hew Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Hi guys, I just got into a new relationship with someone. Ive been single for 4 months now (after a 4 month relationship), and hes been single for 5 months after a 7 year one. We met on tinder, but I have known who he was because of our mutual friend. Im just nervous because is it too soon? Is it wrong to be dating someone new? He says he loves me, and tells me hes over his ex and he has moved on after realizing they weren't good for each other etc.. The passion is there, hes great to be around and is always all over me. Im just feel very paranoid due to my anxiety and it freaks me out. Im mostly freaked out because im nervous his ex will make a comment to him or our mutual friend will. Or what if hes just deeply hurting and this is a major way to cope.
Gaeta Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Never ever date someone so soon out of a relationship. You know that don't you? He can try to convince you or himself he is over his 7 year relationship in 4 months, you know it's not so. He needs some time alone to process everything and find a new direction in life. Then he'll need a couple of transition gf before he is ready to commit again. 99% of those who date right after a separation are exactly like your boyfriend. They fall in love fast, they want to be with you all the time, they can't get enough of you till one day they get up and POOF, feelings are all gone.
Ami1uwant Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 without knowing your ages im assuming you are 20 something....so 5 months after a 7 year relationship is fine for him to be ready to date again. It would be different if he actually had gotten married.
Survivor12 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 You JUST began a relationship and he already says he's in love with you? Whoa! Realizing that he & his ex aren't compatible is not the same as being over her. It sounds to me as though you are a rebound which is why he is moving so fast--he wants to be in the relationship he had with his ex so he's recreating it. My advice would be to back off & slow things down. Don't allow yourself to get too invested. Protect your heart. Good luck. 2
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