Hopeful30 Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 Recently watched a movie called Sunshine, and in this film two cousins who were raised as siblings end up falling in love, getting married and having children. Have you ever encountered a cousin couple or been in a situation like this? What's your take?
babylonsfire Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 not sure, closest I came to that, and it was still a bit too weird for our tastes, was dating a cousin's cousin. The cousin came from her dad's side, but our blood relationship was on her mom's side, so I still had no "blood" relationship to the girl; but yet, cause we all attended the same family events, the looks we got, our age (we were both very young) it was...uncomfortable 1
carhill Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 I can take or leave the cousin thing but the raised as siblings thing gets a bit too close to incest for my taste. As example, due to an extremely large maternal family, with siblings in some cases separated by a generation, like 20+ years, I had cousins and second cousins or whatever they're known as that I'd never met and didn't know at all. I did meet a few over the decades and, absent the cousin part they were strangers. I'd have felt more weird about dating the sister of a friend I'd grown up with and knew my whole life. I remember, when young, meeting who was technically a niece/nephew but was older than myself, children of my dad's children. Didn't know them at all. If there had been hormones flowing, it would have been as with a stranger in the practical sense, even though we shared some paternal DNA. People who were socialized more liberally in the sexual sense probably have a freer and more uninhibited viewpoint. I was sociailzed pretty traditional but still experienced normal male hormonal stuff and females are females in that realm. As humans we all make choices in how we act on hormones and biological drives.
preraph Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 Too close genetically and can cause deformities. Don't have kids if out of the billion people on earth you can't find someone who isn't your cousin to fall for. 2
Gaeta Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 I come from a little village lost in the middle of nowhere. Often in these little remote areas you'll find first cousins married. I know 2 cases. As Catholic they needed to get a permission from the Pope. Not sure what all of this involved but if the Pope said alright they could marry. By the way the 2 cases I know the children were normal in every way. What I think of it? Nothing much, I don't think it needs to be approved or disproved of. People know what danger it involves, it's their risks.
lucy_in_disguise Posted October 18, 2016 Posted October 18, 2016 The raised as siblings thing is creepy. It would be creepy even if they weren't related by blood. First cousins? Imo creepy if they grew up together aware that they are family. Less creepy if they connected as adults. In other words if there's an element of taboo to the attraction, that's too weird for me. If its just an unfortunate coincidence, meeting the guy of your dreams at a party and realizing you're related... Ok. In terms of birth defects, I don't think the risk of recessive abnormalities is actually that high (much lower than for siblings) but it's a risk. 2
SammySammy Posted October 18, 2016 Posted October 18, 2016 I'm quite sure it's illegal where I live. 1
Toodaloo Posted October 18, 2016 Posted October 18, 2016 I think about my cousins and... just no. I think about my second cousins and... just no. I think about my third cousins and... just no. Its just not "right". Its "icky". 1
Toodaloo Posted October 18, 2016 Posted October 18, 2016 I'm quite sure it's illegal where I live. In the UK it is fine to marry your first cousin. You do not need permission from the pope either even if you are Catholic... But I don't think its very common. Its the sort of thing that when it happens it is reported in trash mags...
Gaeta Posted October 18, 2016 Posted October 18, 2016 I think about my cousins and... just no. I think about my second cousins and... just no. I think about my third cousins and... just no. Its just not "right". Its "icky". Couple of years ago I went on a coffee date and then learn the man and I had the same last name. Just that it was too creepy lol Turns out our fathers were 2nd cousins but it was too close for me.
Shepp Posted October 18, 2016 Posted October 18, 2016 I know a guy who is now married to his step sister. He was 10 when his dad met her mum, i think she was 13 and her little sister was like 5 or something. Kinda weird when he first told me, because I had always thought of her as his sister - as I guess most people did. But everyones obviously used to it now. They are not blood after all, and obviously have a lot in common seeing how they were raised by the same people for half there lives. The cousin thing i cant wrap my head around! Blood is blood! Thats incest to me.
carhill Posted October 18, 2016 Posted October 18, 2016 Ha, ha, in the realm of irony, Charles Darwin married his first cousin, and his sister was married to her brother. 1
Toodaloo Posted October 18, 2016 Posted October 18, 2016 Couple of years ago I went on a coffee date and then learn the man and I had the same last name. Just that it was too creepy lol Turns out our fathers were 2nd cousins but it was too close for me. I have a friend who married a man with the same surname. No relation at all and they did check! I also know of two brothers that married two sisters... One of my exes once shagged his cousin... Well I assume so as they were both asleep naked in the same bed last time I saw him... But thats it. Over the entire span of my life that is the only experience of inner family "relations"...
jen1447 Posted October 18, 2016 Posted October 18, 2016 I'd never get w a cousin, no. I guess I'd have some sympathy if cousins fell in love organically whatever way, but personally I'd never allow that seed to grow in the first place.
Samhain Posted October 18, 2016 Posted October 18, 2016 Never personally known anyone who has, but heard about a few. I suppose it's legal, but to me it wouldn't feel right and I think that's the general opinion on it from bits and pieces I've heard from people over time. I think even if I had a cousin who I would consider a very attractive woman if we weren't related, I personally wouldn't be able to look at them that way at all.
sandylee1 Posted October 18, 2016 Posted October 18, 2016 I find it distasteful to put it mildly. It's an abomination to marry anyone where blood can be traced in my culture.
mrs rubble Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 My workmates girlfriend left him and married her first cousin a week later!! As you can imagine he was horrified, her family were also horrified. She does have a mental illness and everyone is blaming this for her sudden decision to go there. I had a huge attraction to one of my cousins several years ago, but felt it was so wrong to feel that way that this is the first time I've ever admitted to it. Most of us know that it's not socially acceptable in most places.
GunslingerRoland Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 I can't imagine it at all, I mean those are people I grew up with as family. I have lots of second cousins I've never even met, maybe that would be different, but it still seems weird. More distant than that would probably be okay, if I didn't grow up with them.
T-16bullseyeWompRat Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 Are you a big fan of the banjo? Lol. Oh man, that gave me a good laugh! I do like banjos, lol but I don't like the idea of cousins dating and having kids. It would be just too weird for me. Even if i found a second cousin attractive, I would never go there. That's just too weird in my book. Anyone who I share a relative with is a no go for me personally.
eightytwenty Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 My first thought is, ew.... Even my cousins that I'm not related to (step dad but all the cousins I've known) I wouldn't even do that.
JustJoe Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 The same name thing , is just coincidence. At one time, my grandma, my mom, and my GF had the same first name, Maria. If I had married the girl, they would all have had the same name , Maria JustJoe. NOt a pleasant thing to think about, knowing the ladies involved. AS far as the cousin thing goes, to my mind, it depends on how close the cousins were raised and how frequently they interacted. I met a second cousin, once , whom I had never seen before, and we had a mindf*cking 3 month summer relationship. Sex everywhere and all of the time. But, after three months, she went home , I went back to school and we didn't see each other for several years. When we finally got back together, the spark was gone, but curiously, we were close friends and remain so today.
JustJoe Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 I do, however, know of an older couple who are first cousins. But they didn't marry until way after their childbearing years. Funny,....... they look alike. 1
JustJoe Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 Oh, wait! I keep remembering sh*t. I also know of a lesbian couple who were step-sisters. 1
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