kmack513 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 (edited) I am a [white male] who pretty much only dates [black women] (or mixed). Do you have ethic or racial preferences? I have a friend who is all about Asian girls. He left Chicago, for a similar job in Vietnam, mainly for women. Another friend is all about tall Eastern Euro or Russian blond women. How about you? Edited October 22, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
smackie9 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 no....i always dated within my race.....that is what I'm attracted to.
Fishfingersareyummy Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 I don't have any preferences because I have been attracted to all races of women. Where I come from people date people not because they have a "preference".
jay1983 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Easy for white men, not so much for men of color.
SammySammy Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 No, I don't. I've dated a wide variety with no preference for any race or ethnicity.
DKT3 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 no....i always dated within my race.....that is what I'm attracted to. Good looking is good looking, didn't know it was limited to one race. 5
Author kmack513 Posted October 22, 2016 Author Posted October 22, 2016 Easy for white men, not so much for men of color. There is a subset of BW that probably have no interest in me, luckily many do. I bump into lots of younger white guys at my gym, like 1-7 years out of college, decent looking guys with decent career, and they struggle to find girls who want to get married and have a couple of kids. I tell them to consider BW and foreign women. 3 black guys at my gym, known them for years married WW.
SammySammy Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Good looking is good looking, didn't know it was limited to one race. True. I've always wondered about people who find only one group of people attractive. Wonder about the mental gymnastics one has to go through to determine only this particular race is attractive. 3
jay1983 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 On match there is a race criteria check box for user to specify what races they're open to dating. I knew some white women only dated white men. I thought maybe 50%, it was more like 90%. Then Asian and Hispanic women. Some listed their own race plus white and a sh*t load of them listed only white, excluding their own race.
smackie9 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Good looking is good looking, didn't know it was limited to one race. I'm not saying other races don't have attractive people....just that I'm only sexually attracted to WM. I thought we were talking about preferences here. 5
smackie9 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 True. I've always wondered about people who find only one group of people attractive. Wonder about the mental gymnastics one has to go through to determine only this particular race is attractive. You are attracted to what you are attracted to...it's biological...something you don't have any control over. No one wakes up one day and say I will only be attracted to______.
CryForNoOne Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 I never got the whole race thing. We all have preferences, I guess I like Indian women the most but it's so unimportant to me in the grand scheme of things. I've dated all races and their ethnicity had so little bearing on who they actually were. My favorite car color is silver, but I'd drive a yellow BMW over a silver Chrysler any day of the week... 1
DKT3 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 I'm not saying other races don't have attractive people....just that I'm only sexually attracted to WM. I thought we were talking about preferences here. Attraction is sexual. If you find men attractive then there is a sexual element to it. There are those that will limit themselves sexually to their race for whatever reason, then those that don't find other races attractive.one is preference and the other is prejudice. I'm not saying your one or the other I'm just saying. 1
LargoLagg Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 I'm usually not attracted to my own ethnicity. They remind me of my mom and sister. 2
DKT3 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 You are attracted to what you are attracted to...it's biological...something you don't have any control over. No one wakes up one day and say I will only be attracted to______. This is actually false, your attraction is not genetic, it's learned and molded by your environment and cultivation from FOO 5
mavendark Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Attraction is sexual. If you find men attractive then there is a sexual element to it. There are those that will limit themselves sexually to their race for whatever reason, then those that don't find other races attractive.one is preference and the other is prejudice. I'm not saying your one or the other I'm just saying. Those who limit themselves to their race may be attracted to people based on their shared cultural interests rather than sexually, perhaps... 1
DKT3 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Those who limit themselves to their race may be attracted to people based on their shared cultural interests rather than sexually, perhaps... True but still the same, one is preference and one is prejudice 1
Author kmack513 Posted October 22, 2016 Author Posted October 22, 2016 I'm usually not attracted to my own ethnicity. They remind me of my mom and sister. lol that is funny,
Author kmack513 Posted October 22, 2016 Author Posted October 22, 2016 This is actually false, your attraction is not genetic, it's learned and molded by your environment and cultivation from FOO I kinda agree with this. As a younger guy, being Irish German Catholic, I assumed I needed to date a girl like that (or Polish/Italian whatever). Over time that changed.
normal person Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Wonder about the mental gymnastics one has to go through to determine only this particular race is attractive. None. No one's saying only one race is objectively attractive, but people have personal preferences. Having preferences isn't a conscious decision, it's a biological, chemical reaction in your brain that you have no control over. The same way women don't do mental gymnastics to be attracted to tall men. The same same way men can't rationalize being attracted to thin, pretty women. Or whatever the trait is (plus, notice the prevalence of same-race couplings over interracial ones and that should tell you something about peoples' natural predilections). If the chemicals in your brain make you prefer people of other races, that's fine. But let's not assume that if you prefer people of a race that happens to be your own, that it's "mental gymnastics." There's nothing "mental" about it. It's not thought -- it's chemical. There are certain qualities you're attracted to, and ones you aren't. It's out of everyone's control. I'm as permissive, tolerant, and humanistic as they come. But with specific regards to race and attraction, I'm as picky as they come. I'm personally only particularly attracted to white women, with the occasional exception. But that's far from the whole story -- I'm basically only attracted to white women who also happen to be funny, reasonable, in great shape, interesting, beautiful, smart, sassy, shorter than 5'7", preferably blonde, etc. That's just what I like. People who don't fit those criteria just don't excite me; I'm just not compelled by them in the same way and couldn't force myself to be. There are lots of discriminations being made in my mind for many different reasons, some of which I can't rationalize or understand. Condensing the argument to just race is myopic. Why people like other people, race and all other things considered, is not a conscious decision.
SammySammy Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Believing attraction is a chemical reaction and you can't help but be attracted to your own race is an example of mental gymnastics. It's simply not true. 3
smackie9 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Attraction is sexual. If you find men attractive then there is a sexual element to it. There are those that will limit themselves sexually to their race for whatever reason, then those that don't find other races attractive.one is preference and the other is prejudice. I'm not saying your one or the other I'm just saying. No that is not true....I find some women attractive too....doesn't mean I want to f &*^ them. I live in the Vancouver area. We have the most mixed race/culture population anywhere in the world. I don't live in some red neck back woods town where we wear white hoods and burn crosses This happens all the time on these threads, going on about discrimination/prejudice. By making such passive suggestions makes you discriminate against me for having a simple preference towards what I find sexually attractive. It is what it is....and for those who can't get women to find them attractive, stop blaming your nationality. If you all are saying all races have attractive people (which they do) then you are just contradicting yourself, and the reality is...mmmm maybe you are not good looking to being with. 2
Lancslad Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 If I fancied a woman who was a different race and the feeling was mutual, then I wouldn't care what anyone else thought. I live in a town where it's all white English people and you don't see mixed race relationships, so I'd quite happily move if it was a problem.
DKT3 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 No that is not true....I find some women attractive too....doesn't mean I want to f &*^ them. I live in the Vancouver area. We have the most mixed race/culture population anywhere in the world. I don't live in some red neck back woods town where we wear white hoods and burn crosses This happens all the time on these threads, going on about discrimination/prejudice. By making such passive suggestions makes you discriminate against me for having a simple preference towards what I find sexually attractive. It is what it is....and for those who can't get women to find them attractive, stop blaming your nationality. If you all are saying all races have attractive people (which they do) then you are just contradicting yourself, and the reality is...mmmm maybe you are not good looking to being with. I've never seen a man I thought was attractive...but again that's me. Again, not passing judgement, just pointing out that there is a difference between preferences and prejudices. Preference is dating mostly white women, prejudices is only dating white women and not being open to anything else. Doesn't matter where you come from.
Fishfingersareyummy Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 If I fancied a woman who was a different race and the feeling was mutual, then I wouldn't care what anyone else thought. I live in a town where it's all white English people and you don't see mixed race relationships, so I'd quite happily move if it was a problem. I hear there's a lot of gorgeous Indian women in London.
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