Atxtwin Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 A little background... I've been with this guy for 6 months and a few days ago he asked me to loan him some money for some rims that he wanted. He was short about $200, so I gave it to him and he promised he'd pay me back. My problem is, this guy has yet to take me on a date or even do little things to show his love for me. He said he would take me out this weekend and he would also pay me back. But shouldn't be have already taken me out in those 6 months?? I mean why tell me now that you'll take me out?! He says all the right things and is constantly texting all day, every day. But he doesn't really take any interest in my personal life. He never asks about anything, that's another thing that bothers me. Thoughts? Brutal or not.... Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 So you thought giving him $200 would maybe get him to be more attentive to you? Texting all day means absolutely nothing. It's a way to keep your interest. It's takes pretty little effort to say and type some words. Get your $200 back and aim higher. 9 Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 Sounds like you have different ideas about how to have a relationship than I do. That's OK, whatever works for you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 A little background... I've been with this guy for 6 months and a few days ago he asked me to loan him some money for some rims that he wanted. He was short about $200, so I gave it to him and he promised he'd pay me back. My problem is, this guy has yet to take me on a date or even do little things to show his love for me. He said he would take me out this weekend and he would also pay me back. But shouldn't be have already taken me out in those 6 months?? I mean why tell me now that you'll take me out?! He says all the right things and is constantly texting all day, every day. But he doesn't really take any interest in my personal life. He never asks about anything, that's another thing that bothers me. Thoughts? Brutal or not.... What the hell are you doing giving money to a guy who is basically just using you for sex and what he can get out of you. Great so now you are paying him for sex... get your money back and date other guys. He should have carried on saving for his rims. Its not as though they are vital. Do not do this again. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
PrettyEmily77 Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 A little background... I've been with this guy for 6 months and a few days ago he asked me to loan him some money for some rims that he wanted. He was short about $200, so I gave it to him and he promised he'd pay me back. My problem is, this guy has yet to take me on a date or even do little things to show his love for me. He said he would take me out this weekend and he would also pay me back. But shouldn't be have already taken me out in those 6 months?? I mean why tell me now that you'll take me out?! He says all the right things and is constantly texting all day, every day. But he doesn't really take any interest in my personal life. He never asks about anything, that's another thing that bothers me. Thoughts? Brutal or not.... The bolded doesn't look too good, OP - quite a bigger problem than the borrowed $200 for something that isn't even important (rims that he wanted??!!), which is already an issue after just 6 months of dating. Does he have anything going for him? Based on that one post alone, you don't seem to hold him in much regard anyway, seeing as you are presenting him as an uncaring user. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 A little background... I've been with this guy for 6 months and a few days ago he asked me to loan him some money for some rims that he wanted. He was short about $200, so I gave it to him and he promised he'd pay me back. My problem is, this guy has yet to take me on a date or even do little things to show his love for me. He said he would take me out this weekend and he would also pay me back. But shouldn't be have already taken me out in those 6 months?? I mean why tell me now that you'll take me out?! He says all the right things and is constantly texting all day, every day. But he doesn't really take any interest in my personal life. He never asks about anything, that's another thing that bothers me. Thoughts? Brutal or not.... Get a grip!!!!! What do you mean "with" him for 6 months and never taken you on a date? You mean you've been sleeping with him and nothing else going on???? You are nothing but a piece of *ss for him. He's using you (you're allowing yourself to be used) for sex and now you're paying him for it . . . 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Atxtwin Posted October 25, 2016 Author Share Posted October 25, 2016 I needed to hear every piece of advice yall are saying, thank you!! After reading my own post, I see what an idiot I've been. I should have realized that a lot sooner. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
BluesPower Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 You are joking, right? Girls don't give guys money, just don't. You guys have been screwing for 6 months and he has not taken you out on a date? Girl, you need to move on and find real BF, this is not him... 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Melissasha Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 What idiot borrows $200 for something as non essential as rims? This guy sounds like an immature loser. He never takes you out either? Why are you with him? Please aim higher. I hope you have more self esteem than to stay with this scrub. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 Sounds to me that you're little more than a booty-call and now an ATM machine to this guy. You deserve better than that, don't you? 6 Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 You are joking, right? Girls don't give guys money, just don't. You guys have been screwing for 6 months and he has not taken you out on a date? Girl, you need to move on and find real BF, this is not him... Oh she's not joking. Men are often like this. One of the mooches I dated 'borrowed' over $7,000 from me in our 6 months scenario. Yet to see them back eh... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Atxtwin Posted October 25, 2016 Author Share Posted October 25, 2016 What idiot borrows $200 for something as non essential as rims? This guy sounds like an immature loser. He never takes you out either? Why are you with him? Please aim higher. I hope you have more self esteem than to stay with this scrub. Hasn't taken me out once. Never spent one cent on me actually. Yea, I'm just making myself sound more like an idiot. You're totally right, he's the epitome of a scrub! 6 Link to post Share on other sites
leogirl876 Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 Run from this boy, and I stress boy, he's not a man! I knew a guy like this and all he did was take, take, take. I was young, naive and clueless, and he got away with it because he was super good looking but an ugly person on the inside. Oh, not only did he "borrow" money from me that I never got back, he also stole cd's from me! SMH! That's when I dumped him! A real man takes care of a woman, he doesn't ask her for money. Run away from this guy, and don't expect to get your $200 back! It would shock the heck out of me, if you did get your money back! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
IfonlyIknew Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 eww! It's obvious his motive to take you out is only an incentive to get you to loan him that $200. 6 months and no dates? He is nothing to you. Get your $$ and kick him to the curb. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 never ever lend money, even if you are in love and all that crap, never lend them money!!! If they find themselves in a pickle, that's their issue, they can go to mommy and daddy. A frivolous spender is someone who is bad with their money....run away from this guy! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BeingMonika Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 The bolded doesn't look too good, OP - quite a bigger problem than the borrowed $200 for something that isn't even important (rims that he wanted??!!), which is already an issue after just 6 months of dating. Does he have anything going for him? Based on that one post alone, you don't seem to hold him in much regard anyway, seeing as you are presenting him as an uncaring user. Fwb ... they ain't dating. Well, she may be dating him,but he ain't dating her. She needs to ask for her coins back and move on. OP if he wanted you he would have taken you on a date. Trust me. He found money for his rims but he couldn't find some money for a simple ass date. He ain't thinking about you that's why he don't take an interest in your personal life. He don't want you. Also, don't ever give a man that you ain't married to money. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Atxtwin Posted October 25, 2016 Author Share Posted October 25, 2016 Fwb ... they ain't dating. Well, she may be dating him,but he ain't dating her. She needs to ask for her coins back and move on. OP if he wanted you he would have taken you on a date. Trust me. He found money for his rims but he couldn't find some money for a simple ass date. He ain't thinking about you that's why he don't take an interest in your personal life. He don't want you. Also, don't ever give a man that you ain't married to money. Thank you for your brutal honesty. For real. I'm getting my money back and moving the f*ck on. Despite whatever sweet crap he might say to get me back. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
ChickiePops Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 Yikes..I hope you're ok not getting that $200 back. I seriously doubt he will ever pay you back. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
IfonlyIknew Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 This guy seems like a scammer to begin with, play his game back on him make it sound like its an emergency "HEY XX SOMETHING CAME UP I NEED THAT $$ TODAY" Hound him for it! Then cut loose. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 Like on People's Court......if you don't have it in writing you are sh itass out of luck. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PrettyEmily77 Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 Fwb ... they ain't dating. Not even friends, by the looks of things - just a one-way relationship. Respect seems to be the missing link in that situation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Scarlett.O'hara Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 This guy is trying to play you for a fool. Consider the $200 as him testing the waters to see what he can get away with. He will ask for more, you can be sure of that. He clearly has no pride. Please don't settle for this loser. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LostOnes05 Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 Wow, six months...no date?! What do you ladies (and us guys) put up with crap like this? After 2 weeks and no date you should've wished him well. And I'm the one that's single?!? Note to self: no dates, ask for money, cheat when in relationship = keep girlfriend and make her want you more 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gr8fuln2020 Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 It's all been said.... Never loan money to someone you are just dating (and it sounds like you're not even doing that)....and for rims??? He doesn't have enough money? But, he's willing borrow for rims???? Ugh. As others, I hope you get your money back. Then ditch his buttocks. It won't be the only time he borrows money. He's shown you where his financial priorities lie. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 So now you have a self-absorbed jerk as a boyfriend and a percentage share in a set of rims. Be nice to him until he pays you back, then scrape him off your shoe as fast as you can. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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