griftymcgriff Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 Im really new to the dating scene, i've had my first REAL gf for 6months (going on 7 now) and she says she really wants to marry me, like we actually talk about our marriage, and when we will have kids, how many and stuff like that. I really get all giggly inside thinking that she really wants to stay with me for this long, it makes me feel special and happy. I just really need to know how i can make sure we start as in love as we were when we first went out? Lately i dont know why, but im going insane i cant stop thinking about her, i cant stop hating myself and how i am. I really need to relax, and to not worry about things so much, because when i worry i start to anoy my gf. I want her to try and help with my problems but i feel it pushes her away. Ways of keeping her interested in me...thats what im really after i guess!
tiki Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 You've dated her, you've decided you're into her. Now it's time to court her. This is where chivalry comes in. If you're religious at all, consider reading and interpreting the Song of Solomon. It's got some highly hot stuff. PM if you are really interested, I can give you some info on some classes I took. Romance is your game...and you're ready to rock and roll! Get the book 1001 Ways to be Romantic. Play by the rules. If you haven't slept with her, DON'T. Take her out, open her doors, send her flowers and love letters. If you've already encountered sex, consider things like a bed & breakfast. Take her out and have SPECIAL dates, not your regular run-of-the-mill type crap. Take her to a dinner theater (dining+entertainment=fun). Check out lovingyou.com. They've got great romantic ideas. I'll look some threads up here and link you to some other info. Romance rocks....this is what life is all about!!!
tiki Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?threadid=46780& ^Here's a link to another fella that wanted date ideas. Good luck!
tiki Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 One more and that's all I can come up with... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?threadid=58438&
SoleMate Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 Easy! Google for "marriage builders" and learn how to be the perfect partner by meeting her most important needs. This makes love last a lifetime.
Author griftymcgriff Posted July 12, 2005 Author Posted July 12, 2005 Ahahaha, too late. she wants a "Break" and doesnt want to break up. she doesnt know if she loves me or not. but still she said once, go and have sex with a stranger or something to get her off my mind...(believe me this hurts me for her to just say something like this, and i have no intention of it). THen she goes and says.. "shays mad at you for blocking her on msn", "Oh, then i'll unblock her", "NO!!", "oh, why...then just tell her you told me to block her!", "No no no." "why dont you want me to?", "Because im still insecure", "your confusing me, first you say you want to have a break because you dont know if you love me, but you still insecure?" CONFUSED.... Anyway i think this break thing will help...
tiki Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 The sleep with someone else thing is a sick game. She's testing you and don't fall for it. She'd never really want you to sleep with someone else if she really cared for you. ICK!
Sal Paradise Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 She's crazy dude, drop her. And whatever you don't let her think she can have a break and you'll wait for her. When chicks ask for breaks what they really mean is...."I want to see if there is someone else out there for me, but if there isn't I want the security of knowing I can still have you"
tiki Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 Nothin says lovin like "Pass the Chlamydia". Where are the morals and standards? She's telling YOU to sleep around?
Author griftymcgriff Posted July 12, 2005 Author Posted July 12, 2005 shes like this germafobe tho :S she wont touch stuff other people have handled. **** like that, so who knows. I am trying to understand why she is doing this. i see that i am being needy of her, but she doesnt talk to me about it, i have to force it out of her and then she wants a break from me before i can get ALL the information out i need to try and become a better person, if not for her for someone else. But i swear, if she continues like this ****. It will be the end, i dont feel like i love her as much for her anoying behavior, sure she's got a dissorder but all she does is try to use my words against me.
Author griftymcgriff Posted July 12, 2005 Author Posted July 12, 2005 She says she doesnt want to keep worrying about me. and then she tries to force me to goto the doctors because i think i have depression. So i just told her to Stop worrying about me, do what she wanted to do, forget me and just worry about her own problems for now. I have problems of my own to try and sort out, and im trying to help her to. My family has got to be one of the most unlucky, ****s happening everyweek, never stops. Im stressed out to all glory about this job interview, (last one i had they threw it in my face saying i had a rude tone over the phone and kicked me in the guts) so its gotten to me about this next one. Im emotionall dependant, i try not to be. Im very hard towards myself because i dont think im good at all. My gf hates me for doing this. My gf get anoyed at me for everything, but you should see the rules she gives me. tons, i give her like maybe 5 at the top, NO drugs, only pain releaf, No speeding in cars She doesnt want me to do that anyway but she still does it when shes with her friends. Atm, i can only talk with you guys. and my Friend in Sydney a girl who i've known for 5 years, she's always there to listen, my gf doesnt like her much :S either she told me. But she understands, she talks with me helps me out shes not generally biased towards my gf. she's very honest. I always need to talk things out with people, however my gf hides it, doesnt talk about it. REALLY makes me mad, she's the problem half the time. because i need to know whats wrong, but its to late when i force it out of her.
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