Zuur Posted October 25, 2016 Posted October 25, 2016 Hello, Thanks for reading and giving your honest opinion about below story, and sorry for the lenght, this venting thing helps me a lot! 05-2014 I (29 male) met the most wonderfull woman (35) in a nightclub in Newcastle may 2014. She had the most wonderfull vibe to her, to me she was the most wonderfull woman on the planet. We flirted, she bumped into me outside on purpose, we kissed, i had to push away a bouncer and i asked her number. I fell in love head over heels than and there. 06-2014 Since that moment we started texting, she had major surgery done, after recovering she visited me in Holland (she is from Ireland, i'm dutch). We had a great time, one evening drinking and chatting with a very good friend of mine and his long distance girlfriend, she went back after 3 days, i was gutted. 08-2014 We started texting and calling hours on end day in day out. She wanted to visit me again, which was fine by me, i wanted to visit her aswell but somehow we agreed upon her visiting me again (august 2014). We had a very nice weekend at my place and did some sightseeing. She went home and everything was great. The day after she called me during evening hours, and said that she wanted to stop seeing me, that she had only 1 year left before her uterus would be removed and she wanted to try and find someone closer by home and try and get pregnant. I was destroyed, didn't see it coming, for all i knew: she was the one, i absolutely adored her, like i never adored a woman before, was looking for jobs in Ireland ( wich i would have 0 problems getting with my background and education) She offered to be friends and she even offered that i visited her as friends. I said: " friends with benefits ? , she said oooh u cheeky one smiley smiley. I than awnsered that i would never agree to such thing and that I wished her a nice life. I was absolutely furious, gutted but most of all destroyed mentally. I started NC than and there, broken occasionally by either me or her, asking eachother how we were doing. After a couple of months she said she was done ( I might have brought up that i wanted her back one time to many) and she blocked me on facebook and whattsapp. Facebook i didnt use, except from the messenger. 12-2014 I called her (once) on newyearseve 2014 , she didn't take the call, nor did she call me back. 11-2015 A couple of months later i texted her with another mobile phone, she said she wanted me to stop contacting her, wich i did, again being gutted. This was november 2015. I felt something weird was going on but didn't know what, neither did i feel that it was my business anymore, i was sad but respected her wish. Last week (oct-2016) I was listening music online, and BAM her favourite song started playing on youtube, this song is not top 40 or mainstream, was not part of the channel or playlist i was listening too and i had not listened to that song in 2 years. This song triggered me super hard, memories came back, and i decided to check her number in whatsapp, to my surprise i was no longer blocked, could see her picture, status and last seen. Seeing her picture was too much, i decided to contact her through another facebook messenger account. I made her guess who i was first she said: "a stalker" and the second guess she said my name, i thanked her for putting me in the "stalker division" (for the record: i am NOT a stalker i haven't even thought about her let alone looked the poor woman up the past year) i confirmed that and she said: " No Problem, my fiancee is here and he can't believe your behaviour, please don't contact me again." i never responded to that, and was sad but again respecting her wishes (eventhough i dont't think i was out of line with wanting to know how she was doing) But now it get's interesting. She changed her whatsapp profile picture to 2 crying scared or angry female eyes, The morning after she had a picture saying: " Today it is time to spend time with people that bring the best in you not the stress in you." 2 days later she changed her picture to: "With the power invested in me, i now pronounce you blocked and deleted, you may now kiss my ass" A day later she changed her profile picture to: "don't feel sorry for the failures, feel sorry for the times you didn't try" 2 days later she changed her whattsapp privacy settings, picture disappeared, aswell as her status and last seen. meaning basically that she deleted my number. Why would she react this way? Any insights would be very much appreciated. (for the record: i know i should not pursue her anymore, i am not a stalking looney) 1
Miss Spider Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 (edited) I'm sorry..but you seem way, way too invested in this. This sounds like an awkward something that never was. She friend zoned you 2 years ago. Why is she reacting this way? She is not interested in you at all. Frankly, she's probably a little creeped out at this point. Please try to move on. Edited October 26, 2016 by Cookiesandough
mrs rubble Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 She sounds absolutely crazy, with the whattsapp rubish. I'd not rule out the idea, she had a boyfriend all along. Let her go. 1
Author Zuur Posted October 26, 2016 Author Posted October 26, 2016 I'm sorry..but you seem way, way too invested in this. This sounds like an awkward something that never was. She friend zoned you 2 years ago. Why is she reacting this way? She is not interested in you at all. Frankly, she's probably a little creeped out at this point. Please try to move on. Thans for your vision, much apreciated I was way too invested, i agree. Did too much wishfull thinking at the time. Haha 1
Author Zuur Posted October 26, 2016 Author Posted October 26, 2016 She sounds absolutely crazy, with the whattsapp rubish. I'd not rule out the idea, she had a boyfriend all along. Let her go. Thanks for your insight in this! She is a bit crazy indeed, but hey so am I, i wont judge. She might have had, very much a possibility. She might even have dated a "friend" of mine at the time. I have let her go long time ago, past week just sucked me back in. 1
Author Zuur Posted October 26, 2016 Author Posted October 26, 2016 I am particulary interested in opinions about this behaviour: Last week (oct-2016) I was listening music online, and BAM my ex's favourite song started playing on youtube, this song is not top 40 or mainstream, was not part of the channel or playlist i was listening too and i had not listened to that song in 2 years. This song triggered me super hard, memories came back, and i decided to check her number in whatsapp, to my surprise i was no longer blocked, could see her picture, status and last seen. Seeing her picture was too much, i decided to contact her through another facebook messenger account. I made her guess who i was first she said: "a stalker" and the second guess she said my name, i thanked her for putting me in the "stalker division" (for the record: i am NOT a stalker i haven't even thought about her let alone looked the poor woman up the past year) i confirmed that and she said: " No Problem, my fiancee is here and he can't believe your behaviour, please don't contact me again." i never responded to that, and was sad but again respecting her wishes (eventhough i dont't think i was out of line with wanting to know how she was doing) But now it get's interesting. She changed her whatsapp profile picture to 2 crying scared or angry female eyes, The morning after she had a picture saying: " Today it is time to spend time with people that bring the best in you not the stress in you." 2 days later she changed her picture to: "With the power invested in me, i now pronounce you blocked and deleted, you may now kiss my ass" A day later she changed her profile picture to: "don't feel sorry for the failures, feel sorry for the times you didn't try" 2 days later she changed her whattsapp privacy settings, picture disappeared, aswell as her status and last seen. meaning basically that she deleted my number. Why would she react this way? Any insights would be very much appreciated. (for the record: i know i should not pursue her anymore, i am not a stalking looney) 1
No_Go Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 Wow I can't believe you kept thinking about her for so long... I think even if there is something to happen, it will be starting from scratch - like seeing a new person... 1
Author Zuur Posted October 27, 2016 Author Posted October 27, 2016 Zuur....let it go man. Haha, you are probably right. Part of me doesnt want to though. Thnx!
Author Zuur Posted October 27, 2016 Author Posted October 27, 2016 Wow I can't believe you kept thinking about her for so long... I think even if there is something to happen, it will be starting from scratch - like seeing a new person... Point taken, it would be like seeing a new person, just with a tad of the feelings and stuff of the past. And i did not keep thinking about her for 2 years, i just started thinking 1,5 weeks ago again. I am in a happy go lucky place, nice job, own house, healthy, family and friends. Met several women, good looking, intelligent etc. But the feeling wasnt the same. Thnx! 1
Author Zuur Posted October 28, 2016 Author Posted October 28, 2016 I wonder if i was just "in love" with the situation (long distance "girlfriend" from Ireland, different culture and stuff, exciting ) or that I really wanted to give the world to this woman, that now tells me to f*ck off (irish temper?) Anyway she is getting married alledgedly, so if there are any goodlooking smart spontaneous women from around Ireland feel free to PM
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