WonderKid Posted October 21, 2016 Posted October 21, 2016 I met this girl on a social app a little while ago. We ended up exchanging numbers. She said I sounded like I was really legit and a cool dude. Comes to find out we both like football and we actually watch college football together sometimes while texting. I was confused, but supposedly she kinda recently got out of a RS. I thought she was single for a while--I mean she made it seem that way. She mentioned how lonely she is at times and miss companionship. But y'know Winter is Coming so you gotta watch out and not become a seasonal. She went out on some kind of meeting/date with a guy who she claims is very boring. He made a move trying to kiss her and it threw her off. But here's the thing. Before this, I have mentioned us meeting up together. I mentioned it like twice and another time. She would like, go past it. Like I told her we should set a date to meet up she said alright. But never mentions it. Now she only texts when I text her. But then, one night she was totally out of character. Like, she's a tomboy for real. But this night she was extra sentimental. Like she was telling me that she's in pain and crying. I guess also crying from what her ex did to her etc. And I guess I was the shoulder to cry on that night. Seems like I got a lot of ladies that just want me as a texting bud. But WTH is that? Not like I didn't ask to meet up but they never do. I don't need more girls that are friends (especially ones I am attracted to). I had one girl who just came out and told me that a friend of hers confessed his attraction to her and she's gonna give him a shot. Now whether it was a lie or not, but at least she kept it real with me and I never heard from her again. I'd rather much like that.
Shining One Posted October 21, 2016 Posted October 21, 2016 But this night she was extra sentimental. Like she was telling me that she's in pain and crying. I guess also crying from what her ex did to her etc. And I guess I was the shoulder to cry on that night.Don't be emotional support for women you haven't seen naked.Seems like I got a lot of ladies that just want me as a texting bud. But WTH is that? Not like I didn't ask to meet up but they never do. I don't need more girls that are friends (especially ones I am attracted to).Don't spend a lot of time communicating with women you haven't seen naked.I had one girl who just came out and told me that a friend of hers confessed his attraction to her and she's gonna give him a shot. Now whether it was a lie or not, but at least she kept it real with me and I never heard from her again. I'd rather much like that.Many women will not be this direct, so it's up to you to rein yourself in. Think of it this way: You're wasting effort on uninterested women that could be better spent on potentially interested women. 4
Author WonderKid Posted October 21, 2016 Author Posted October 21, 2016 The woman that had her friend confess attraction to her, I actually met her once. We met up and hung at the mall. Now with the other girl getting mushy on me I didn't expect that. It was the only time and I agree not to be the emotional support thing. I don't necessarily need to see the girl naked, but I am thinking of just being direct and telling them what I think. Because some will actually try to text back sometime.
kvolm2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 People use social apps for lots of reason. Some women are just there to engage in conversation, find friends, find support with no intention of looking for a romantic relationship. If you are only looking to engage in conversation with women who are interested/available/ready to develop a long-term relationship then you might want to just say that up front. That helps everyone to be clear about the hopes and expectations of the conversations. 1
Shanex Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Don't be emotional support for women you haven't seen naked.Don't spend a lot of time communicating with women you haven't seen naked.Many women will not be this direct, so it's up to you to rein yourself in. Think of it this way: You're wasting effort on uninterested women that could be better spent on potentially interested women. Well done. I've been fooled a lot that way, never for too long though. And not anymore. Example : -I am just here for friends and chatting : Skip Many women are genuine about looking for a serious relationship, don't let those in the end of their relationship or marriage fool you in telling you they may be interested when they just want a pen/text pal. It's a waste of your time when hundreds women in your area are available, and a couple could be great match.
kmack513 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 Don't be emotional support for women you haven't seen naked.Don't spend a lot of time communicating with women you haven't seen naked.Many women will not be this direct, so it's up to you to rein yourself in. Think of it this way: You're wasting effort on uninterested women that could be better spent on potentially interested women. Excellent advice. 1
smackie9 Posted October 22, 2016 Posted October 22, 2016 When they start talking about their problems....next them. You don't score any points being someones emotional tampon. You make your desire/intention known. If they brush off/delay meeting you....don't waste anymore time. I know guys like you....you worry about "missed opportunity". The truth is there is no opportunity if nothing is happening except for talk.....actions speak louder than words. The others are right....limit yourself, learn to walk away. 3
bachdude Posted October 23, 2016 Posted October 23, 2016 Dude, you didn't really ask her out. You have "mentioned" meeting up? And you told her you two should set a date to meet? And she said alright? But she never mentions it? Why is it her job to mention it again? She gave you the green light but you never took action! Sorry to say but she probably friend zoned you because you are so passive about something as simple as asking her out. Now she sees you as her girlfriend.
mortensorchid Posted October 23, 2016 Posted October 23, 2016 Who's to say why men and/or women use dating websites/apps for purposes? Some I am convinced are not using it for actual dating, some are just looking for people to talk to like a chat room. I have met guys on it, in some cases face to face, where they tell me that they are just happy to have a texting buddy with it. And in other situations, I end up never meeting the man and they kind of treat me like a pen pal or a friend. If that's the case, which this woman sounds like, don't sweat it. This is how you weed out the serious ones from time wasters. And so many of them are time wasters. Once I met a man who clearly was not that interested in having a gf, and he said he'd just like me as a texting buddy. And we were for about a week or so, then I texted him that I was going away for a weekend. When I returned I texted "I'm back", and never heard from him again. Another just recently told me via text that he was stood up last weekend and disappointed. What could I say except I was sorry to hear that. Never heard from him again either. Don't waste time with time wasters.
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