I Got IT Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 ok..I've liked this guy named Tyler for almost 3 years (since 7th grade..i'm now going into 10th)...and everybody says we'd be so cute together..and i really want to be with him..obviously if i've liked him for 3 years...i would give anything to be with him. But he flirts with me online and stuff and he always looks at me at school but when i confront him about it..he just denies it and says we're just friends..but we might go out. My friends are telling me to take a chance and just do something out of the blue to him while we are out at a publiv place with our friends..but idk if i'll come off as a whore or something.. I have my friends ask him if he'd ever go out with me and he said.. that i'm his "type" of girl and that he'd go out with me if he liked me like that. And i know that he would have a great time if he would just take a chance and go out with me.. What should I do??
Zaira Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 Accept that he just wants to be friends. Enjoy the time that you spend with him, but don't push him for more or you will end up pushing him away.
Marshbear Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 Originally posted by ~Zaira~ Accept that he just wants to be friends. Enjoy the time that you spend with him, but don't push him for more or you will end up pushing him away. Depends on what you want. If friends are not enough then you need to step away so you can move on to someone who does like you that way. If you wanting more pushes him away then he really wasn't a friend to begin with. He is being selfish and is only concerned about what he wants. The choice is yours to make so decide what is in your best interest. Losing him as a friend might let you free to find a guy that is into you.
Jennifer'sSecret Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 Usually actions speak louder than words, but when a guy is saying he just wants to be friends, you should believe him. He's not interested in a romantic/dating relationship with you. If you can handle continuing to be "just friends" with him, fantastic. But if your gut tells you that you can't, you should just leave him be and pay attention to the guys at school who DO want to be more than friends...
Zaira Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 Originally posted by Marshbear Depends on what you want. If friends are not enough then you need to step away so you can move on to someone who does like you that way. I agree with this to a certain extent. However, if she can keep her feelings at bay then there is no reason why she still shouldn't be friends with him. If you wanting more pushes him away then he really wasn't a friend to begin with. The guy may like her and enjoy spending time with her just as friends. If he keeps getting hounded and pressured, then of course he's going to want to distance himself. It doesn't mean he's selfish, or not her FRIEND.
ggallin13 Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 A man would not tell you he wanted to be friends if he had any remote interest in sleeping with you. Honestly, even if he didn't want you as a GF he would still sleep with you because he knows he can. Because he told you this you have no chance, bail right now. You will never, ever get him in the way you want.
Marshbear Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 The guy may like her and enjoy spending time with her just as friends. If he keeps getting hounded and pressured, then of course he's going to want to distance himself. It doesn't mean he's selfish, or not her FRIEND. I can see that if she is stalking him. If he can't talk to her and tell her how he feels without distancing himself then I would question how good of a friend he really is.
Zaira Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 Originally posted by Marshbear I can see that if she is stalking him. If he can't talk to her and tell her how he feels without distancing himself then I would question how good of a friend he really is. That's true, but he did already tell her how he feels so she should just leave it at that.
Dasani Posted July 17, 2005 Posted July 17, 2005 Originally posted by I Got IT ok..I've liked this guy named .... but when i confront him about it..he just denies it and says we're just friends..but we might go out. My friends are telling me to take a chance and just do something out of the blue to him while we are out at a publiv place with our friends..but idk if i'll come off as a whore or something.. What should I do?? replace him with her, he with she, whore with perv, and guy with girl... annnnnd WELCOME TO THE MALE UNIVERSE!
Naive Posted July 17, 2005 Posted July 17, 2005 You can try and make a move on him but if he does not like you in that way nothing is going to make him feel any different. From what you posted it seems that he only sees you as a friend and nothing more but you can give it a try if you really, really, really like him. If it turns out that in fact he JUST likes you as a friend you should just let it go because if you try to change the way he feels you are just going to put yourself through a lot of heartaches!
Swamp Posted July 17, 2005 Posted July 17, 2005 Leave him alone, completely and let him come to you. Maybe flirt with one of his really good friends to make him jealous. He knows you like him. So make him think you don't (don't TELL him though). A lot of Loveshack.org people are here because they don't understand the concept of playing games, but it is absolutely necessary.
d'Arthez Posted July 17, 2005 Posted July 17, 2005 Originally posted by Swamp A lot of Loveshack.org people are here because they don't understand the concept of playing games, but it is absolutely necessary. Yes. Chess is a great game to play. It stimulates your brain, and helps your creative processes. It is absolutely helpful to develop your mental skills. Necessary? No. If you want to play games to get him, you will not get him in the way you want him. It will be a relationship with all kinds of issues. To overcome these issues will be even harder, than winning him over. In short: it is not worth it. Have to agree with ggallin13. If a man says 'no chance', it really means 'no chance.'
crazy_grl Posted July 17, 2005 Posted July 17, 2005 Originally posted by Swamp A lot of Loveshack.org people are here because they don't understand the concept of playing games, but it is absolutely necessary. Yes, and swamp is merely here to educate all us mortals on the art of playing games and how wonderful and perfect it's made his godly existance. You're not going to be able to pretend you're not interested in him if you really are and he knows you are. He's most likely going to see through it. And if he really isn't interested in you, he still won't come around even if he doesn't see through it. And then, you'll just have made yourself more hurt, frustrated, and desperate, because you've spent so much more effort on trying to get him and it didn't work. The only way you might have a chance with him is to actually move on. Even then, it's not guaranteed. He may never come around, but at least if you're really over him instead of pretending to be just to get his attention, you're not really going to be that hurt by it. Stop spending time with him and start hanging out with your other friends and other guys. And don't make a move on him in public. There'd be nothing more embarrassing for him than that, and nothing more embarrassing for you if he shot you down.
alphamale Posted July 17, 2005 Posted July 17, 2005 Originally posted by I Got IT What should I do?? I would suggest stop chasing a dude who isn't intersted and find one who is. Once you're with another guy and "Tyler" sees that, then he may change his mind reverse psychology I GOT IT!
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