cheonsa Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 (edited) I met my boyfriend from online dating, two weeks later we met up and found a "click". I'm not an active woman who likes to talk alot and he likes to talk alot. He is so persuasive, sweet and caring. Now we've been dating for 6 months, and i feel he changed so much. Didn't respond to my texts and doesn't have time to me anymore. Everything changed since two months ago the disaster that I made start to ruin this whole things. That day we didn't meet for two weeks because I was busy with my family and he was with friends. So I wanna give him surprise to came at his appartment. I knocked the door and even call his whatsapp he texted me "wait taking shseower", so i waited. After 15min he didn't open the door so I knocked it again, still not open it. And after one hour I think its weird, usually he will open the door right away. So I called him again and he was in shock that I already there for an hour. He mad at me because usually I text him so he can know I was there, but not that day I was angry to myself too, how can I be so stupid. And I felt so guilty and I was try to be funny to made it better but it was only make it worse, he call me crazy. That night he had to hang out with his friends and I misunderstood about the place that he mentioned. I asked him if I can go with him, and he said no. But I insisted to come and he said about the actual place I retread because that so far. After that he changed. I send him flower with apologizes card because I went to out of town. I think everything will be back to be fine. But after that he started to cancel our date, he doesn't have time to me anymore. One time we met after he cancel the date, I wanted to talk about whats actually happen, but I was to happy to see him again, so forgot to discuss about it with him. and he looked so happy to see me. I asked him once with text about what happened, he said his new job make him so low. And when he had a full week break from work, I asked him to meet and he said he need more time alone, but promise to meet me. But he broke the promise again. I always the one who ask to meet and he always break the promises and cancel it. And yes I nagged at him. When he had problems with works i always send him support messages. But he started to ignore my texts. I tried to stop texting him for 3days, he didn't text me back neither. Last monday he got problem with work because his shi*ty friend came to his work and he got problem because of that. I was trying to give him support, encourage him. But he ignore my texts, he didn't read it even he was online. Because of this things I start to open the online date that made me n him together, and I saw he unmatch me already. He used to be the one who ask me to always spend time with him. He used to text me all day with all those lovely texts. I used to be independent woman, thats what he like about me. But now? He made me looks like a needy, clingy, desperate and insecure. I wanna talk to him about this face to face so I can see his response, but he declined to meet because busy, and prefer to talk over the phone. I tried to ask his friends about it but they didn't want to get involved. I'm so helpless. I really love him, deeply. It's been 3 years since I finally can love someone again. I don't want to lose him. What can I do to make it works? Do you guys think it will be okay if I talk about it over phone with him? Do I still have a chance? Did I push him further with those needy and clingy behavior? does he thinks I'm crazy? Edited October 26, 2016 by cheonsa
smackie9 Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 You are not crazy.......sorry but he is avoiding telling you that it's over. I have a gut feeling he didn't open the door for a reason.....it's just a feeling but I think there was someone with him. I went through the same thing when my ex cheated on me. 2
Author cheonsa Posted October 26, 2016 Author Posted October 26, 2016 You are not crazy.......sorry but he is avoiding telling you that it's over. I have a gut feeling he didn't open the door for a reason.....it's just a feeling but I think there was someone with him. I went through the same thing when my ex cheated on me. no he was alone, because after he open the door we had argument there.. he just really didn't know that I was waiting in his door.. I guess you right maybe it's over (?) but how can he leave me hanging like this..
smackie9 Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 Don't ask why here, just go see him and confront him. Ask him if he want to break up because he isn't treating you like a GF anymore. Pretty simple.
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