Sara1989 Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 Just wanted some opinions. Guy asked me out on second date, stayed in contact with texts. I text to confirm date and he tells me due having pay for new tyre on his car, he cannot afford dinner but we can still meet for drinks/pool and we can have dinner next time. I just find this strange, he texted me earlier that day saying the tyre cost him 50 quid. On first day he was basically boasting about how much money he had and savings yet he cannot dip into his savings to go out for dinner or he is that broke after just 50 pound spend? I feel like he bit meh about me, does not want pay out for dinner? I have to pay for sitter that going cost me 25quid so I dont really want go out on this date if warning signs are there. Do you think I am overthinking this? my gut is telling me something not right and usually it is right! lol
PaperCrane Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 He's probably saved so much by sticking to a strict budget, as many people who are rich do, and going to dinner would put him over. If it's only the second date, I wouldn't be breaking my own rules quite yet. Could be a lot of things, but he's not cancelling plans, simply changing them. If you're not into him enough to spend time with him and break it down into a money thing already, I'd advise looking at the dynamic in dating you're looking for. 2
IfonlyIknew Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 Your gut is screaming at you. I agree this is a warning. Interest will pull heaven and earth together to make things happen. If he is hinting for you to pay for dinner, then expect that going forward that he will not be picking up the tab every time. 1
smackie9 Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 He's a money miser.....if he has to explain in detail his money issues and crap, I would just bail. like, good lord does this guy have any dignity?? If he was really into you he would have bent the rules a little bit and dug up the extra change, or went with a cheaper restaurant. But to have to go through all that explanation....that's a warning.....it's turning you off? It's turning me off too. I'm like you. I like a man that tries to make a good first impression. I don't expect steak and lobster......but come on, stick with the plan and be creative. 4
Author Sara1989 Posted October 27, 2016 Author Posted October 27, 2016 We are texting and he is now saying it wasnt 50 but 480 for 4 new tyres. Find hard believe tyres are that expensive and how go from one tyre to four? He is picking me up 2mor, now not sure if I should go? he could be being geniune...
ThisisIt606 Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 he seems cheap and unreative to me. I also think is a warning sign he went into such detail about the money... on one hand he could have just wanted you to see he wasn't making up some bogus excuse... but you can always search onligjt for cheaper restaurants. I think if he was really into you he'd bite the bullet, this is only date 2. I think it's good that this came up now. You can ask yourself questions such as how do you handle money? Do you think your views on money differ greatly and would affect things in the future? Good to think about this now as money can cause trouble for many couples
smackie9 Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 Actually I spent 1200 bucks on tires for my truck. I wish all four were 480 lol. Yes tires can be that expensive...depending on their rating. As for his story changing.....ya I would be a little suspicious.
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