BluesPower Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 I just think that you two are such a great testimony for what can happen, even as hard as it was. I wish my wife could understand some of this. Alas, I am thinking she will never get to the point of understanding what he addiction and other behaviors have done to me.
William Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 Folks, if you're not a wayward spouse, or unmarried wayward, who ended their affair without a discovery or disclosure event, this isn't the thread for you. There are literally thousands of threads on affairs, and marriages/relationships, to add content to so please go find them and discuss to your heart's content. Thanks!
Betrayed&Stayed Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 Question for those of you in A, who are a WS that ended their A without a DDAY: Was it a gradual end? If so why did you let it drag on? Did you one day just decide to end it? If so what was that final push to end it? AP states he can't live double life, yet wont end it either. (no comments on this thanks, just answers to questions above) My WS ended her A without a D-Day. Once she started her affair she quickly became distant and cold towards me. As the months passed the affair intensified while the tension between us also increased. 3 months into the affair I was fed up with how she was treating me. I didn't even know about the affair when I gave her an ultimatum of sorts: "I don't know what is going on with you, but when I return from my (business) trip, this better be taken care of." At that time I was pondering divorce solely on how she was acting during her affair. At that point she realized how everything was spinning out of control so she ended the affair. She couldn't continue to live the double-life and she saw me about to make my exit from the marriage.
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