vanilatwilight Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 Me and my friend went out clubbing at the weekend and she met this guy, and then I met him and his friends and long story short we went to their house for a party It was obvious that my friend would hook up with this guy (il call him S) but during this I was with his friend (il call him L). So when my friend was chatting to S she ended up going into the bedroom During the night I spoke to L and that was it, absolutely nothing else happened between us and I felt like we really got to know each other so we added each other on facebook and stuff and the next day my friend tried to add S on facebook but he declined so then it sorta made me feel as if nothing would happen between me and L I ended up sending L a message and although he did reply fairly slow his messages were in a lot of detail and he would send long messages and we continued to speak like this for 3 days but now I have had no reply for 24+ hours and I know he was online a few times, I just don't understand why he would ignore me after sending me a long message and even asking me a few questions which meant he obviously wanted a reply from me? My main problem is the awkward situation between my friend and his I dunno if that has caused anything to happen, and i would say he was out of my league in terms of looks, he is also 23 and I am 19 which didn't appear to be a problem because he said it wasn't I'm just wondering if anyone could help me find out what's stopping him talking to me after he spent so much effort into keeping the convo going, or if he even is ignoring me
JewelD Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 It's only been a day, he might be busy. Although after several days of talking, you should be planning to meet each other for an actual date. Maybe he got bored of just talking and no action. I doubt it has anything to do with your friend. Guys don't really care about stuff like that.
Author vanilatwilight Posted October 19, 2016 Author Posted October 19, 2016 It's only been a day, he might be busy. Although after several days of talking, you should be planning to meet each other for an actual date. Maybe he got bored of just talking and no action. I doubt it has anything to do with your friend. Guys don't really care about stuff like that. Thank you! I was planning on hinting about meeting up soon but I was maybe gonna leave it until we had been talking for a week, il see what happens if I get no reply at all then il assume he just isn't interested which just kinda sucks cause he seemed into me, thank you for the advice
BetrayedH Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 I'm not one for gamesmanship but...there's a certain amount of truth to the expression that, those who care less hold the most power. He may be playing such a game with you, wanting you to be the one that pursues (who doesn't like that?) Or maybe he's been busy or unsure of how to respond. In any case, I'd let him do the pursuit. If he does, you'll obviously know he's interested. If he doesn't, it's not wise to keep pursuing him. Just my $.02
Author vanilatwilight Posted October 19, 2016 Author Posted October 19, 2016 I'm not one for gamesmanship but...there's a certain amount of truth to the expression that, those who care less hold the most power. He may be playing such a game with you, wanting you to be the one that pursues (who doesn't like that?) Or maybe he's been busy or unsure of how to respond. In any case, I'd let him do the pursuit. If he does, you'll obviously know he's interested. If he doesn't, it's not wise to keep pursuing him. Just my $.02 Thanks for the advice! It just really makes no sense for him to not reply after sending me such lengthy messages but I wouldn't send another message because then I could appear desperate lol 1
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