Author halifaxloner Posted October 27, 2016 Author Posted October 27, 2016 i am planning to go to a football game on the weekend. i asked her if she would like to join. she said sure. i restricted my text to few words. but her texts suddenly became more "not so cold" and she seemed keen to join.. does that mean she already friend-zoned me in her mind and it is just a matter of time for me to face the inevitable; the being just friend talk? or something else?
doyathinkso Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 Go with it. Be cool. Early in the going put your arm around her and hug her close. That should be out of the friend zone. If she pushes you off, well, that's all you need to know. If she leans into you, then she's into you. Actions speak louder than words you know. 1
Author halifaxloner Posted October 29, 2016 Author Posted October 29, 2016 you are 1000% right, asked her to a casual football game today, followed up this morning, her sister texted back that she was taken to clinic because they didnt change the bread to gluten free or something. she is highly allergic to dairy product, so they are now pumping her stomach. She offered me to disburse the ticket lol. Thank you..
anika99 Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 you are 1000% right, asked her to a casual football game today, followed up this morning, her sister texted back that she was taken to clinic because they didnt change the bread to gluten free or something. she is highly allergic to dairy product, so they are now pumping her stomach. She offered me to disburse the ticket lol. Thank you.. First, gluten is not dairy. Is she allergic to gluten or is she allergic to dairy? Secondly I have never heard of anyone with either a gluten allergy or dairy allergy getting their stomach pumped when they have accidentally ingested food containing those ingredients. I have a friend with a serious case of celiacs disease and if she ingests gluten she has to put up with some discomfort like bloating and cramps but she doesn't rush to emergency to get her stomach pumped. Stomach pumping is usually saved for life threatening situations like drug overdose or poisoning. I'm sorry but I just can't see someone going to emergency and being rushed past people having heart attacks and other life threatening emergencies so that they can get some gluten pumped from their stomach. That story sounds like bullsh$t to me.
Author halifaxloner Posted October 29, 2016 Author Posted October 29, 2016 she is severely allergic to any foods related to cow, i think she was referring to vegan bread or sumting. i know its completely BS. just a bit upset.. why cant they just tell it straight, hey not gonna happen or be blatantly honest.. 1
freebird31 Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 Men at your age should not chase women. Oh, the females here will disagree but between us guys, just don't. If she is jerking you around, and I am saying if, you just don't want to deal with that. First, blow her off and ignore her. Second, find a new girl to go out with, and hopefully screw. If she gets jealous and actually contacts you, be a little cold at first. Say things like, "I don't know, you did not seem that in to me so I have moved on. I mean sweetie, three dates and not even a kiss or a BJ. That is not really for me." Find a reason to get off the phone or walk out somehow, but be polite. Let her stew for a while, and if she comes back around, agree to a date. (by now you have her hooked) Take her somewhere nice, keep your mouth shut except to sound interested in what she has to say. Good luck... Lol yeah I don't think any woman would want to date you if you said these things to her. At least one who doesn't have self respect anyway. And why do all of that work and play all of those games ? Just move on and find someone new/better.
Herbalist Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 It is bad advice to blow off a woman just because of no sex on the third date. That sort of widespread expectation is why so many men will get the "fade" after a couple of dates in the first place and also why women will often want to talk forever before actually meeting when doing online dating. Women need more time to feel comfortable enough with a guy to have sex. So if she will be rushed most women would rather just pass. Then the guys mope around that it is so hard to get dates or that women keep doing the fade. So it's sort of an ironic way to shoot yourselves in the foot.
Author halifaxloner Posted October 29, 2016 Author Posted October 29, 2016 i am sorry a bit confused! how can i dont have any self respect?? honestly confused not looking for argument. i am pretty smart academically, but when it comes to women, i am just plain dumb
lakerman34 Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 A couple of things: 1) If she wants to take it slow PROVIDED THAT she's footing half the bill (or you're going every other date), then TAKE IT SLOW. If you feel like she's not using you, then go on her time. At least now she's CERTAIN you are interested. 2) Honestly, I didn't read your ENTIRE post, but what I did read was "I'm an overthinker, chronic stress, & she's way out of my league." If that's how you're representing yourself (and how you talk about yourself), those pretty girls who KNOW they've got the goods just won't be interested. Start thinking of yourself as "tall, dark, and handsome, WAY too intelligent for my own good, master of tantric sex" and **** like that, you will OOZE confidence and ladies will know. 1
Author halifaxloner Posted October 29, 2016 Author Posted October 29, 2016 Thank you for the advice, she asked me out for the first one, paid the full. it was on her, i paid for the 2nd one (she tried to pay). and on 3rd one she made a nice dinner for both of us..this one is a gone case. Now just trying to improve myself
Author halifaxloner Posted October 29, 2016 Author Posted October 29, 2016 A couple of things: 1) If she wants to take it slow PROVIDED THAT she's footing half the bill (or you're going every other date), then TAKE IT SLOW. If you feel like she's not using you, then go on her time. At least now she's CERTAIN you are interested. 2) Honestly, I didn't read your ENTIRE post, but what I did read was "I'm an overthinker, chronic stress, & she's way out of my league." If that's how you're representing yourself (and how you talk about yourself), those pretty girls who KNOW they've got the goods just won't be interested. Start thinking of yourself as "tall, dark, and handsome, WAY too intelligent for my own good, master of tantric sex" and **** like that, you will OOZE confidence and ladies will know. Thank you for the advice, she asked me out for the first one, paid the full. it was on her, i paid for the 2nd one (she tried to pay). and on 3rd one she made a nice dinner for both of us..this one is a gone case. Now just trying to improve myself
spiderowl Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 bit of a background, our program has always been filled with 90% chinese and they gossip a lot!!A LOT!!! and her friends are friends with my chinese friends Just learnt from some of her friends that she wants me to chase her. that is why she is showing fake "low interest" on me Like wtf?? Does that change anything?? what do i do?! i smell strong effing desperation from my end for some reason Don't chase her. You have shown your interest and she's not responding. She needs to respond or it's a non-starter.
joseb Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 It is bad advice to blow off a woman just because of no sex on the third date. She didn't even want to kiss him after three dates. Sex isn't even in the picture. How much slower can you go. I don't understand why people think they can get to know someone romantically with zero physical contact. 2
lakerman34 Posted October 30, 2016 Posted October 30, 2016 (edited) She didn't even want to kiss him after three dates. Sex isn't even in the picture. How much slower can you go. I don't understand why people think they can get to know someone romantically with zero physical contact. Yes. This. If a girl is into me, I notice she'll really keep close proximity, giving me EVERY chance to make a move on her. If she declines a kiss and ISN'T trying to give you a chance to make a move, you either missed the window of opportunity (which every guy does multiple times in their life -- I have stories, lost many potential relationships/flings b/c I didn't act when the time came to act), OR she doesn't view you sexually. At all. By the third date, if she's at least SOMEWHAT interested, she has already stewed up the thought of seeing you naked and would be even a LITTLE intrigued of what you look like without pants on. This girl, clearly, is not. Edited October 30, 2016 by lakerman34 1
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