Warning This could be your fate if you break NoContact

[Selkie]

I've been a bad girl since I first posted here 18 months ago looking for advice http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?threadid=31193

 

I've been bad to myself that is.

 

Instead of taking others sensible advice to heart and listening to my own inner voice, I've continued on in a very bad relationship.

 

I had someone I considered my very best friend and love, a sometimes boyfriend who ended up being no more than my worst Frienemy when all was said and done.

 

Since I first wrote here a year and a half ago, I had two major horrible fights with this person where he said the cruelest things ever.

 

Finally things between us ended last week,when he got back from vacation and started to pick on me about my weight in public, for once I stood up for myself and pointed out that he himself was a bit overweight and shouldn't humiliate me when he's not perfect either.

 

He yelled at me that I was a f@@@@king @$$h@le and he then walked away from me (we were riding a ferry during rush hour when this happened so he made a dramatic scene of walking to other side of the boat.

 

So that's that. Noone ever insults him or theyre dead to him.

 

So Ive very depressed this last week knowing Ive wasted more time on someone I kept tricking myself was really caring and my friend down deep.

That is until I just read thru several old emails he sent me when we had the last huge fight last fall.

I somehow blocked out the incredibly vicious email he sent to me when he was out of work and I spent 5 months helping him find a new job (and he ended up with a great 6 figure job a few months after this email complaining that I was'nt helping him enough, he told me I was going to hell LITERALLY , basically because I was'nt doing enough chores and errands for HIM))

 

 

Let this email be a warning to all of you, as to what can happen if you break NO CONTACT and try to keep at least a friendship going. Particularly if you were the dumpee.

It can get very ugly.

 

From: *********

To: ********

Subject: you cold ice queen

 

you icy cold bastard. I always knew you cared about much less than you

used to at one time, but I had no idea that you didnt give a sh*t about

me whatsoever.

 

Dumping an overwhelming load on me on the darkest period of my life,

with less than 2 weeks left until i have zero income for the first time

in my entire life - THAT was when you picked the perfect time to go

"find yourself" and "move on".

 

4 days of total abandonment of me, and counting. What else could you

possibly call it? 4 days of the most horrible treatment of me, since the

day you met me. What do you think this makes you deserve? do you

actually think God is looking down on you and smiling upon you now? He sent

me to rescue you, and look how you treated his messenger. Its almost

inconceivable the depths youve sunk to

 

If only you knew how many things ive done without you, and how many

things others have offered to do for me. people who evidently really care

for me and what happens. Look at yourself, youre no better than those

fair weather friends like at **** ***, who once i wasnt the cool

******** with a job, didnt want to hang out with me anymore. And its

finally dawned on me, that - since you are on a primal-driven cavewoman

warpath to copulate and find your eggs some sperm donors of the most

superior genetic makeup - that someone as much as a loser as me, who couldnt

"provide" for your offspring much less a likley prospect to give you

any, wasnt worth your time or effort anymore. Youre devoid of emotion,

and on autopilot and the proof of your disgusting selfishness is that

youre about to give strangers the time of day and your attention, because

they have a full scrotum of seed, but your best friend of over 10 years

- who you experienced some of the worlds best - and worst - experiences

with together, you so easily push me aside like so much trash. You

accuse me of using you, which i never ever did - yet look how YOU used ME

and threw ME away when i didnt serve a biological PURPOSE for YOU

 

I cant wait to tell everyone who ever knew you, about how you turned on

me and abandoned me at my darkest hour, how you walked away when i told

you i was drowning and wouldnt lend a hand. How you chose to never

speak to me again, and dump a load on me when i waws already the most

overwhelmed i was in life, ever. I have 4 days of history now to prove it.

You cant take them back. 4 days ive been doing the best i can to get

by, not only with the load i already had, not only with the load you

dumped on me without warning all of a sudden at the worst possible time,

but having the emptional burden of your betrayal to carry at the same

time. Oh i cant wait to tell everyone about how your true colors, the

old colors i first was afraid of, and was always afraid theyd rear their

ugly head again, how those old colors were your true colors and your

true colors have finally come out.

 

Jesus, do you really think you are goign to heaven after this? How

you could do this to someone who showed you so much selfless kindness for

so much of their life. You are a turncoat and traitor of the worst

possible severity.

 

Dont worry youve taught me a valuable lesson. NEver, efver let a person

like you into my life again. Trust and loyalty are earned and

unwavering. Not this arbitrary thing you toss around like a too or weapon to

achieve your personal aims. there is goodness in this world, not much

of it, but its there, but youve chosen the opposite path. I hope you

like your choice, its a dark lonely path. For all your talk of faith, the

only person you really believe in and worship, is yourself. You

certainly dont help your brother when he is in need... much less a stranger.

 

You, ****** *********, have become

a secular caricature. the urban self centered, job-first,

material-goods-oriented cat lady - who does nothing but think about herself first

instead of others, yet somehow still sits there and wonders why shes

lonely... and doomed to never make the ultra-obvious connection between

the two

 

If you ever see that charming beautiful girl with the fire in her eyes

and the goodness in her soul that i used to know, tell her i said hello

and miss her. I dont know who YOU are, you evil ****ing impostor from

the depths, but i hope you burn in hell forever for taking her away

from me. She had a lot more to offer the world than you do. the world

already has far too many people like you in it.

[ButtonPusher]

Hahahahaha I'm sorry I'm not laughing at you Selkie, but at your ex. To send someone an email like that shows that that guy has serious problems. And I take it this guy thinks of himself as a "christian"? lol, when was the last time he read the friggin bible? Where does it say that you go to hell if you end a relationship?

 

Just be glad your not with him. He sounds like he would hold the world record in neediness.

[Selkie]

Originally posted by Dukkha

Hahahahaha I'm sorry I'm not laughing at you Selkie, but at your ex. To send someone an email like that shows that that guy has serious problems. And I take it this guy thinks of himself as a "christian"? lol, when was the last time he read the friggin bible? Where does it say that you go to hell if you end a relationship?

 

Just be glad your not with him. He sounds like he would hold the world record in neediness.

 

 

It's good to hear how insane the whole thing seems to other people. Gives me refreshing perspective.....

[lindya]

Lordy! An email for all Loveshackers to cut out and treasure - either to serve as a warning against any future misdemeanours-via-the-internet...or as evidence that however bad that email we sent to our ex, it could have been worse.

 

Guaranteed that your ex will be feeling completely justified and pious about this outpouring of bile and self-pity. Obviously were you to write anything one tenth as vitriolic back, he and his friends would immediately have you pegged as the psycho-ex from hell

[LucreziaBorgia]

Passive-aggressive jerk. Its good that you are rid of him. I hope that you will take some time to get your head and heart back together and take your time getting there. It sounds like its been a long, painful time with this guy.

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

Selkie, hon, this has GOT to be one of the funniest emails from an ex!! Gosh, just look at this guy - and how he puts his ideas across...ROTFL

 

My favorite funnies from his retarded email :

 

do you actually think God is looking down on you and smiling upon you now? He sent me to rescue you, and look how you treated his messenger. Its almost inconceivable the depths youve sunk to

 

Jeez, is he in his right mind? He seems to have a psychological problem definitely...or maybe he time-travelled from the 13th century, and is still preaching hellfire and damnation

 

And its finally dawned on me, that - since you are on a primal-driven cavewoman warpath to copulate and find your eggs some sperm donors of the most superior genetic makeup

 

This one's my favorite!! I actually laughed out loud. This guy's horribly insecure - and stupid enough to let everyone know that! Too bad it just comes out as downright ridiculous.

 

Youre devoid of emotion, and on autopilot and the proof of your disgusting selfishness is that youre about to give strangers the time of day and your attention, because they have a full scrotum of seed

 

Also has an obsession with sperm...

 

 

Man! Had a good belly-laugh over this pathetic jerk. Selkie, he's a LOSER - come on, you know that already. You're just being too kind and not admitting it.

 

I didn't mean to make light of your situation, I understand how hurt and insulted you must've felt. But this guy is pure drama!! It's he who's the secular caricature. And his writing shows his I.Q., which is room-temperature at best.

 

You definitely don't deserve him. I guess he knows you don't want "his seed"...LOL...but hey, who'd want to have his children?! I'm glad you did realized how immature he is, and that you better not contact him.

 

Good riddance, girl!!

[westernxer]

Not sure if you're going to heaven, but you've certainly been through hell with that bum.

[Moai]

Be glad it was only 18 months. He is pathetic.

 

I'd like a trained professional to read that and see what his obsession with sperm means.

[J dub]

Originally posted by Moai

Be glad it was only 18 months. He is pathetic.

 

I'd like a trained professional to read that and see what his obsession with sperm means.

 

OMG MOAI that is weird, your icon is my employer's mascot. That kinda freaked me out for a minute...

[Selkie]

Originally posted by Moai

Be glad it was only 18 months. He is pathetic.

 

I'd like a trained professional to read that and see what his obsession with sperm means.

 

Sadly no , it wasn't only 18 months.

I knew him for 12 plus years. Yes years.

It was 18 months since I first posted about him on Loveshack.

I swear to God, I want to start fibbing my age and ptretend th elast decade never happened.

Rewind to mid twenties. Plastic surgery, here I come

 

Seriously, as an update I have had to transfer websites of his that I had been hosting and maintaining for him over to his control. (If I didnt he would use that to attack me)

Ive kept things pretty cool and collected on my end (only contacting him thru emails with site log in and passwords so he can handle his websites himself from now on) he has continued his barage of nasty little insults.

Im doing my best to ignore them.

 

Here's a classic though, he should really publish a book on how to venomously insult former friends/lovers:

 

 

 

................(him)And to this day im a better friend to you, because i dont have some

inner emotional conflict like you do, that makes you do spiteful things

al the time. I never ever do things to intentionally hurt or damage

you, the way you do to me. I may be guilty of being oblivious, self

centered or even downright selfish at times, but im never purposefully

malicious or malevolent towards you, the way you regularly are towards

me.

 

(me)<<< I dont wish you harm, even with the harsh viturperous words you unleashed on me. >>>

 

(him)you mnean you dont WISH ME MORE HARM THAN YOUVE ALREADY DONE TO ME????? Guess what, i,m not so f***ing STYUPID as to allow you to ever get close enough to me again or trust your f***up ass, that you COULD harm me again!!!!! You realy dont get it, do you??? you live in a delusional dream world. YOUVE ALREADY HARMED ME, REPEATEDLY AND FINALLY! DO0NT YOU GET IT? AREYOU RETARDED? you are like ****ing bin laden saying he didnt mean any harm. Save your f***ing rhetoric for your NEXT VICTIM, you dreamland liver. GET THE f*** OUT OF MY TOWN, because y our PRESENCE IS STILL HARMING ME. THIS OBNOXIOUS HURTFUL, BLAME-IT-ALL-ON-***-AND-SAY-******-IS-PERFECT EMAIL IS HARMING ME!!!! you smile as you stab someone in the back, you f***ing soul assassin.

 

 

(me)<<< I wish you peace of mind and wallet.

I hope the very best for you and that you stop your mental suffering and rage towards me. >>>

 

(him) oh i know youre doing the "Noble Thing" and letting me be, right? sound familiar? you ****. lawyas ready to say something formal and polite that is meaningless without substance and hides your true horrible murderous actions, liek your entire ****ing family. hope the best for me while doing the worst, you hypocritcal self centerd a**h***. you deceitful serpent with forked tounge. **** you and your smooth words, im not so stupid. if youre stupoid enopugh to believe your own rhetoric and propaganda, thats your problem. feel bad for my wallet? give me your ****ing money then, your words are worthless.

 

 

 

(me) <<< Im very very very saddened beyond tears that you ended up wanting to tell me to drop dead. >>>

 

(him)why? youve done everything you could pssobily do to ruin my life, other than KILL ME. why not do that next???? oh no, its far worse what youve done to me than kill me. i WISH you killed me. instead you gave me LIFE IN PRISON. i get to sit on the outside and watch as everyone else achieves their dreams, while ill never have mine. because i was stupid enough to TRUST YOU and waste my time, emotion and energy on YOU and rely on YOU. As for me, oh no, i dont wish you would drop dead, i wish you never existed in the first place. I wish you had left me alone, when i stil h ad a CHANCE to be happy. no, you h ad to DESTROY ME and take what you could for yourself. you life force sucker. youre the f***ing evil undead.

 

More insults heaped on injury. More hollow words. More bull****. More formalities. More sweeping end statements like you made when you were a distrubed youth, that you make again as a disturbed adult. who do you think you are? f*** YOU and y our LIES. every one of those words was a LIE. yo wish none of those things. becuase youve CREATED NONE OF THOSE THINGS. YOUVE CREATED THE f***ING OPPOSITE OF EVERYONE OF THOSE THINGS. YO W ISH PEACE WHEN YOU REALLY SOW WAR, LIKE THE f***IFGN ANTICHRIST. PAX, IS ROMAN FOR PEACE. PAX ROMANA. ROMAN PEACE. IT MEANT, WELL GIVE YOU PEACE AFTER ****ING *CONQUERING* YOU... NO WONDER ITS YOUR FAVORITE WORD. RAPE PILLAGE PLUNDER DESTROY MY LIFE AND CALL IT *PEACE* YOU PIECE OF BREATHING s***, GO TO f***IN HELL WHERE YOU WERE CONCEIVED. >>>>>>>>>>>>

 

 

 

Yeah I know I really need to enter the My ex best friend is wacko witness protection plan.

[ButtonPusher]

Lol I think you're enjoying it aren't you? He sends all these agro messages and you keep refusing to take the bait and simply say you're sorry he's angry.

 

Perhaps you should consider a restraining order? He's a total loon.

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

Selkie, this guy is really going too far. Even after his initial meaningless sperm-centered blabber, he is still insulting you continuously. Isn't there a way you could cut him and his insults out?

 

I mean, if I were in your place I'd feel horrible to have myself insulted and degraded so badly. Please don't let yourself be his puke bag. His previous comments that you posted were actually funny...but these....you really don't have to tolerate them. He's cussing you and your family non-stop, besides inventing a truckload of unflattering names for you.

 

If you have to contact him regarding returning his website rights etc., just do it in one email!! He really shouldn't have an opportunity to write to you every day!! If this continues, you might as well want to change your email id, or block his emails out.

 

That said, I still see he makes grand statements -

 

you deceitful serpent with forked tounge.

 

hissssss.....hissssssssssss

[lindya]

He sounds like a bubbling cauldron of deranged misery, and his spelling is atrocious.

 

Did he come out with crap like that when you were together? I hope you're not going to send him any more conciliatory messages. You'll just be encouraging more of the same thing if you do.

[At Peace]

Oh goodness, this vile ex of yours sounds so familiar. Mine was a verbal abuser. And yes, I stayed with this person whom I was kind too and gave my love too, it never failed his arrogant abusive cutting remarks. I deluded myself into thinking he'll change, or if I'm nicer to him he'll be loving again. After reading the disgusting letter your (and good riddance) ex wrote, I am actually realizing what was I with? Not who but what? I am angry that I was not strong enough to have paid attention to the signs and there were many. But in the end he's not my nightmare anymore and this guy should not be your nightmare any longer too!

[Jeannie]

Hmmmm.....sounds like another self absorbed idiot - hey, sounds like MY ex!