Terrible break up

[FaithInTheDark]

This month I broke up with my boyfriend....it was a mutual decision.. the fighting got really bad to the point he told me to leave. We had many problems but really loved each other.

I've been couch surfing while trying to find a place. Me and him kept on contract but he was playing games like saying he wanted to work on our relationship when we were both happier people and call to say he loves me but then act like he wants nothing to do with me a couple days later. Over two weeks he'd say I miss you and stuff

Two days ago I asked him to leave my mail outside on his patio. He agree but when I went over it wasn't there so I used my key to grab the mail and left.

He called me that day screaming that I left the house unlocked which was an honest mistake and I get that wasn't cool.

He flipped out so bad....called me every name in the book and said he was throwing my remaining stuff outside in the alley. Also said I broke and enter the house. My went that day with a truck picked up my stuff. He texted calling me.more names.

The following morning he texted saying how sorry he is for what he said and how he's going crazy. He also said he wished he were dead.

I told him he needs help with his drinking.

Yesterday I went to look at a place for rent two streets away from.his house.

Completely unexpected he drove passed me ....and he pulled over on the side of the street and waved.

I was so freaked out I drove away. I truly feel he thinks I was stalking him or worst trying to break into his house even though I gave him a key back. Or maybe he just wanted to talk. I just so happen to drive passed his house.

Something inside of me got so weirded out I called to explain I was house viewing close by so he didn't think I was harassing him...but hes blocked my number. I facebooled him ...text him...even left I voicemail...just to make sure he's OK. I have visions of him hurting himself.... I understand contact is totally not right but I just care about him . I don't get why I care so much

Even after all of this abuse by him I constantly worry about his mental and physical health. He drinks everyday and admitted to going crazy.

I know I could never be with him again but I feel such a deep sadness how things turned out and wishing I knew if he was okay .

I feel like my mind is racing and I don't understand why I'm.still.holding onto someone that was so verbally abusive. I think just seeing him yesterday caused so much anxiety.

Any help?

Edited October 20, 2016 by FaithInTheDark

[Miss Clavel]

This month I broke up with my boyfriend....it was a mutual decision.. the fighting got really bad to the point he told me to leave. We had many problems but really loved each other.

I've been couch surfing while trying to find a place. Me and him kept on contract but he was playing games like saying he wanted to work on our relationship when we were both happier people and call to say he loves me but then act like he wants nothing to do with me a couple days later. Over two weeks he'd say I miss you and stuff

Two days ago I asked him to leave my mail outside on his patio. He agree but when I went over it wasn't there so I used my key to grab the mail and left.

He called me that day screaming that I left the house unlocked which was an honest mistake and I get that wasn't cool.

He flipped out so bad....called me every name in the book and said he was throwing my remaining stuff outside in the alley. Also said I broke and enter the house. My went that day with a truck picked up my stuff. He texted calling me.more names.

The following morning he texted saying how sorry he is for what he said and how he's going crazy. He also said he wished he were dead.

I told him he needs help with his drinking.

Yesterday I went to look at a place for rent two streets away from.his house.

Completely unexpected he drove passed me ....and he pulled over on the side of the street and waved.

I was so freaked out I drove away. I truly feel he thinks I was stalking him or worst trying to break into his house even though I gave him a key back. Or maybe he just wanted to talk. I just so happen to drive passed his house.

Something inside of me got so weirded out I called to explain I was house viewing close by so he didn't think I was harassing him...but hes blocked my number. I facebooled him ...text him...even left I voicemail...just to make sure he's OK. I have visions of him hurting himself.... I understand contact is totally not right but I just care about him . I don't get why I care so much

Even after all of this abuse by him I constantly worry about his mental and physical health. He drinks everyday and admitted to going crazy.

I know I could never be with him again but I feel such a deep sadness how things turned out and wishing I knew if he was okay .

I feel like my mind is racing and I don't understand why I'm.still.holding onto someone that was so verbally abusive. I think just seeing him yesterday caused so much anxiety.

Any help?

 

do not live near him. move on, move away. stay away.

 

drinkers drink and get drunk and drink and get depressed. wash rinse repeat.

 

he is not your responsibility.

 

leave him alone, let go, move on.

 

good luck

[whatnot]

"take aim. reload"

 

ROTFLMAO LOLOLOLOL (I think this struck gold in me LOL)

[Satu]

Do yourself a favour and do a total detox from this dysfunctional relationship.

 

It really isn't worth the heartache.

 

 

*No direct contact.

*No sending or receiving of messages.

*Block any means he might use to contact you.

*No replies to anything that gets through your blocks.

*No indirect contact through third parties.

*De-friend or delete him from all social media.

*No monitoring of him on social media.

*No 'little birds' feeding you news.

*Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what he is doing or saying.

 

 

Take care.