How do I stop driving myself insane over my ex and her new boyfriend?

[xxgreen20]

I think the root of the problem is here. You're denying a blatant reality: that you do have feelings for her, that you haven't accepted the situation at all and that you're full of hate and frustration right now. I can totally understand your feelings, but as long as you don't accept them, you'll keep thinking life is very unfair to you and everybody else is a jerk.

 

She lost her feelings for you. What can she do about it? Perhaps she wasn't honest straightaway, but it's not easy to hurt someone else unless you're a psycopath. On the other hand, if she's such a horrible person, why aren't you throwing a party instead of losing your temper?

 

You need to realize that you're not OK with her leaving, digest it, which may take a while, and carry on.

 

Well, I do in fact still have feelings for the girl whom I asked out the other day, so how could I still have feelings for my ex too? I'm not being mean to you or anything, I actually am wondering how that is possible.

[xxgreen20]

This friend isn't being a friend. Tell her to knock it off with the updates.

 

Also, 18 and 23 is too big of a gap at your age. You need to let this one go.

 

For what it's worth, I also wouldn't believe that she met this guy after you broke up with her. She was probably talking to him beforehand. But in the end, it doesn't actually matter. The important thing is that you process these feelings and let them go. You are keeping yourself stuck, and this "friend" isn't helping one bit.

 

As the others have said, you are still extremely young. You have years of dating ahead of you, and you want to be able to enjoy them.

 

When we first started dating, we agreed that age was just a number, but my parents and hers were not too thrilled with our age gap, even though my parents tolerated her and hers tolerated me. Part of the reason she said she lost her feelings was that we were at different stages of our lives. And I realize what a fool I was thinking an 18 and 23 yr old could actually have a lasting relationship, but I was blind at the time.

[aloneinaz]

When we first started dating, we agreed that age was just a number, but my parents and hers were not too thrilled with our age gap, even though my parents tolerated her and hers tolerated me. Part of the reason she said she lost her feelings was that we were at different stages of our lives. And I realize what a fool I was thinking an 18 and 23 yr old could actually have a lasting relationship, but I was blind at the time.

 

Then put this in perspective. Lots of 18 YO guys would love to have had that experience dating an older girl. It's good for your ego and actually kind of creepy and weird for her to date someone that much younger. I'd say the same thing if it was a 23 YO guy dating an 18YO girl.

 

Now, stop worrying about her and what's she's doing. Who cares. She's providing nothing in your life now so why care. Continue to get out there and date others your age. Have fun dam it!