Lena91 Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 I started dating this guy who is about 8 years older than me a couple of months ago. There was an attraction between us prior to him asking me out. At first he was full on lovey-dovey with me and said all the right things. Apart from the fact that on the first week of knowing him, he sent me a picture of his 'private part' and I never asked him to. That same week he would sext me a few times. The first couple of times he was sexual and wanted to go down on me but I refused. He would want to drive me anywhere, take me out etc. A week later he changed completely. He told me how he wants to marry me and how we shouldn't do anything that I don't want to. He stopped saying anything sexual and he doesn't want us to meet in areas where we might be tempted to do something we would both regret. It's to the extent that if he types 'I would love to carry you and hug you all day', he would follow that up with ' I mean it in the I miss you sense and not sexual at all'. He also said that he would like to be with me for the rest of my life and if he was looking for a fling and to just sleep around he wouldn't have bothered with me and would have just found someone else. Why did he suddenly change? He was full blown sexual and attracted at first and now this? :eek: At first I thought he was a player and wanted to break up with him,but now I don't know anymore.
mikeylo Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 In first week he sent you the picture of his dick. What is the question again ? 12
IfonlyIknew Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 Ok my first reaction to this is being that he's 8 years older, it may be the case of "an old mans darling vs a young mans slave" he may have come off strong as he would normally, but by you not reciprocating that back to him places a higher value on you, you're not rushing and he sees that so now he is mirroring you.
gorf Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 we shouldn't do anything that I don't want to. He stopped saying anything sexual He also said that he would like to be with me for the rest of my life and if he was looking for a fling and to just sleep around he wouldn't have bothered with me and would have just found someone else Maybe he just sees you as a good catch and means what he says? He wants more than a sexual thing with you and wants you to know it
stillafool Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 Ok my first reaction to this is being that he's 8 years older, it may be the case of "an old mans darling vs a young mans slave" he may have come off strong as he would normally, but by you not reciprocating that back to him places a higher value on you, you're not rushing and he sees that so now he is mirroring you. I hardly think 8 years older is an "old man". It isn't that big of an age difference.
IfonlyIknew Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 Not literally an old man but 8 years is enough to treat a younger woman differently than he would a woman his age.
smackie9 Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 A pro???? hardly.....Typical sexual advances, attentiveness, telling what you want to hear, love bombing......see right through it. Like I always say.....if it doesn't feel right, then it's not! Follow your gut instinct, not your desire to have a man. 2
Zahara Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 The first couple of times he was sexual and wanted to go down on me but I refused. He would want to drive me anywhere, take me out etc. A week later he changed completely. He told me how he wants to marry me and how we shouldn't do anything that I don't want to. He stopped saying anything sexual and he doesn't want us to meet in areas where we might be tempted to do something we would both regret. Couldn't get the sex by being forward so he has a different plan. Love bomb you and feed you words that he thinks every woman wants to hear and get you to think he's sincere and looking out for you -- marry me . Maybe that will get you to trust him and open up. He'll get the goodies and that will be about it. 1
olivetree Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 Agree with others. He has simply changed his tactic to get into your pants. 3
Toodaloo Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 Prize pillock and not quite pro. A pro player would have had your knickers off by now. This guy? He is just an idiot with more blood in his groin than his head... Just get rid. He is feeding you crap.
Sunkissedpatio Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 Not sure what your role in all this was but what you described makes him sound creepy. He wanted sex got shot down, is now love bombing you telling you what you want to hear to get that sex. Eww sent you dick pic in first week? Byyyyye! Unless you're into that kind of thing with a stranger....then I suppose, hi. 2
stillafool Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 He's only interested in sex - anyway he can get it.
Larryville Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 the first week of knowing him, he sent me a picture of his 'private part' and I never asked him to. You know a good majority of profiles on OLD sites by women complain about this and I almost always wonder is this a joke? No mentally stable dude would really do that and if they did NO woman would EVER respond and take him seriously. Clearly I was wrong.
Redhead14 Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 I started dating this guy who is about 8 years older than me a couple of months ago. There was an attraction between us prior to him asking me out. At first he was full on lovey-dovey with me and said all the right things. Apart from the fact that on the first week of knowing him, he sent me a picture of his 'private part' and I never asked him to. That same week he would sext me a few times. The first couple of times he was sexual and wanted to go down on me but I refused. He would want to drive me anywhere, take me out etc. A week later he changed completely. He told me how he wants to marry me and how we shouldn't do anything that I don't want to. He stopped saying anything sexual and he doesn't want us to meet in areas where we might be tempted to do something we would both regret. It's to the extent that if he types 'I would love to carry you and hug you all day', he would follow that up with ' I mean it in the I miss you sense and not sexual at all'. He also said that he would like to be with me for the rest of my life and if he was looking for a fling and to just sleep around he wouldn't have bothered with me and would have just found someone else. Why did he suddenly change? He was full blown sexual and attracted at first and now this? :eek: At first I thought he was a player and wanted to break up with him,but now I don't know anymore. The guy got one on the hook by sending her a picture of his pecker. He's pretty patient, I'd say, because most women would not entertain meeting with him after being a pervert unless she was into sex with strangers and perverts. So, he tried to get sex right away, it didn't happen. He knows what a woman is likely looking for before she'll have sex with a man, so he's playing that card and you. So, since he's been able to keep your attention for a couple of months now, he's not going to let this go until he gets what he wants. And, when he does, he will either disappear or continue to use you by telling you what you want to hear and string you along until another one bites on his pecker picture. I think you are pretty lucky so far because he didn't force himself on you. Go no contact immediately. Block him and delete his number. No need for conversation, just do it. You don't owe him anything. And, in the future, be a little more discerning and have higher standards for what you will accept from a man you are considering dating. 1
Sunkissedpatio Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 You know a good majority of profiles on OLD sites by women complain about this and I almost always wonder is this a joke Oh it's no urban tale. I've had the "pleasure" of getting three dick-pics in one month of OLD. And it's not even Tinder! And I'm not posing sexually in any of my pics. Can't imagine what those profiles with suggestive photos get to see...
Toodaloo Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 You know a good majority of profiles on OLD sites by women complain about this and I almost always wonder is this a joke? No mentally stable dude would really do that and if they did NO woman would EVER respond and take him seriously. Clearly I was wrong. Sadly you are, and there are many men who do this. In the last two years I have seen more male privates than I have in my entire life... And that life was not celibate and includes porn movies... Words to look for are "babe", "hon", "sweetie" etc... If they use those quickly chances are you will see his penis before his face. The "hey" messages are also likely to send you their danglings to try and impress. Its a learning curve. But you learn as you go... Worst bit is that some women actually like them... Thats why they send them. They think its a positive thing to do. I confess one guy did send me quite a good little movie he made of himself that I used as porn for a while... What can I say I was gagging at the time and needed some fresh material in my brain! Thankfully it was after we had been chatting for quite some time and I actually requested that one, he did have a pretty penis too... But the others just... nah... 2
Miss Spider Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 Sadly you are, and there are many men who do this. In the last two years I have seen more male privates than I have in my entire life... And that life was not celibate and includes porn movies... Words to look for are "babe", "hon", "sweetie" etc... If they use those quickly chances are you will see his penis before his face. The "hey" messages are also likely to send you their danglings to try and impress. Its a learning curve. But you learn as you go... Worst bit is that some women actually like them... Thats why they send them. They think its a positive thing to do. I confess one guy did send me quite a good little movie he made of himself that I used as porn for a while... What can I say I was gagging at the time and needed some fresh material in my brain! Thankfully it was after we had been chatting for quite some time and I actually requested that one, he did have a pretty penis too... But the others just... nahQUOTE] Hahaha
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