S6Benz Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 Ok so we agreed to just meet up for a physical/sexual relationship and depending on how it went we'd decide to keep seeing each others. Things went well that first time and we continued to see each other for a total of 4 times. The 3rd time was an like actual date because we hung out and did stuff. So the next day we're texting, I end up telling her I've fallen for her and like her alot. She freaks out and calls me because she doesn't feel the same way, the chemistry isn't there for her, and worries about my feelings. She said she only feels similar and connected when we're talking about sex and doing stuff related to it. So we finish that conversation on the phone and agree to put my feelings aside and see each other again. She was really concerned about how I felt and wanted to know if I was sure about getting over her that fast and continue to see her. So a week later we see each other again afterwards and had the best night yet. She tells me no one ever made her feel that good, etc.. But Here's what I don't get,hiw could she not have feelings for me. Since day one she's the one initiating texting me every day and talking to me soo much. Sometimes I even try to kill the convo by being boring and she still keeps going. We talk about a lot of other things besides sex and she shares alot with me. Even after that amazing night she said it was most likely the best ever and when we're in the car I joked about not seeing her anymore and she started to cry. I asked her why and she said maybe I may have some feelings for you We text until 2/3am every night. She consistently tells me how much she thinks about me during the day etc. She even tells her friends about how great it was and how I make her feel. I'm not sure why she's saying there's no chemistry outside of sex talk and messing around, but talks to me so much everyday and about so many things. Why does she do all this if she said she feels I'm different when we aren't on sexual topics and stuff. What do you think?
selinaluv Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 How long have you guys known each other and this been going on? Sounds like she does have some feelings developing. Are you comfortable talking to her about it? 2
Author S6Benz Posted October 20, 2016 Author Posted October 20, 2016 Hey, we've only known each other for about 4 and a half weeks so not too long.
thecrucible Posted October 20, 2016 Posted October 20, 2016 It is odd that she said she only has feelings for you when you are talking about or having sex. Have you had many dates when you spend together without it always leading to sex? Maybe she has feelings she find hard to express vocally and easier to express in other ways.
selinaluv Posted October 20, 2016 Posted October 20, 2016 Hey, we've only known each other for about 4 and a half weeks so not too long. Not too long, but long enough for her to have some thoughts develop. Would be worth talking to her if this continues. 1
Toodaloo Posted October 20, 2016 Posted October 20, 2016 You are her entertainment and sounding board when she has nothing better to do hence why she keeps on with the texts and keeps meeting you for sex. By and large I would say go by what she does not what she says. Sit her down face to face and discuss it with her. 1
Author S6Benz Posted October 20, 2016 Author Posted October 20, 2016 It is odd that she said she only has feelings for you when you are talking about or having sex. Have you had many dates when you spend together without it always leading to sex? Maybe she has feelings she find hard to express vocally and easier to express in other ways. There was only one meet up that was a date that didn't lead to sex. All the others were just specifically to mess around with each other.
LargoLagg Posted October 20, 2016 Posted October 20, 2016 Maybe you're great in the sack, but just a regular Joe otherwise. I'm wondering how it is you can fall for somebody when your relationship is mostly built on sex? Have you considered that maybe you're confusing sexual intimacy with real intimacy? Have you ever been able to separate sex and romance?
PaperCrane Posted October 20, 2016 Posted October 20, 2016 Maybe you're great in the sack, but just a regular Joe otherwise. I'm wondering how it is you can fall for somebody when your relationship is mostly built on sex? Have you considered that maybe you're confusing sexual intimacy with real intimacy? Have you ever been able to separate sex and romance? I'm assuming because she keeps talking to him over and over through text. It's still conversing, though not as good, it builds an emotional attachment. Add that in with sex and WHAM it's a 'relationship'.
Sunkissedpatio Posted October 20, 2016 Posted October 20, 2016 But Here's what I don't get,hiw could she not have feelings for me. Why should she have feelings for you? Wasn't the agreement to have something casual? You are capable of doing that and it sounds like so is she.
Author S6Benz Posted October 20, 2016 Author Posted October 20, 2016 Ok so we agreed to just meet up for a physical/sexual relationship and depending on how it went we'd decide to keep seeing each others. Things went well that first time and we continued to see each other for a total of 4 times. The 3rd time was an like actual date because we hung out and did stuff. So the next day we're texting, I end up telling her I've fallen for her and like her alot. She freaks out and calls me because she doesn't feel the same way, the chemistry isn't there for her, and worries about my feelings. She said she only feels similar and connected when we're talking about sex and doing stuff related to it. So we finish that conversation on the phone and agree to put my feelings aside and see each other again. She was really concerned about how I felt and wanted to know if I was sure about getting over her that fast and continue to see her. So a week later we see each other again afterwards and had the best night yet. She tells me no one ever made her feel that good, etc.. But Here's what I don't get,hiw could she not have feelings for me. Since day one she's the one initiating texting me every day and talking to me soo much. Sometimes I even try to kill the convo by being boring and she still keeps going. We talk about a lot of other things besides sex and she shares alot with me. Even after that amazing night she said it was most likely the best ever and when we're in the car I joked about not seeing her anymore and she started to cry. I asked her why and she said maybe I may have some feelings for you We text until 2/3am every night. She consistently tells me how much she thinks about me during the day etc. She even tells her friends about how great it was and how I make her feel. I'm not sure why she's saying there's no chemistry outside of sex talk and messing around, but talks to me so much everyday and about so many things. Why does she do all this if she said she feels I'm different when we aren't on sexual topics and stuff. What do you think? (Update) Over the past couple nights we're talking on the phone for over an hour and a half each time. Last night when I'm about to hang up she says she doesn't really like talking on the phone and rather talk I person. So it doesn't make sense why would she call me and talk to me for that long if she doesn't like to do it.. Our schools are not to far from each other and she was thinking about meeting up during the day after we finish our classes to just hang out. I don't get this.
Sunkissedpatio Posted October 20, 2016 Posted October 20, 2016 Sounds like you guys are in your early 20s maybe younger. She wants to hang with you and have sex but she doesn't want you as a boyfriend so she can keep her options open.
Sunkissedpatio Posted October 20, 2016 Posted October 20, 2016 Sounds like you guys are in your early 20s maybe younger. She wants to hang with you and have sex but she doesn't want you as a boyfriend so she can keep her options open.
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