minosdgrifo Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 I am M27 & she is F24 So I met this girl at the end of august through tinder app. We were texting eachother for like 4 weeks (she was the one starting the conversations at first) almost non stop, then we agreed to go on a first date (it took us time since she has very busy and had to cancel our plans a few times before). Our first date went pretty well, we discussed a lot of stuff, laugh and smiled at eachother, I could feel the magic, at the end of the date I kissed her and she kissed me back. We had a lot in common. Then we went straight for one more month texting, she would always answer my texts, sending a lot of pictures (selfies or what was she doing), emojis and even a couple "I love you" and putting status of love with my initials (maybe I am wrong about my initials and were someone else's). one day I told her that I liked her a lot and I wanted to tell that to her but since she was so busy I had to text her that (maybe i screwed up), her answer was that we should go easy because she is afraid of falling in love (she told me about some failed relationships, maybe thats why) and every time she felt something was going a serios way she would disapear because of that fear. We keep the texting going but she was a little bit cold, still calling me baby and stuff, but no more "I love you". A month after our date we went on a second date. That said day I felt her a little distant on her texts and on the date itself, everithing went pretty fine as in the first date except that I felt her distant still, talking, laughing, smiling and some phisical contact, but still there was something. I didn't went for a kiss as I was afraid of her turning away so I went for a hug. I texted her to text me back when she were home and she did, I gave her the good night and that was it. (that day there was no baby, darling nor such things). I used to text her some times in the mornig, you know, nice things to cheer her day up and she would text back even wanting to keep the conversation going. So I did it two days after as we didn't talked since our date, but this time she didn't ever read my message to this day. I am planning on texte her on the weekend to clear things up but I don't think she will answer. So I am confused. Did she lost interest? or is she fading away because she felt the things were going serious as she said she would? I am sorry for my bad english, poor language and any grammatical mistake as it is not my mother tongue.
Kelley Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 It sounds like she has had a change of heart and is no longer interested. You could think for days what you said/did that changed her mind but you will never know. Dates don't always lead to a relationship, that's the whole point of dating. I wouldn't contact her again and just move on.
Author minosdgrifo Posted October 26, 2016 Author Posted October 26, 2016 I felt a strong connection, and I am not the kind of guy going on dates frecuently, in fact I gave myself this oportunity after 10 years of acting cold heart and no falling for anyone. But I guess you are right and I need to move on.
TheFinalWord Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 I am M27 & she is F24 So I met this girl at the end of august through tinder app. We were texting eachother for like 4 weeks (she was the one starting the conversations at first) almost non stop, then we agreed to go on a first date (it took us time since she has very busy and had to cancel our plans a few times before). Our first date went pretty well, we discussed a lot of stuff, laugh and smiled at eachother, I could feel the magic, at the end of the date I kissed her and she kissed me back. We had a lot in common. Then we went straight for one more month texting, she would always answer my texts, sending a lot of pictures (selfies or what was she doing), emojis and even a couple "I love you" and putting status of love with my initials (maybe I am wrong about my initials and were someone else's). one day I told her that I liked her a lot and I wanted to tell that to her but since she was so busy I had to text her that (maybe i screwed up), her answer was that we should go easy because she is afraid of falling in love (she told me about some failed relationships, maybe thats why) and every time she felt something was going a serios way she would disapear because of that fear. We keep the texting going but she was a little bit cold, still calling me baby and stuff, but no more "I love you". A month after our date we went on a second date. That said day I felt her a little distant on her texts and on the date itself, everithing went pretty fine as in the first date except that I felt her distant still, talking, laughing, smiling and some phisical contact, but still there was something. I didn't went for a kiss as I was afraid of her turning away so I went for a hug. I texted her to text me back when she were home and she did, I gave her the good night and that was it. (that day there was no baby, darling nor such things). I used to text her some times in the mornig, you know, nice things to cheer her day up and she would text back even wanting to keep the conversation going. So I did it two days after as we didn't talked since our date, but this time she didn't ever read my message to this day. I am planning on texte her on the weekend to clear things up but I don't think she will answer. So I am confused. Did she lost interest? or is she fading away because she felt the things were going serious as she said she would? I am sorry for my bad english, poor language and any grammatical mistake as it is not my mother tongue. She's 24. Sounds like she crushed on you, and then peaked the interest of some other guy. Girls this age will come on strong and then back off. Learn to be a little harder to contact. Like you, she wants to work for it a little. Don't opine your feelings over text this early. Save it for dates.
smackie9 Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 Hot and cold people are cray cray because of their insecurities.......you run away as fast as you can...you cannot fix. Also ditch people that love bomb, and throw themselves at you.....this is a big red flag. The min they tell you to slow down or they are afraid, or had bad luck with relationships....this is a blow off or a warning to get out of the NOW.
freebird31 Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 I think it is weird that she said I love you to you in such a short amount of time. That, in itself tells a lot about her. She just throws that word around easily to anyone. The impression I'm getting from the details you described is that she might be seeing other people aside from you. I am also 24 y/o and I don't agree with the said above that we want to work a little harder. Or want you to play hard to get. I hate games and if I were in your position I would just be straight forward and ask her directly about this if it bothers you. Although she might just give you a lame excuse and make something up.
Author minosdgrifo Posted October 26, 2016 Author Posted October 26, 2016 I think it is weird that she said I love you to you in such a short amount of time. That, in itself tells a lot about her. She just throws that word around easily to anyone. The impression I'm getting from the details you described is that she might be seeing other people aside from you. I am also 24 y/o and I don't agree with the said above that we want to work a little harder. Or want you to play hard to get. I hate games and if I were in your position I would just be straight forward and ask her directly about this if it bothers you. Although she might just give you a lame excuse and make something up. After thinking about it a lot, I will talk to her one more time, not to try and fix anything or to get her atention back, she did a lot for me and helped me through hard times, and I will just let her know I am grateful and not going to make a big deal out of the situation, wish her luck and happiness. thought I was sure but turns out I am not. What would you say if you were in her position?
smackie9 Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 I wouldn't know because I don't play emotional games like that.
Author minosdgrifo Posted October 26, 2016 Author Posted October 26, 2016 I wouldn't know because I don't play emotional games like that. you mean her games or that what i want to do is playing with her emotions? If you mean the second then I will just let her alone since that is not my intention.
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