BLF04 Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 2 months into 2nd break up w/ my ex gf. 1st time we broke up 3 yrs ago after 8 months of dating. we dumped our gf/bf to get back together. we then dated for 2 yrs, it was never quite the same but still loved each other (we were also in college the 2nd time around). the story goes... 2 months after we broke up w/ our gf/bf to get back together i told her i had slept w/ my ex gf a week after i broke up w/ her (i was still single). she claims she could never get over that in 2 years into our 2nd chance, it always bothered her. the thing is, that never happened. i told her that bc i was still angry over the fact that she dumped me previously. i talked to my ex gf (the one i want back) 3 days ago. and for the first time since the breakup we talked about how we're still not over each other but think our past might be too beat up for it to ever work again. i would love for us to work again. shes now dating someone else. but still has feelings for me. do i tell her that the whole sleeping w/ my ex never happened? will this change the way she looks at me or by telling her will i only look like a bigger liar? what do u think of the whole situation, could we ever work again?
RecordProducer Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 Yes, you should definitely tell her. She will be relieved in any case. You're not a complete liar if you admit you lied. But don't put it in a way that will make her think you're saying that just to earn another chance with her? Because she might not believe you in that case. I believe that as long as both partners have feelings for each other there is space for re-building things. I don't see why she would be so upset about you sleeping with someone after you broke up with her, especially if she was the one who broke the relationship off. It "happened" two years ago after all.
FallinAngel Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 I agree with RecordProducer, if you do tell her make sure it's in a way that doesn't sound like you want her back. Do you think that would change the way she looks at you?
fundamental Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 I also agree with RecordProducer. However, even if you tell her in a way she might understand, she still may not know what to believe. So, you have nothing to lose.
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