted to me and have spent so much of my life worrying about it that I have missed out on so many other things. And after reaching my mid 30s I've come to the simple conclusion that worrying about what the opposite sex (or same-sex if that's your preference) thinks about you is a gigantic waste of time. I am tired of my entire self-worth depending on what other people think of me or whether or not they are attracted to me. Why do we spend so much time worried about what we're wearing or how we look or am I funny enough? Am I witty enough or do I have the right personality etc. etc. etc. Unless you are ultra eager to start a family and have kids and have someone to raise then dating and worrying about what the opposite sex thinks of you is a complete waste of time. Do whatever you want, feel whatever you want and go wherever you want and why does it matter what other people think? Quick placing your own self-worth on what other people think of you. Whether you are a man or a woman...you are better than what anybody thinks of you. Do what ever you want and quit worrying about what others think of you. I am tired of my feelings being dependent on what somebody else thinks of me. Aren't you? Unless you are ultra eager to have children...quit dating, quit worrying about what the opposite sex thinks of you and just live your life and try to be happy with that. Quit giving into pressure that other people put on you...to date, to "fall in love"(that isn't real) and to get married. Those things are nothing but traps. Because after all... all this dating...all thes rules of attraction...all of this mating ritual stuff is just an audition for someone to hold your hand while you die when you're old. And who really wants to be old anyway so who cares about all that. OK now let's hear all the people who disagree with me because I know everyone does...
MsJayne Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 I don't disagree with you. I actually think you're quite funny, not sure whether you mean to be. You sound like you're having a bad day.
Author Porter56 Posted October 28, 2016 Author Posted October 28, 2016 I do try to be humorous in my posts so thank you. As far as a bad day? No...I'm having a bad life....
SammySammy Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 I can see both sides. I do agree that too many people spend too much time worrying about what others think. Trying to fit in and be "normal". I think it would be helpful if many of us could reclaim our individuality. Be unapologetically genuine. I think that's attractive too. However, when it comes to dating (or anything else), there are certain things that work. Certain things that don't. While I think we should embrace our individuality, there little sadder than a person who claims to want a relationship and continually does things that don't work. A person going the wrong way and won't turn around. Won't go in the direction necessary to reach their goals. Being an individual, secure, and confident is important. We just don't want to be rigid, inflexible, or incapable of learning or applying knowledge that might help us reach our goals. 1
Recommended Posts