Buggy713 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Hi,there is this co-worker that I like. I have been working with her for about 2 years and I just found a new job. It seems like she gives me mixed signals, sometimes we can act like boyfriend and girlfriend, and sometimes she treats me like I am in the friend-zone. I touch her alot and she is ok with it and sometimes she touches me back. I asked her out 4 months ago but she does not date coworkers. Why would a girl get nervous and awkward in a group conversation when you talk about other girls that you are seeing yet show you mixed signals in general? Yesterday was my last day at my job and me and my coworkers went out to eat, When I started talking about other girls, there was visible reaction on her face; she could not even look me in the eye, she seemed really uncomfortable. She eventually loosened up, maybe when I stated that I was not serious about anyone. She is an antsy girl in general but I could notice it made her really uncomfortable for the first minute. Yet this same girl gives me mixed signals and sometimes talks to me like I am in the friend-zone? What do you make of her? I was thinking of not contacting her unless she contacts me... I have her number. What is your take on her.. and is also seems like she is still recovering from a super bad breakup that happened a year ago.
smudge21 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 I'd say she wants the attention, loves the fact you appear to show interest and chase her... but has no interest in taking it further, so pushes away when you get too close. Then when you back off, her ego is no longer being fed, so she comes a-calling, even gets moody when you appear to not show her the interest that she's got so used to and now expects from you. Yep, sadly as much as you like this girl, I would let it go and focus on finding someone who doesn't play games with others emotions for her own enjoyment. Let her get her ego fix from some other poor soul - you know you're worth more than that. 1
kmack513 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Have you ever asked her out or gone a date with her?
Marc878 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Now that you no longer work there ask her out. If you're interested, why not? You have nothing to lose here. Don't wait on her to contact you. Good luck
Author Buggy713 Posted October 22, 2016 Author Posted October 22, 2016 I'd say she wants the attention, loves the fact you appear to show interest and chase her... but has no interest in taking it further, so pushes away when you get too close. Then when you back off, her ego is no longer being fed, so she comes a-calling, even gets moody when you appear to not show her the interest that she's got so used to and now expects from you. Yep, sadly as much as you like this girl, I would let it go and focus on finding someone who doesn't play games with others emotions for her own enjoyment. Let her get her ego fix from some other poor soul - you know you're worth more than that. Honestly your probably right, I did ask her out about 4 months ago, she originally seemed excited to hangout but then at the last minute she changed her mind and stated that she did not date coworkers. We flirt and does she give off signals of interests then she gives off signals of non-interest. Sometimes at the office she would just stare at me or act nervous around me, she is really an ansty girl and she is not comfortable in her own body. I will probably just let her reach out to me if she does.....I am seeing other people so I am not too caught up on her lol. But I have done this before with two coworkers from other jobs letting all these feelings build up for months and even years and not even kissing them or dating them.... like a cat chasing a piece of chess for too long and not getting even a bite lol... not doing that **** again...... 1
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