yellowrose Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 Oh man. This girl just does not have a clue. It's bad enough that my boyfriend's best friend is having a fling with her, but now she's googly-eyed and touchy feely with my guy. -Right in front of me. She has no shame. Pulling on his arm, asking him to take her places, rushing to his side the second my back is turned. I'm not the least bit worried about him. He's a loyal guy and so far has responded in all the right ways. But she is just not backing off. At this point I feel insulted that she's coming on so heavily when I'm standing right there! I mean, there have been times where he's had his arm around me, kissing me on the cheek or whatever and she'll be trying to pull him away. What GIVES?! So I need to have an eye-locking "come to Jesus meeting" with her. What do I say? It needs to be solid, to-the-point, deathly serious, and confident. No dramatics, no bitchiness. I want her to know that I am abundantly clear on her motives and that neither of us welcome them. Ideas?
Merin Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 Have you talked to your BF about this? Honestly the best person to put a stop to her being touchy/feely with your Guy is him.. Although I did like the "Come to Jesus meeting" idea dunno it just made me giggle! Your BF needs to let this Girl know he isn't good to go with her behaviour.
Author yellowrose Posted July 11, 2005 Author Posted July 11, 2005 When she was pulling on his arm this weekend he turned and said, "I do not want to go with you. I'm happy right here." and put his hand on my leg. Didn't stop her at all. GRR! At this point I'm feeling territorial. It's just disrespectful. The man and I have talked about it. He feels the same way and he does shun her advances, but it doesn't detour her. So now I feel the need to give her a hard look and say something along the lines of, "Hon? This needs to stop. I don't think we need to have any more discussion on the topic as we both know what's going on. I assume I've made myself abundantly clear."
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 The best way is to have your boyfriend call her out on it. Anything less is going to have little or no affect. Have him refuse to let her touch him like she has cooties or something - if she touches him, he should shrug his arm away in disgust in front of as many people you know as possible for max. humiliation. Play it like its a joke and funny (if you don't want to piss her off), but make no mistake about the fact that her touch repulses him. If she kisses his cheek, he should wipe it away like its battery acid and say "gross, what is your problem, woman?!" Basically, treat her like toxic waste in front of your friends. He should pointedly and unambiguously say "do not get within five feet of me, please." That would be greatly affective. Your boyfriend would have to be down with that though.
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 Originally posted by yellowrose When she was pulling on his arm this weekend he turned and said, "I do not want to go with you. I'm happy right here." and put his hand on my leg. And she didn't get the hint?!? He needs to tell her "no way". Or you need to threaten to dispatch her to meet Jesus immediately
EC Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 I would, the next time she grabbed his arm to pull him away 'gently' remove her hand from on top of his and say 'lets keep are hands to ourselves.'
Merin Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 Originally posted by EC 'gently' remove her hand Who you kidding? Beeotch slap her upside her head! JK JK JK
Merin Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 Originally posted by EC lol insert "bunny fingers" before and after gently! Gentle, Gentle LMAO
Opium Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 So I need to have an eye-locking "come to Jesus meeting" with her. What do I say? It needs to be solid, to-the-point, deathly serious, and confident. No dramatics, no bitchiness. I want her to know that I am abundantly clear on her motives and that neither of us welcome them. Ideas? Of course all of this said with a nice/strong tone in your voice you simply say: "I'm addressing you from woman to woman and this is something that I would like you to take into account. I would really like for you to change your behavior around my bf, If you have not noticed by now, X is MY Bf and I would greatly appreciate it if you'd keep you scrony little hands off him because if not, my little hands will be all over you. Thank you so much for taking the time to listen. I'm glad we can handle this like adults." Then punch the bytch in the mouth if she gets smart or crazy on you!! And I would consider stepping away from her or try not to socialize where she goes, Jesus can't help you with this one, only the force within you can
Author yellowrose Posted July 11, 2005 Author Posted July 11, 2005 I should mention that while my bf is extremely loyal and made all the right moves with respect to this girl, he *is* very shy and non-confrontational. I honestly do not see him beefing up to her, but only being mildly rude in order to brush her off. For that reason I don't think that he'll be the one to step up and really confront her. Me, on the other hand... I do not have a problem in the world with saying something. But I don't want to a) Seem like I'm talking for him because I don't trust him to or emasculate him in any way. b) Come off as insecure or childish c) Encourage her with an appearance of being threatened. I just want the blatant disrespect of my relationship to stop. That tramp! OH--- and did I mention that she's screwing around with another guy who's girlfriend is out of town? Ooooh! I HATE women who think that it's ok to do that. -Not that the guy is a saint, but she obviously has no respect for the idea of a committed relationship.
J dub Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 If you show any cattiness towards her, she'll take that as fuel to her fire because she'll know you are disturbed by her. Your b/f needs to say something. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, wouldnt he want to put a stop to it?
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