SilverS4 Posted October 24, 2016 Posted October 24, 2016 Good evening all, I have a general question and can't seem to find a similar scenario that I can use to learn from. My question is about when women play the teasing game? For example, let's say A girl teases a guy (non sexual), just to get a rise or reaction. Can this ever be justified as legitimate interest or is she just behaving like an ugly person? We never dated but I've confirmed she like or has an interest. There is a little bit of history(strictly plutonic), we were never involved but our mutual friend and I like to (guy talk) at star bucks from time to time lol she is involved in a relationship which I respect and never cross boundaries, however, the curiousity of whether there is a reason or if she's just being a mean person. Really just curiousity that I'd like to figure out? Most answers seem to involve children in their 20's or teens. Because I'm neither, I'd love to hear what insight you all may have? Thanks again for your thoughts.
Gloria25 Posted October 24, 2016 Posted October 24, 2016 I don't think women see this as "teasing". I think a lot of women have this idea that you can do X, Y, Z with a guy and pull back whenever it suits you. I mean, I don't play that. If a guy is showing signs of attraction/interest and I'm not interested, I shut it down quick. I don't hang out with him as if we're "just friends". I don't seek him out, don't go out with him (even avoid groups of people he is with). I especially don't play the "cuddling" game - where some women invite a guy over to sleep in the same bed with them (as if they are preschoolers taking a mid day nap with other children lacking carnal knowledge). Now yes, there are some women who aren't naive and/or ignorant like in the paragraph above...these women like having "orbiters". They love having guys showering them with attention - when they darn well known that they have no interest in the guy and they don't feel any remorse for leading a guy on. Some of them actually think a guy is just donna follow them around cuz he needs another "friend" so badly . 1
Got it Posted October 24, 2016 Posted October 24, 2016 Can you be more specific? What do you mean by teasing? What was said or done in the encounter?
kmack513 Posted October 24, 2016 Posted October 24, 2016 I don't think women see this as "teasing". I think a lot of women have this idea that you can do X, Y, Z with a guy and pull back whenever it suits you. I mean, I don't play that. If a guy is showing signs of attraction/interest and I'm not interested, I shut it down quick. I don't hang out with him as if we're "just friends". I don't seek him out, don't go out with him (even avoid groups of people he is with). I especially don't play the "cuddling" game - where some women invite a guy over to sleep in the same bed with them (as if they are preschoolers taking a mid day nap with other children lacking carnal knowledge). Now yes, there are some women who aren't naive and/or ignorant like in the paragraph above...these women like having "orbiters". They love having guys showering them with attention - when they darn well known that they have no interest in the guy and they don't feel any remorse for leading a guy on. Some of them actually think a guy is just donna follow them around cuz he needs another "friend" so badly . Truer words have never been spoken. Especially as it relates to younger girls.
Just a Guy Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 Hi silver, I'm not clear about what it is exactly that is bothering you. When you say that some girl is teasing you what was the setting? Was it a one on one interaction or was it in a group and was the girl saying things in a manner such as to make you look like a bit of a dope or was it just harmless banter? When you use the words 'mean' and 'cruel' does it indicate that there was a sting in her so called 'teasing'? Unless you give a clear picture of the setting in which the teasing occurred, what was said, how well you know each other and what is the degree of interaction you two have on a daily basis it is difficult to pontificate on the situation that you describe. Hope you can be more clear about the whole situation. Thanks.
Herbalist Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 I think sometimes you can tell if you look for signs of whether or not the person has empathy. For this to work you have to let it be known that what they have said hurt your feelings, and then see if they stop doing it or not. That can help you to figure out if it was a difference in perceptions or if the person is trying to be mean. 1
GorillaTheater Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 Teasing as in poking a little fun? I eat that stuff up. One of the things I found pretty attractive about the woman I married was her ability to dish it out as well as take it. 1
PaperCrane Posted October 27, 2016 Posted October 27, 2016 I don't think women see this as "teasing". I think a lot of women have this idea that you can do X, Y, Z with a guy and pull back whenever it suits you. I mean, I don't play that. If a guy is showing signs of attraction/interest and I'm not interested, I shut it down quick. I don't hang out with him as if we're "just friends". I don't seek him out, don't go out with him (even avoid groups of people he is with). I especially don't play the "cuddling" game - where some women invite a guy over to sleep in the same bed with them (as if they are preschoolers taking a mid day nap with other children lacking carnal knowledge). Now yes, there are some women who aren't naive and/or ignorant like in the paragraph above...these women like having "orbiters". They love having guys showering them with attention - when they darn well known that they have no interest in the guy and they don't feel any remorse for leading a guy on. Some of them actually think a guy is just donna follow them around cuz he needs another "friend" so badly . So true. It's not just women that do this, men do too, just in smaller numbers I would think (supply and demand and all that). Anyways, the situation that brought me here is so similar to OP's post and Glorias post that I'm going to have to say you need to define what you guys are soon before someones heart gets utterly wrecked. 1
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