How long into casual dating to talk about something serious?

[CasualDude10]

So I am a male, and I was just wondering how long into dating someone casually do you guys usually take until you talk about where the relationship is headed or ask the woman to be something official?

 

Also, do you usually let the woman bring up the topic or should the man bring it up?

[MsJayne]

Maybe after a month or so, assuming neither of you have been seeing anyone else. I think most women wait for the guy to bring it up, I certainly do, I would never ask a guy if he wanted to be exclusive. If he hasn't mentioned it within two or three weeks of dating I assume he's not that interested and start fading him.

[Gaeta]

Men that were serious about dating me usually brought up dating exclusively after 4-5 dates or within a month.

 

Yes most women will wait for the man to bring up dating exclusively. With my current BF I was the one who brought it up after 5 dates.

[elaine567]

Well it depends what you really mean by "dating someone casually".

A casual relationship is sometimes referred to as a "no strings attached" relationship, so why would it ever progress to a real official "relationship".

The whole purpose of casual dating is NOT to form a proper relationship, surely?

[dojob1234]

Don't really have a 'time'. It all depend on both party...

 

I do get together with my ex in less than an hour after knowing one another... I do also get together with my ex in more than 3-4 months. And surprising, the one whom I knew less than an hour, last longer than the one whom I know more than 3-4 months...

 

So well, it all really depend on oneself...

[Redhead14]

You do it when you are feeling "serious" about the relationship. But, you weigh your emotions against the logic of the situation. In other words, if you're feeling like you want a serious relationship with the person and it's only been a week, you need to step back and figure out if you're feeling that way because of the excitement and the newness of the situation or if you really know enough about the person to make a logical and emotionally balanced decision.

 

Most women prefer it if the man does it. And, if you've been sleeping together, it's best to do it fairly soon otherwise the woman will be wondering if the guy is just in it for sex. If you want to be serious with the woman, you need to actually BE serious. Know what you want out of your dating journey and what the dating partner wants for themselves. If you want a long-term, committed relationship with someone and the other person doesn't, you aren't on the same page to begin with. So this is something that needs to be addressed fairly early on. Make sure your overall dating goals are in synch. If that's been addressed and you're feeling like this one is one you want to explore that possibility with, then you broach the subject. Dating is a process of evaluating a dating partner. Each step along the way is a new stage of that process. You both need to be in that evaluation process for a long time and really focused on the goal and each other.

[Larryville]

how long into dating someone casually do you guys usually take until you talk about where the relationship is headed or ask the woman to be something official?

 

You do it when you are feeling "serious" about the relationship.

 

In the OLD search process, I see someone’s profile, the information contained in the profile catches my attention I say to myself if we meet in person and the right buttons are pushed the pursuit begins and with my actions I make it clear to her about the “seriousness” about the relationship.

 

I have a pretty good sense if she sees the relationship as “serious.”

 

I know within minutes upon meeting whether or not I’m all in let’s just say.

 

I know we are all different and some women in particular want or need more verbal reassurance and if they want that no problem. however if you are bumbling and stumbling constantly wondering and being wishy washy about what you want the interest will quickly fade thereby you are just wasting each other’s time.

 

Actions dictate the seriousness of the situation/relationship. Reading people is the key and understanding your own needs and wants is important too.

[Miss Peach]

Men have typically brought it up to me between 1-3 months. The earliest was 3 dates. I usually leave if it's not been addressed within 3 months. I have a policy of not chasing men so I wait for them to bring it up.

 

FWIW, I've found men are typically sure faster than women. A man typically sees a woman as attractive right away. Within a few conversations he can categorize her into a plaything or GF material. Women might really like a guy but usually want to see if the guy gets to know her, how he interacts with people, what type of man he is, etc. These things that take a little longer to gauge. So if it's within a few dates I would hold back a little time-wise to bring it up to allow her to catch up. I've usually know around 10ish dates with men whether I want to give it a try.

[Mr. Lucky]

In the OLD search process, I see someone’s profile, the information contained in the profile catches my attention I say to myself if we meet in person and the right buttons are pushed the pursuit begins and with my actions I make it clear to her about the “seriousness” about the relationship.

 

I have a pretty good sense if she sees the relationship as “serious.”

 

I know within minutes upon meeting whether or not I’m all in let’s just say.

 

Can't tell if you're kidding or not. I hope you're exaggerating to make a point...

 

Mr. Lucky

[compulsivedancer]

When my boyfriend and I decided to ditch condoms, I said that we would need to be exclusive, and he agreed. A few weeks later, we discussed whether we were "boyfriend and girlfriend." I brought up both of these, but it was pretty clear that we were on the same page. We just clicked from day 1.