ilivefortheday Posted October 23, 2016 Posted October 23, 2016 (edited) Hi all, First time posting here. My boyfriend and I have been together for about two months, and although that is not a long time at all, he is really a great guy and treats me wonderfully (I have a pretty sordid past.) He (and myself as well) is pretty sexually driven (though thankfully our relationship is not centered around sex at all), and our chemistry is great. He recently went on a trip out of town, and when he told me he got me a gift, I could only guess what it was. And I was right. He bought me a vibrator. A little part of me was irritated. Granted, I didn't expect or need anything from him at all, but really, a vibrator? I would have honestly been more happy with a keychain or a cheap t-shirt. I mentioned this to him a bit, but I'm not sure if this is an overreaction on my part. Thoughts? Edited October 23, 2016 by ilivefortheday
joseb Posted October 23, 2016 Posted October 23, 2016 Is there a reason he might think you want one? Is it something you two have talked about?
Shanex Posted October 23, 2016 Posted October 23, 2016 He might be a tad more sex oriented than you thought he was. Not that it's wrong, though.
JewelD Posted October 23, 2016 Posted October 23, 2016 That's a weird souvenir. I had something similar happen to me. For vday, my bf bought handcuffs, a blindfold, and these 'special' chinese condoms that were supposed to be the thinnest ever (way too small for the average male). I liked sex, but he had an unhealthy obsession with it that didn't become clear until much later on. I found the 'gifts' incredibly ****ty as they were really gifts for him and the activity he enjoyed most, not anything I particularly wanted or liked. But I suppose a vibrator is a little better because it directly benefits you, but it's still a weird thing to bring someone unless it's on their xmas list.
Author ilivefortheday Posted October 31, 2016 Author Posted October 31, 2016 I definitely think i overreacted (or would have anyways) - this was something we had talked about getting previously! The more I thought about it, I was fine with it!! And it works great! LOL
Buddhist Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 Yeah you're being a bit ridiculous. It's a gift, something he thought you might like. So he got it wrong? big deal. Say thanks and move on.
Gaeta Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 Depends where he went. If he went to Flin Flon Manitoba yes a vibrator is cool. If he went to Paris, Madagascar, or Athene and all he thought of bringing back is a vibrator, I'd be annoyed.
mortensorchid Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 Had you talked about it before? It's kind of a brash gift to give someone, honestly. But who knows? Maybe it will be fun. For both of you that is. Perhaps this is TMI, but the love of my life and I (who left me about 14 years ago, and moved away over 10 - another story) incorporated one into things. A friend sent me one as a joke and I mentioned it to him not knowing what his reaction would be other than a laugh. Instead he said "I think we should use that." And we did. We paved the way to a lot of other things we did that perhaps we always wanted to try but never did with anyone before. And the sex was always at a 10 most of the time. I'm just saying.
Author ilivefortheday Posted November 29, 2016 Author Posted November 29, 2016 Our sex is always 10+ hahaha.:D
phineas Posted November 29, 2016 Posted November 29, 2016 they don't sell vibrators in your city/town?
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