egalew Posted October 23, 2016 Posted October 23, 2016 Here's an observation I've made that I wanted to share. About a year ago I meant what I thought was a really great guy. Everyone who met him liked him. Then, after a really sweet romance and thinking maybe he was the one, I got dumped. I've stayed friends with him on FB though we're no contact. In in the 8 months since we parted way, I've seen him blow through many women. Worse is that all the tactics he used to wheel me in, I see him using on other women. The same cute lines and moves. You think at 65 men would be over such games and nonsense. I makes me realize how addicting internet dating is and whatever moves and lines a guy uses on you he likely used on someone else as well.
smackie9 Posted October 23, 2016 Posted October 23, 2016 (edited) At 65 he's living life having lots of women. Some people who have been married for a long time, then get divorced/widowed, realize they have been missing out. It's not really games, but a choice. He isn't looking for long time commitment/marriage. He's a ladies man and enjoying what time he has on this earth. I say good for him if he is able still do it. Just because someone is 65 doesn't mean they are restricted to a life in a rocking chair watching the grand kids. Edited October 23, 2016 by smackie9 1
Fishfingersareyummy Posted October 23, 2016 Posted October 23, 2016 At 65 he's living life having lots of women. Some people who have been married for a long time, then get divorced/widowed, realize they have been missing out. It's not really games, but a choice. He isn't looking for long time commitment/marriage. He's a ladies man and enjoying what time he has on this earth. I say good for him if he is able still do it. Just because someone is 65 doesn't mean they are restricted to a life in a rocking chair watching the grand kids. That's all well and good but his Playboy lifestyle shouldn't mean he hurts women in the process.
Author egalew Posted October 23, 2016 Author Posted October 23, 2016 That was my point. When I was with him, he came across as a very faithful one-woman guy wanting to settle down. From the FB posts being exchanged, the women are pretty smitten, as I was when with him. He really wooed me and I "thought" he was indeed sincere with his declarations. If he's indeed a player and wants to date a lot, he needs to state that from the get-go.
Redhead14 Posted October 23, 2016 Posted October 23, 2016 That was my point. When I was with him, he came across as a very faithful one-woman guy wanting to settle down. From the FB posts being exchanged, the women are pretty smitten, as I was when with him. He really wooed me and I "thought" he was indeed sincere with his declarations. If he's indeed a player and wants to date a lot, he needs to state that from the get-go. The woman has some control over the situations she finds herself in by opening the conversations that need to happen if the guy doesn't do it . . . Have a conversation fairly early on about your dating goals and what you want out of your dating journey. If he says he's looking for a relationship, you continue to observe if he dates you that way. If he's upfront about it, you know for sure you aren't on the same page to start with. The is a guy I call the "Quality Casual Guy". He will find a woman he really likes, loves, even. He will treat her like a girlfriend and is a great guy to be with, but he does not intend to commit to her. He can date her for a long time, until she starts pushing for more from him. At which time, he will start backing off. And, even if she brings up the desire for a committed relationship for herself, he will use vague/ambiguous language to let her know that he doesn't want commitment -- i.e. "I don't know what I want", or "let's just see where it goes" . . . the woman usually ignores those statements or "hears" what she thinks he means and just keeps stringing herself along. These guys usually say things along the way that tip his hand if the woman is paying close attention, she will know she should move on if she wants a committed relationship with someone. Men don't use women, women allow themselves to be used because they ignore, spin, etc., things they hear and see very often. 1
Author egalew Posted October 23, 2016 Author Posted October 23, 2016 Agree with only some of what you said about men not using women. Read up about narcissitic personality disorder. When I met this guy I was very clear and every thing he did and said suggested that he too was very faithful and commitment. I say this, being someone who has dated a lot and consider myself pretty savvy about men. Some people are deceptive. Plain and simple.
elaine567 Posted October 23, 2016 Posted October 23, 2016 Men don't use women, women allow themselves to be used because they ignore, spin, etc., things they hear and see very often. I agree, many women concoct love stories in their head around boorish men, who are selfish and treat them bad, even hit them or abuse them or lie to them, or cheat on them and she still has a ready store of excuses as to why he does that or she ignores what is staring her in the face, in favour of her own "love story" script. No wonder so many men take advantage of women, it is like taking candy from a baby. 1
Shining One Posted October 23, 2016 Posted October 23, 2016 When I met this guy I was very clear and every thing he did and said suggested that he too was very faithful and commitment.Was he unfaithful to you during your time with him?
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