Author MonicaSans Posted October 25, 2016 Author Posted October 25, 2016 Also don't fall for a possible excuse like "Oh I knew it was you all alone, I was just playing along" ya, thanks. there is nothing he could possibly say that would make this alright. NOTHING 3
Sunkissedpatio Posted October 25, 2016 Posted October 25, 2016 I really see no point in seeing him, to hear whatever the f he has to say. there is nothing i have to say. what is there left? I have a friend who is more than happy to drop into the bar where he's set to meet Miss Fake Profile, and drop the goods and say "regards from Miss Fake Profile" and she walks out without saying another word. Then I will block him. not exactly the happy ending I was hoping for when we became attached I'm so so sorry! I can imagine how awful, hurt and disappointed you feel. It is the worst feeling in the world to feel like someone has slipped the rug from under you feet. Handle it however you feel will be best for you. That is a good option too. Unreal that someone could be that despicable and put on such a front while carrying on with someone else. Really makes you wonder how many sociopaths are out there that walk and talk just like the rest of us... 3
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2016 Posted October 25, 2016 thank you so much everyone, it's giving me strength and feelings of support as I begin to peel myself of road kill body sensations. so, he's all over me today, (haven't let on at all...), texted me good night, good morning text--complete with him expressing how he 'coudn't feel me last night ), phone call at lunch. you see, we have a pretty good psychic connection so he's vaguely aware something is off, or his guilt meter is going off (but I don't think he really has one). so, we have a plan as of now for him to come over after work--rememver how he said that he has to tell me something? and it's quite normal for us to see each other pretty much every night anyways. --but, but but, he has a plan with miss fake profile? i just checked and lo and behold there's his ugly mug plastered with the online-green light pronouncing he's open for bizness I really see no point in seeing him, to hear whatever the f he has to say. there is nothing i have to say. what is there left? I have a friend who is more than happy to drop into the bar where he's set to meet Miss Fake Profile, and drop the goods and say "regards from Miss Fake Profile" and she walks out without saying another word. Then I will block him. not exactly the happy ending I was hoping for when we became attached I don't know why you are dragging this, maybe because you are hoping he will pull some magical bird out of his hat and all will be alright. The same thing happened to me once. I got the fake profile on, chatted with the guy and just like in your story my guy made a rendez-vous with my fake profile. At the moment he booked the date with my fake profile I gave him a call. I said hello it's 'fake profile name' and I told him he was a poor excuse for a man, he had no spine, he was weak, and an opportunist and to get his ugly face out of my life forever. That was it, no dragging it, no meeting him, nothing. I was not gonna put myself through that. And finally, I am very sorry this happened to you. It's painful and disturbing. I know you want to get back on your feet asap but just take some time to yourself, do allow yourself this big jug of ice cream and trust me it will help your little heart if you cover ice cream with cherries :-) 4
Author MonicaSans Posted October 25, 2016 Author Posted October 25, 2016 I don't know why you are dragging this, maybe because you are hoping he will pull some magical bird out of his hat and all will be alright. The same thing happened to me once. I got the fake profile on, chatted with the guy and just like in your story my guy made a rendez-vous with my fake profile. At the moment he booked the date with my fake profile I gave him a call. I said hello it's 'fake profile name' and I told him he was a poor excuse for a man, he had no spine, he was weak, and an opportunist and to get his ugly face out of my life forever. That was it, no dragging it, no meeting him, nothing. I was not gonna put myself through that. And finally, I am very sorry this happened to you. It's painful and disturbing. I know you want to get back on your feet asap but just take some time to yourself, do allow yourself this big jug of ice cream and trust me it will help your little heart if you cover ice cream with cherries :-) at present I can't fathom food, at all, but I'm sure there will be ice cream in my future, lol why am dragging this on? honestly a bit of a morbid curiosity into human nature. observing sociopathic-light, perhaps. so, here's the latest: he messaged me confirming he's coming over. and at the same time got in touch with her to confirm their meeting at 7! this is truly a head scratcher. my friends and I are taking wagers and anticipating a family emergency is forth coming--which btw he has had lots of in our short time together. i'm not waiting for some magical tonic or bird as you say to make this horror show go away. I'm just getting some final insight into the workings of this man's mind, and I am playing with this freak show a bit now my friend is on stand by to deliver the goods if he suddenly has to leave (to meet Miss Fake Profile (MFP). either way, i'm putting on my actor/psychologist cap and gonna observe. my findings might be useful for others and i'm finding some humor in the ridiculousness of all of this. thank god I have youse all and my friends. everyone I've told this to that knows me/him is simply aghast at this, he was such a doting and devoted man to me as another aside, I am considering the mature route and look him in the eye and tell him how it really is and get some 'closure' 8
dreamingoftigers Posted October 25, 2016 Posted October 25, 2016 at present I can't fathom food, at all, but I'm sure there will be ice cream in my future, lol why am dragging this on? honestly a bit of a morbid curiosity into human nature. observing sociopathic-light, perhaps. so, here's the latest: he messaged me confirming he's coming over. and at the same time got in touch with her to confirm their meeting at 7! this is truly a head scratcher. my friends and I are taking wagers and anticipating a family emergency is forth coming--which btw he has had lots of in our short time together. i'm not waiting for some magical tonic or bird as you say to make this horror show go away. I'm just getting some final insight into the workings of this man's mind, and I am playing with this freak show a bit now my friend is on stand by to deliver the goods if he suddenly has to leave (to meet Miss Fake Profile (MFP). either way, i'm putting on my actor/psychologist cap and gonna observe. my findings might be useful for others and i'm finding some humor in the ridiculousness of all of this. thank god I have youse all and my friends. everyone I've told this to that knows me/him is simply aghast at this, he was such a doting and devoted man to me as another aside, I am considering the mature route and look him in the eye and tell him how it really is and get some 'closure' I'm.curious how much time until 7. I'm on MST.
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2016 Posted October 25, 2016 I'm.curious how much time until 7. I'm on MST. I am thinking of delaying grocery shopping to get this update lol 8
dreamingoftigers Posted October 25, 2016 Posted October 25, 2016 I am thinking of delaying grocery shopping to get this update lol My phone is going to die soon. I hope this little jerk is just shocked as all heck.... What a little jerk...... 1
Author MonicaSans Posted October 25, 2016 Author Posted October 25, 2016 jerk is too kind a word its 2 hours 20 mins and counting to 7 (pacific time). he is due to be at my place in about a half an hour. prob will not be posting much till i can update. after all is said and done, i'm going to forward this thread to him, just to see how others view his vile and disgusting behavior. it takes a village, right? or a village idiot? not sure which, 1
dreamingoftigers Posted October 25, 2016 Posted October 25, 2016 jerk is too kind a word its 2 hours 20 mins and counting to 7 (pacific time). he is due to be at my place in about a half an hour. prob will not be posting much till i can update. after all is said and done, i'm going to forward this thread to him, just to see how others view his vile and disgusting behavior. it takes a village, right? or a village idiot? not sure which, Dammit. Pacific Time. I was worried about that. It will be so hard to contain it all in front of him. But please do, if you pull it off,that will be so awesome. Do it for all of us that spill the beans too early! I really wonder what he has to tell you.... 1
somecamel Posted October 25, 2016 Posted October 25, 2016 I feel for you OP. I also understand the morbid reasoning in trying to decipher his thinking and psychoanalyse it. You're in a state of denial at the moment, I done the same. You're self flagelating at the moment. For your own sanity, cut it off, hurt it out and move on from this loser. 2
ChickiePops Posted October 25, 2016 Posted October 25, 2016 Yeesh! Good luck Monica..this guy is a real piece of work. Not to worry though..guys like this always get their comeuppance eventually. Hopefully his will come in the form of a really painful oozing STD. 2
Author MonicaSans Posted October 25, 2016 Author Posted October 25, 2016 (edited) I feel for you OP. I also understand the morbid reasoning in trying to decipher his thinking and psychoanalyse it. You're in a state of denial at the moment, I done the same. You're self flagelating at the moment. For your own sanity, cut it off, hurt it out and move on from this loser. maybe the denial part is true, i'm still in shock. but i am damn curious about how he proceeds with all this and would like either: A) a dramatic and profound display of exposure (and revelation of the emotional costs inflicted upon someone he supposedly loves,) followed by the subsequent death/ending that ensues, or B) an adult ending to a contemporary, pathetic love story that started off as magical and ended in a vulgar way i've got a front row seat to 'player' behavior and I'm gonna watch it (where's the popcorn emoji?) and perhaps get some insight...that's how my mind works...I thought about revenge sex too, but that would just confuse me though honestly in his world, i don't think he sees what he's doing as being a player, but rather all very quite normal. he called me his wife on friday. i was dumbfounded and said, "wife? you have a wife?". he corrected himself and said 'girlfriend' with exaggerated inflection. the point is, he views me as his committed partner, and I guess in his world, that comes with side pieces-- in his culture that is Edited October 25, 2016 by MonicaSans 2
Gaeta Posted October 25, 2016 Posted October 25, 2016 May I ask how old you both are? Didn't you feel it was a bit rushed to move in after 6 months? Who was moving in with whom? 2
Sunkissedpatio Posted October 25, 2016 Posted October 25, 2016 j after all is said and done, i'm going to forward this thread to him, just to see how others view his vile and disgusting behavior. it takes a village, right? or a village idiot? not sure which, Not the village idiot in the least! His lies and deceptive character are NOT a reflection on your intelligence. It is a reflection of his rotten character, 100%. Good luck and be strong!! Will be thinking of you MonicaSans.. 2
No_Go Posted October 25, 2016 Posted October 25, 2016 I'm waiting with curiosity for his reaction, but just wanted to say... the 'wife' calling is a veeeery shallow manipulation tactic, exploring the woman's reaction, anything but NOT a sign of committed partnership. I've heard this over and over again from practically every guy that I dated (same with my girlfriends). Moving in btw is not a sign of a committed relationship as well, I believed in that when I was younger It could be - if marriage is not in his culture (like many western europeans for example consider moving in a 'final step') but I think for the majority is just a way to save on bills and have a convenient sex buddy in hand... he called me his wife on friday. i was dumbfounded and said, "wife? you have a wife?". he corrected himself and said 'girlfriend' with exaggerated inflection. the point is, he views me as his committed partner, and I guess in his world, that comes with side pieces-- in his culture that is 2
Author MonicaSans Posted October 25, 2016 Author Posted October 25, 2016 Not the village idiot in the least! His lies and deceptive character are NOT a reflection on your intelligence. It is a reflection of his rotten character, 100%. Good luck and be strong!! Will be thinking of you MonicaSans.. lol i was referring to him as being the village idiot, but now that you mention it 1
Sunkissedpatio Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 he called me his wife on friday. i was dumbfounded and said, "wife? you have a wife?". he corrected himself and said 'girlfriend' with exaggerated inflection. the point is, he views me as his committed partner, and I guess in his world, that comes with side pieces-- in his culture that is Pfft my ex used to called me his wife a good while before he even proposed. It used to bother me, like sorry bud until we are officially married you don't get to call me that. He proposed at the two year mark. Looking back, I wonder if they do that because they know women want to hear that. In my case it wasn't true, I wasn't the one gung-ho on "marriage" though I eventually for me it wasn't about being married it was about wanting to marry him. 3
Sunkissedpatio Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 lol i was referring to him as being the village idiot, but now that you mention it Bahahaha I guess that makes me the village idiot now. Sorry hon!
JewelD Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 It was a six-month relationship. You were definitely moving fairly quickly anyway but dragging it out is only going to delay your healing. If you really want to research players, just read through this entire site. It's really not a secret, most of them are not that bright but they have partners who are extremely gullible and that's how they get away with it for the most part. The time you're spending on this guy and trying to figure out how his mind works is time you could be spending doing something productive, like meeting someone new. 3
BlueIris Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 OP-- Wow, you have fantastic intuition! Trust that forever! Also, you've handled this perfectly. You're clearly smart and self-aware. I'm sorry that he turned out to be a sleazy liar. Maybe some people come along to teach us something that we'll ending up using later. I hope everything goes OK tonight. 4
Popsicle Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 yeah, I think you should show up not your friend. Why get her involved? Btw, these are the kind of revelations that make some unstable people snap and have crimes of passion. 1
Poutrew Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 When you bust him, you don't even need to reveal to him that you are the fake profile. Just tell him that another woman contacted you to tell you that your man now belongs to her, and Ms. (fake profile) told you to back off. He belongs to her now. Then she gave you a data dump of all his text messages for proof. Tell him you agreed to give him up and you will get out of his life forever. After you break up with him, then have the fake profile break up with him as well - you can have her say that any man who cheats on his long term girlfriend and plays her the way he did isn't worth a pile of cold dog poo. Voila! He is now dateless and out in the cold... 3
mortensorchid Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 Oh my God, I'm so sorry. I'm glad you found out now rather than later. But sweatheart, moving in after six months is not a good thing to do, remember that. But for God's sakes, RUN do not walk away. 1
Sunkissedpatio Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 When you bust him, you don't even need to reveal to him that you are the fake profile. Just tell him that another woman contacted you to tell you that your man now belongs to her, and Ms. (fake profile) told you to back off. He belongs to her now. Then she gave you a data dump of all his text messages for proof. Tell him you agreed to give him up and you will get out of his life forever. After you break up with him, then have the fake profile break up with him as well - you can have her say that any man who cheats on his long term girlfriend and plays her the way he did isn't worth a pile of cold dog poo. Voila! He is now dateless and out in the cold... :lmao: Brilliant! I would do it the more fun the better too. Might as well have fun with it. I had so much fun with my confrontation I loved reeling him in he was desperate to hear how I was doing if I missed him how I was feeling...gave him nothing but got him to fess up all his feelings and then KAPOW! went for kick in the groin. It was priceless! Oh if I could do it again... 2
aileD Posted October 26, 2016 Posted October 26, 2016 Oh Im so upset there is no update yet! I can't wait to see what happened. I want to know what he "has to talk to you" about What his excuse to leave is If he actually leaves or blows off fake profile Send two friends so one can get a pic of his face You are so strong and doing a good job. Some may say you're feeding into the drama but sometimes you just have to really know so you can really get closure ....so he can't use the "I was never going to really meet her!" Excuse. My posts are moderated so this might come up after your post ... I hope it all went well for you. 1
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