poindimie Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 Hi all, I've been dating this guy for over a month now, and have been on 5/6 dates in total. We haven't been sexually active yet, but we have kissed on every date (which his freind says he doesnt usually do, as he has huge commitment issues, plus he is a pretty moral guy which seems to be rare, and very attractive quality) and appear to get along well. We have talked on and off through the week, every time using his freinds phone as he hasn't bought credit. We went on another date on Friday night which seemed to go really well, he grabbed my hand a few times (a new occurence) and the kiss at the end of the night was more affectionate than the ones in previous dates. I texted afterwards and there was no response, which does not worry me as it was mainly a courtesy "thankyou for a fun time" text and he had no credit. I then texted on Sunday asking how he was going and if he wanted to catch up that night, monday or tuesday. Well there was still no response by monday night, so I decided to call to see what the go was (had the assumption I had been played by someone, yet again). Rang his mobile - no answer. Then rang his home phone, which he answered. Turns out he was really quite sick and in bed which I got him out of (which made me feel very bad), so I didn't have a long conversation with him but he mentioned he would ring me on wednesday about going out that night. The thing is, by not answering back, is he suggesting he is just interested as freinds or wants me to back off? I mean, if he texted me I would answer when I could, lest he think I am not interested on a relationship-y level. I really don't want to appear clingy or needy (which is probably what it looks like) as he apparently has issues and I want to respect that. Or am I being neurotic? I recently came out of a bad relationship where if I didn't recieve a return call it meant he was having sex with, or dating someone else as well, and was subtly (LOL) suggesting he wanted to take it down a peg. I have big issues with that now as I believe he was using me, and as he was my first proper partner I ignorantly obliged and went through it again and again like a yo-yo. So maybe the emotional baggage has been recovered from the plane wreck that was my last relationship and put on board this new plane, to put it as an analogy. What do you think? I know he mentioned calling me on wednesday, but I just can't shake this nagging, ominous feeling ....
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 Is it possible that he didn't get the text message? Some plans aren't set up for text messaging, and I've even known some people who aren't savvy enough with their phone to know how to retrieve text messages.
Author poindimie Posted July 11, 2005 Author Posted July 11, 2005 I dont think its that, as we usually communicate a lot through sms's...just a quesiton on the side out of curiosity, how big is texting over there in the US?
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 I think kids and young adults are into it more so that anyone over 30.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Originally posted by poindimie The thing is, by not answering back, is he suggesting he is just interested as freinds or wants me to back off? I mean, if he texted me I would answer when I could, lest he think I am not interested on a relationship-y level. If he is sick then he may not want to deal with talking on the phone or texting. You have only gone out on 4 or 5 dates. I would at least text the person back and let them know I was sick. Draw your own conclusion it's either he is sick and doesn't want to deal with you or he is sending you a message. Both are not good signs
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