6polar6bears6 Posted October 20, 2016 Posted October 20, 2016 I guess this story starts several years ago, when I was 11 or 12. My neighbor, who lived right across the street, tutored me, made cookies and other stuff like that, I felt she liked me. Her grandkids came down every summer to visit her, and we became good friends. There was the youngest, Rick. Then there was Patty (names changed for the sake of anonymity). I can't remember if I was into her at that time. Shes a few months younger than me.The oldest, Dave, was good friends with my brother and I. We went over a lot, made stupid videos together, created some nice memories in general. Over the next few years, they came down in the summer, and we would hang out until they'd go home at the end of the summer. So my neighbor moved a few year back, not far, maybe like 3 minutes away by car, but definitely not walking distance. So when Rick, Patty, and Dave would come, I didn't see them, mainly because I didn't know if they were there or not. So a few months ago, I heard that they moved in with their grandma permanently. Naturally, my brother and I went to see them. The youngest, Rick, stayed with his dad, but Patty and Dave now lived down here. I was really into Patty, it's kind of dumb how much I liked her. We hung out, me, Patty, and Dave, every couple of days (as much as their grandma would let). Eventually I told Patty I liked her, and she said she liked me too. Now, I thought I was getting into some kind of conventional relationship, but due to Patty's grandma, we kind of keep it secret, and Patty wants as few people to know as possible. So we've been spending time together ever since, not as much as I would like, but I do feel it's time well spent. Both Dave and Patty plan on going to state college, whereas I went to trade school for two weeks and dropped out. Lost a lot of respect from her grandmother that day. I like Patty because shes smart and very mature for her age, has a great sense of humor, not to mention I find her extremely attractive. She likes me because I have "the perfect personality" and I'm very funny. I don't know if she tells her friends about us; I mean, I tell my friends. But then again, I'm not even sure if we're really dating. We hold hands and stuff like that, but she doesn't like to kiss. I don't know if I've given enough information to support this, but I feel like she doesn't take relationships very seriously, and she doesn't seem to care about me much. She's extremely casual about it all, and it makes me feel like I'm only temporary until she finds someone she really likes. I also haven't stressed how I feel about this girl; I REALLY like her. No other girl has interested me much, they've all been pretty much cookie-cutter girls. I'm not trying to sound condescending. Another thing, Patty expresses how much she misses her old life back home, and i feel like just another bad aspect of this state she hates. If she would've stayed there, she'd be happy. She would've probably never dated me. But here she is, and I feel selfish to think I'm glad she moved here. I guess what I'm asking for is general advice. This situation is extremely confusing for me.
Buddhist Posted October 20, 2016 Posted October 20, 2016 It's not really complicated nor confusing. You met up with someone you used to know, like each other but for whatever reason she wants to keep you a secret and doesn't want to kiss you. This is not sounding like a budding relationship to me. It's sounding a lot like unreciprocated feelings. The rest is justification for why you don't want to view the possible painful truth, that she isn't really interested in you romantically. Sorry, I'm assuming here you guys are out of high school, so that's definitely old enough for someone to be feeling it and wanting to kiss you if she was.
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