Returning stuff after breakup?

[stillafool]

Don't get your hopes up. You notice he said he wanted to meet up to give you back your things. He didn't say let's meet and talk. You had asked for your things back earlier and he indicated that you would get them. So this is it.

[aloneinaz]

IDK, when I've ended relationships, the last thing I wanted to do is see them post break up. My decision was made. I wanted to cut all contact immediately so both of us could heal and move on.

 

As it was mentioned, some dumpers are maybe insecure and need to see the dumper in person and hope they'll cry and beg for another chance. It's soothes their fragile ego.

 

Again, screw that. I was dumped once. I texted her the next day and asked her to put my things in her garage and I'd place her there. On my way over, I asked her to open the door. I dumped her stuff, grabbed mine and she never heard from me again. There was no reason. I wasn't going to EVER go back to her for more drama, bs and yet another break up cause reconciliations never work.

 

Having limited contact post getting dumped is simply stupid. They kicked you out of their lives. Why on earth would we want to continue to talk to them? What to you gain or get out of that? Would you want to continue talk to your boss who fired you for no reason? Um, no you wouldn't.

[LargoLagg]

Yes but pull yourself together in front of him. Crying and being depressed shows him that he has the power in the relationship

That doesn't sound right. It's perfectly ok if your ex knows that a breakup hurt you, even if it's a couple days after. You probably want to avoid wailing and throwing ashes on your head in front of him, but there's nothing wrong with showing some sadness. It is sad, especially if it was good before. It really doesn't matter if his ego is stroked by that or not and there is no "power" to be wielded, especially if the relationship is over.

 

This might be a nice chance to tell him that he was a coward for breaking up over the phone and that he needs to grow a pair and do it right with his next girlfriend. Then you can say your goodbyes face-to-face, and I'm willing to bet that in the long run, you'll be glad you did.