thissucksbigones Posted October 21, 2016 Posted October 21, 2016 Two months ago I went on one date with this nice guy from tinder. We had sex. That's what I wanted-a one night stand. I told myself that if the guy is a dud i'll just go home and if he is nice i'll sleep with him. I had the mindset that he wasn't going to text me afterwards. To my surprise he did. A few times after the first date. He asked me out again. i sensed that he was interested in me. I didn't want to lead him on so I told him that we should leave it at a one night stand. He suggested a FWB if I didn't want anything else and I just said no that I didn't want anything. Though I actually liked him but timing wasn't right. I was trying to get over an ex and thought sleeping with someone else would help me. It didn't. I learned that I wasn't ready to date anyone. Two months pass and I just felt ready to date. Meet new people. Perhaps rekindle something with tinder guy. I text him and he replies. He invites me out two days later. I spent the night (no sex). It was nice. He starts texting me like he did before. Wishing me a good day and what not. Two weeks later I invited him out. I spent the night... Things were fine I think. I come off aloof. Uninterested. I can't help it. Tinder guy stops texting me. Doesn't respond to my texts (I sent two). I feel like hes blowing me off. I don't know what to think.
PaperCrane Posted October 21, 2016 Posted October 21, 2016 Well, he did what I would do. You'd have rejected me once, right after sex. Even if you were honest I'd still have a lightly bruised ego. Then all of a sudden you pop up after two months and keep cold shouldering me but wanting my attention? Nope. The only way to salvage this is to be 100% honest with the guy and let him know why you're being tepid.
Space Ritual Posted October 21, 2016 Posted October 21, 2016 Two months ago I went on one date with this nice guy from tinder. We had sex. That's what I wanted-a one night stand. I told myself that if the guy is a dud i'll just go home and if he is nice i'll sleep with him. I had the mindset that he wasn't going to text me afterwards. To my surprise he did. A few times after the first date. He asked me out again. i sensed that he was interested in me. I didn't want to lead him on so I told him that we should leave it at a one night stand. He suggested a FWB if I didn't want anything else and I just said no that I didn't want anything. Though I actually liked him but timing wasn't right. I was trying to get over an ex and thought sleeping with someone else would help me. It didn't. I learned that I wasn't ready to date anyone. Two months pass and I just felt ready to date. Meet new people. Perhaps rekindle something with tinder guy. I text him and he replies. He invites me out two days later. I spent the night (no sex). It was nice. He starts texting me like he did before. Wishing me a good day and what not. Two weeks later I invited him out. I spent the night... Things were fine I think. I come off aloof. Uninterested. I can't help it. Tinder guy stops texting me. Doesn't respond to my texts (I sent two). I feel like hes blowing me off. I don't know what to think. He does not want to invest any time in someone who has already acted wishy washy like you have. And how could anyone blame him? Just like you have every right to change your mind, so does he. and obviously he has. You don't come across as aloof, you come across as a game player. You are simply being paid in your own coin.
kendahke Posted October 21, 2016 Posted October 21, 2016 I come off aloof. Uninterested. I can't help it. Tinder guy stops texting me. Doesn't respond to my texts (I sent two). I feel like hes blowing me off. I don't know what to think. Think: That's what I wanted-a one night stand. I think you're getting a taste of your own medicine. You've got two conflicting messages here: on the one hand, you wanted something for the night to prove to yourself that you could still attract sexual attention. On the other, you're expecting him to initiate and maintain contact with someone who didn't want anything more than a one night stand. I think you need to decide which of these two is your actual truth and go stand in the center of it.
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