smackie9 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 (edited) I've never seen a man I thought was attractive...but again that's me. Again, not passing judgement, just pointing out that there is a difference between preferences and prejudices. Preference is dating mostly white women, prejudices is only dating white women and not being open to anything else. Doesn't matter where you come from. OK I will REWORD it then....I have only date WM....I haven't met anyone of a difference race I found sexually attractive enough to want to date them. And yes it can matter where you are from....you can be a product of your environment, how you were raised, what you were exposed to in childhood. Edited October 22, 2016 by smackie9
Lancslad Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 I hear there's a lot of gorgeous Indian women in London. I'm about 350 miles from London, but there are many pretty ones in Manchester.
Fishfingersareyummy Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 I'm about 350 miles from London, but there are many pretty ones in Manchester. Manchester it is then.
jen1447 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 I am a [white male] who pretty much only dates [black women] (or mixed). Do you have ethic or racial preferences? Interesting that you're a w/m who's mainly into b/f, just bc IME that's one of the less common matchups. For me it's mainly about phases ....I've gone thru a variety. 1
Author kmack513 Posted October 22, 2016 Author Posted October 22, 2016 Interesting that you're a w/m who's mainly into b/f, just bc IME that's one of the less common matchups. For me it's mainly about phases ....I've gone thru a variety. About 15 years ago I was with my BF date at a really nice steakhouse, and hostess and waitstaff (White women) gave me some strange looks lol. Used to have a hard time finding girls that I wanted to date but since I moved back into the city much easier. But I do see much more WM BW pairings these days. It could depend on where one resides.
DKT3 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 OK I will REWORD it then....I have only date WM....I haven't met anyone of a difference race I found sexually attractive enough to want to date them. And yes it can matter where you are from....you can be a product of your environment, how you were raised, what you were exposed to in childhood. Hey you like what you like, if you only find white men attractive then you should only date white men. I'm not attracted to timid women so I've never dated one.
leogirl876 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Easy for white men, not so much for men of color. Not necessarily. I'm dating a black guy (I'm a white woman) and he's the first person of color I've dated before. His ex-wife is white, so I don't think he has any problems, but it's probably because he carries himself with a lot of confidence which makes all the difference to me and most women. He's also smart & successful.
DKT3 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Interesting that you're a w/m who's mainly into b/f, just bc IME that's one of the less common matchups. For me it's mainly about phases ....I've gone thru a variety. It is rare. BM/WF being by far the most common followed by WM/AF. WM/BF is only ahead of AM/BF
Fishfingersareyummy Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 It is rare. BM/WF being by far the most common followed by WM/AF. WM/BF is only ahead of AM/BF It's becoming less and less rare which is great. I read an interesting statistic that stated that relationships between black women and white men lasted longer than any other pairing. 1
jen1447 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 About 15 years ago I was with my BF date at a really nice steakhouse, and hostess and waitstaff (White women) gave me some strange looks lol. Used to have a hard time finding girls that I wanted to date but since I moved back into the city much easier. But I do see much more WM BW pairings these days. It could depend on where one resides. It is rare. BM/WF being by far the most common followed by WM/AF. WM/BF is only ahead of AM/BF Also AM/~anything~ if what we read on here at times is true. If porn is any indication (and I know it's not exactly a barometer of reality but it does reflect tastes inasmuch as it delivers what ppl want), BM/WF is THE only real interracial pairing. I mean it's bscly synonymous w "interracial" in porn. That might reflect a sort of cuckoldy sensibility in its consumers (cuckold porn often features BM/WF) but I can tell you it's reflected in reality among a lot of white women.
Author kmack513 Posted October 22, 2016 Author Posted October 22, 2016 It's becoming less and less rare which is great. I read an interesting statistic that stated that relationships between black women and white men lasted longer than any other pairing. lowest divorce in USA is WM/BW.
Fishfingersareyummy Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 lowest divorce in USA is WM/BW. That doesn't surprise me as I've read accounts that the happiest relationships are between black women and white men. 1
DKT3 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 It's becoming less and less rare which is great. I read an interesting statistic that stated that relationships between black women and white men lasted longer than any other pairing. All interracial marriage last longer statically speaking.
Fishfingersareyummy Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 All interracial marriage last longer statically speaking. That maybe true, but I am not talking about all interracial relationships. I'm talking about black women and white men relationships which statistically outlast any other interracial relationship. If the statistics are accurate then black women and white men are made for each other. 1
Author kmack513 Posted October 22, 2016 Author Posted October 22, 2016 All interracial marriage last longer statically speaking. Highest divorce rates are BM/WW then AM/WW. https://www.quora.com/Which-race-or-ethnic-group-has-the-highest-divorce-rate-in-America-and-why
Fishfingersareyummy Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Highest divorce rates are BM/WW then AM/WW. https://www.quora.com/Which-race-or-ethnic-group-has-the-highest-divorce-rate-in-America-and-why I'm noticing a pattern emerging here. 1
Author kmack513 Posted October 22, 2016 Author Posted October 22, 2016 I'm noticing a pattern emerging here. Don't go there lol. 1
DKT3 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 That maybe true, but I am not talking about all interracial relationships. I'm talking about black women and white men relationships which statistically outlast any other interracial relationship. If the statistics are accurate then black women and white men are made for each other. Some are maybe....but I'm a black man and only one of my black female relatives (to the best of my knowledge) is even slightly attracted to white men. None that I know of have dated a white man. Now I will freely admit I find many of those views pushing racism. Comments like he is cute for a white boy, or white guys are too weak for me, I need a strong man with a backbone. Comments that are ridiculous to me because only way to make comments like that would be having dated alot of white men....he££ in most if their cases I would be happy with one, something to base that comment on.
Author kmack513 Posted October 22, 2016 Author Posted October 22, 2016 Some are maybe....but I'm a black man and only one of my black female relatives (to the best of my knowledge) is even slightly attracted to white men. None that I know of have dated a white man. Now I will freely admit I find many of those views pushing racism. Comments like he is cute for a white boy, or white guys are too weak for me, I need a strong man with a backbone. Comments that are ridiculous to me because only way to make comments like that would be having dated alot of white men....he££ in most if their cases I would be happy with one, something to base that comment on. Your relatives probably base that on the standard nerdy hipster WM, that is common surprisingly in real life and on TV. If they live in more integrated areas or work places and have their radar on circumstances can be different. BTW I don't think what they say is racist in any way. There are lots of billy bad a s s guys from my gym to guys I knew in the military. Actually I see lots of wimpy Euro guys at resorts in the Caribbean, however that is small sample size real small.
mortensorchid Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 I am white and I am not attracted to men of other races. I did date outside my race twice - once an Asian man who really screwed things up and forever tainted me from going down that path (because I was curious), and I had a Jewish bf years ago. Otherwise I do not date outside my race. Oddly enough, I have a FWB who says he only prefers to date outside his race, he's white, and he's had more sex with me than with any other woman in his whole life. Life is complicated.
normal person Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Believing attraction is a chemical reaction and you can't help but be attracted to your own race is an example of mental gymnastics. It's simply not true. Explain it, then. If we have some agency over what we're attracted to, I'd like to know about it as I'm sure many, many others would. I'm not saying I seek out people of one race "because" I'm only attracted to that race. However, most of the women I am attracted to coincidentally are that race. I can't help being attracted to people I find attractive, even if it's someone of a different race. Coincidentally (or not?) they usually have a lot in common, including race -- but race isn't a deliberate decision made.
Shining One Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 I'm an Indian male and I've dated women of all races. Most of the women I've dated were white, but it wasn't a result of racial preference on my part. In my area, I've found a larger number of white women who are open to dating an Indian man.I did date outside my race twice - once an Asian man who really screwed things up and forever tainted me from going down that path (because I was curious)I'm curious about the logic here. If you had dated a white man who "really screwed things up", would you no longer date white men?
DKT3 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 I'm an Indian male and I've dated women of all races. Most of the women I've dated were white, but it wasn't a result of racial preference on my part. In my area, I've found a larger number of white women who are open to dating an Indian man.I'm curious about the logic here. If you had dated a white man who "really screwed things up", would you no longer date white men? Of course not, but its what we do as humans, one experience can influence your perception. It's very human. 1
Fishfingersareyummy Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 .I'm curious about the logic here. If you had dated a white man who "really screwed things up", would you no longer date white men? It seems to be a human reaction. It's not necessarily the logical thing to do because a person is making generalizations about a group of people based on the actions of small section of that group but logic seems to go out of the window when it comes to the dating game.
Shining One Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Of course not, but its what we do as humans, one experience can influence your perception. It's very human.It seems to be a human reaction. It's not necessarily the logical thing to do because a person is making generalizations about a group of people based on the actions of small section of that group but logic seems to go out of the window when it comes to the dating game.I've had negative experiences with women of most races. At no point did I think: "Alright, I've never dating women of X race again." If you say this line of thinking is normal, I'll take your word for it. It just doesn't make sense to me, but I know my thinking is far from normal.
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