Is he just being friendly and social or does he likes me?

[BlueIvy]

So, at my college, there is this dude that sits next to me. I noticed he seems to always try to talk to me, related to the class topics for the most part. He never complimented me or flirted or anything.

 

For instance, I asked a question in class and everyone laughed, including him. He then said, "You always have the best answers."

Or when the class was discussing a local event, he googled it and then showed it to me. I remember we had a quiz and I asked him if he knew about the particular topics, because IDK. He tried to clarify but then he looked at his phone and found some notes and gave it to me to read. Also, when the room was freezing, he asked me if I was cold, to which I stated yes, and then he agreed.

 

I thought maybe he is just friendly but then I remember when someone took his seat because he was late, he sat next in between 2 other girls and he didn't talk to them at all, except to ask one question.

 

Also, my school is a commuter college so no one really talks to each other, unless they know eachother.

 

A lot of people say I am very pretty but when it comes to men, usually only the dogs will say how attractive I am. Nice men will usually show me, but even then, it's usually not obvious. For instance, a classmate who was in my group never showed any signs until when we texted for a group project, he made a joke and then told me how he thinks I am lovely. Never gave me signs so I was surprised! According to a few men that know me, I am intimidating because of my height and beauty. And apparently, I come off very confident.

 

So, IDK, if this kid is just being friendly or what? I actually think he's kinda cute but I am not really forward or flirtatious when it comes to men, unless I know for a fact the feeling is mutual.

 

 

What do you guys think?

Edited October 21, 2016 by BlueIvy

[BlueIvy]

Anyone,lol?

[Fishfingersareyummy]

There isn't enough information here to make a decision with any degree of certainty.

[palmsand]

This is kind of crazy, but I am that dude at my school. Much of what you just described is almost identical to what has been happening between me and this girl I sit next to in class. In my case, things are reversed. I am interested in her, and trying to figure out if the feeling is mutual.

 

I have been slowly getting closer to her in asking her to study and such. I see some promising signs from her, like her wanting my phone number and that fact that she really listens to me and remembers details about my life.

 

I don't know enough yet to say she is interested in me, but things are going well so far.

 

I think you could ask him to study with you, exchange numbers, just see where things go. It would help to figure out how interested he is in seeing you outside of class, for example. If he is interested, he will be quite happy to spend time with you.

[BlueIvy]

This is kind of crazy, but I am that dude at my school. Much of what you just described is almost identical to what has been happening between me and this girl I sit next to in class. In my case, things are reversed. I am interested in her, and trying to figure out if the feeling is mutual.

 

I have been slowly getting closer to her in asking her to study and such. I see some promising signs from her, like her wanting my phone number and that fact that she really listens to me and remembers details about my life.

 

I don't know enough yet to say she is interested in me, but things are going well so far.

 

I think you could ask him to study with you, exchange numbers, just see where things go. It would help to figure out how interested he is in seeing you outside of class, for example. If he is interested, he will be quite happy to spend time with you.

 

As a woman, it can go either way. I know I have exchanged numbers with dudes because they are cool and I see them as a friend. She does seems to like you but IDK if it's a friend like or a romance like. But keep giving signs...

 

As for myself, it's hard for me to show interest. And the thing is since he's my classmate, to tell him or show him I like him, if it's not mutual, might be awkward. I get better grades than him so I think he will know I don't need a study partner. I am going to miss class because I have an appointment to keep and I was thinking of telling him and asking if he can take notes and I give my email, and maybe he can take that and try to email me. I figure if he's interested, he will try to flirt in email or use that to ask for my number. I figure if he's not interested, then he will just send me the notes and leave it at that.

[BlueIvy]

There isn't enough information here to make a decision with any degree of certainty.

 

Lol. Me either. The thing that makes me feel he likes me is that he always initiates talking to me. And most guys don't talk to me unless they find me attractive, only a small percentage of men try to actually be friends with me. Oh, when the professor hands back readings, she gives it to him first since he's closer to outside of desk. But I notice he passes it to me first and waits for teacher to give reading. Could be nothing because I would probably do that to just because it's easier for teacher to give reading to him than reaching it to give to me on the inside.

[palmsand]

As a woman, it can go either way. I know I have exchanged numbers with dudes because they are cool and I see them as a friend. She does seems to like you but IDK if it's a friend like or a romance like. But keep giving signs...

 

As for myself, it's hard for me to show interest. And the thing is since he's my classmate, to tell him or show him I like him, if it's not mutual, might be awkward. I get better grades than him so I think he will know I don't need a study partner. I am going to miss class because I have an appointment to keep and I was thinking of telling him and asking if he can take notes and I give my email, and maybe he can take that and try to email me. I figure if he's interested, he will try to flirt in email or use that to ask for my number. I figure if he's not interested, then he will just send me the notes and leave it at that.

 

 

That sounds like a good plan but I'm not sure I would rule it out if he doesn't take that opportunity.

 

If you want to send a subtle sign, it's good that he knows you don't really need to study. That should give him the idea that you want to see him, more than for just school. If that is your intention, of course. I did this exact thing with the girl in my case.

[Fishfingersareyummy]

Lol. Me either. The thing that makes me feel he likes me is that he always initiates talking to me. And most guys don't talk to me unless they find me attractive, only a small percentage of men try to actually be friends with me. Oh, when the professor hands back readings, she gives it to him first since he's closer to outside of desk. But I notice he passes it to me first and waits for teacher to give reading. Could be nothing because I would probably do that to just because it's easier for teacher to give reading to him than reaching it to give to me on the inside.

 

The only way of knowing is if he asks you out.