Tonofbricks Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 Since this is LS and have had good advice and viewpoint given about my pending divorce... I'll throw this up and see what you guys think. Just for $h!ts and giggles joined adult friend finder, on more of a whim than anything. Mostly fake bait stuff and fat couples but anyway.. Msgd this woman who was at least in an hr drive , attractive no x pics up , very vague about things ... just said looking for fun and she was bored. Well that sounded like a good opportunity for me .. she's slightly older than me and figured woman of age = no games .. say what you want , no bs.. I msgd here a brief explicit txt of how our first encounter would go , but worded and spoke like a woman would want... discription not things like ramming , wearing it out ect..passionate but respectful.. She responded .. loved it gushed about how no other man has articulated things like this to her.. Well I ran with the next one ... making a more elaborate senario.. gushed again then sent her own back.. of equal length including things we discussed do as to know it wasn't copy and paste... same as I did We exchanged several of these and each one better than the last.. Finally she says she wants to meet to see if there is this chemistry... Gives me her # because I give the option of txt so she feels more comfortable meeting perfect stranger and the place as well (public) So we exchange several txt .. discussion goes away from sex to family , kids anc work but with her lead... I send txt in morning while shes at work just saying .. good morning .. responds on her break.. ect.. Forward to this weekend.. no contact on Friday so Saturday I send txt saying I want to meet up...no bite... talks about relieving stress and I respond there's a lot of ways to relieve stress .. she responds with a yessss!!! And gives me credit for helping her relieve stress the past week ( I guess reading what I had written her) so that was a major turn on .. then no contact since .. I haven't sent any either , knowing sometimes the woman likes a challenge and to pursue. I really want this to happen , think it would be great... all the awkwardness of limits gone, able to enjoy sex without the worry your gonna freak someone out.. With the # she gave I can search FB and know she's not married or in a relationship and she is who she says she is.. no catfish So what gives ? Time line on this is kinda short too .. probably all of 10 days..so maybe I just need to exercise a little patience ...
Toodaloo Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 Phone her. Talk to her. Personally what I am thinking is this. She isn't ready for a relationship. Sees' that you are worth potentially more than just a quick shag and thinks she may get attached... I think she has a whole whirl of thoughts going on in her head. Also the fact that you are not yet divorced? Well that means she would be shagging another womans husband... Any woman worth half her salt would absolutely NOT be comfortable with that. Either that or she likes the idea of no strings but when it actually comes to it she is bottling it. Talk to her about it. Ask her kindly and gently with no expectations. Be human. <<DO NOT HAVE A DELICATE CONVERSATION LIKE THIS OVER TEXT>>
elaine567 Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 I guess virtual sex is what she wants, turning it into reality is not what she wants or she has found another plaything maybe or she is now "bored" again. Or she just doesn't want to get involved with a MM. Who knows? But I guess she is probably done with you. Interested people tend to act interested. Have you ever actually spoken to her on the phone or is it all text?
Author Tonofbricks Posted October 17, 2016 Author Posted October 17, 2016 I guess virtual sex is what she wants, turning it into reality is not what she wants or she has found another plaything maybe or she is now "bored" again. Or she just doesn't want to get involved with a MM. Who knows? But I guess she is probably done with you. Interested people tend to act interested. Have you ever actually spoken to her on the phone or is it all text? All txting so far... like I said it's only been for like 10 days..a slow ramp up of story telling and scenarios..both enjoying the exchanges.. Just baffles me how you can be "hot" anxious to see and meet them go totally cold ... confusing to say the least.. If it's gonna crash and burn I'm gonna ask why...
elaine567 Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 I guess it may be like some women are gaga over Christian Grey, but if told a real live Christian Grey was on his way to see her, she would would be out of there like a bullet. Fantasy - tick Real life - no way.
Toodaloo Posted October 17, 2016 Posted October 17, 2016 All txting so far... like I said it's only been for like 10 days..a slow ramp up of story telling and scenarios..both enjoying the exchanges.. Just baffles me how you can be "hot" anxious to see and meet them go totally cold ... confusing to say the least.. If it's gonna crash and burn I'm gonna ask why... Because its not reality she wants... Its just something fresh for her "wank bank"... Sometime it can get lonely just you and your battery powered friend... Sometimes its exciting and interesting to have that voice telling you what to imagine and what to do... You were that voice. You had the imagination. You were the evenings entertainment. If you want more then phone and talk to her. Find out that way where she is at.
Author Tonofbricks Posted October 17, 2016 Author Posted October 17, 2016 Because its not reality she wants... Its just something fresh for her "wank bank"... Sometime it can get lonely just you and your battery powered friend... Sometimes its exciting and interesting to have that voice telling you what to imagine and what to do... You were that voice. You had the imagination. You were the evenings entertainment. If you want more then phone and talk to her. Find out that way where she is at. I just didn't want to push too much , as something I learned through D ... So you guys think I should ask or inquire ? I mean after these texts we had one including a whole weekend in the mtns in a cabin ect very specific - by her Hot tub , clothing then activities very very specific... And when I say o didn't initiate meeting SHE did.. If it benefits me to wait a few days I will...
Author Tonofbricks Posted October 17, 2016 Author Posted October 17, 2016 Sent a txt after lunch asking how her weekend went. No reply yet...
Author Tonofbricks Posted October 19, 2016 Author Posted October 19, 2016 Sent a txt after lunch asking how her weekend went. No reply yet... Then I sent a msg to her on aff about I was sorry if I had said something to offend her. ( unlikely after the very graphic txt) ... Revived a reply about 4hrs later , txt msg to my phone. Said she enjoyed our banter and wanted to continue but she was busy at work and had cleaned her house ect... would pick up the exchanges today since it's her day off..I sent a good morning today with no response ... If she wanted to blow me off I gave her that option in the message in aff , to just tell me and that would be he end of it... So what the h€ll is going on ... even gave the out for her situation (know she's single ) Just man(woman) up and say it... daum!!
BlueIris Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 She's undecided or not invested. If that bothers you pursue someone else.
ackuric Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 A lot of people are cowards and will be very indirect with their wants, needs or plans. What is kinda sad is that you don't see the signs and have to make posts to seek validation. Have you never had a chick truly interested in you before? Cause if you have, you should know that this one is not interested, certainly not on the level you're at. 1
LD1990 Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 The simplest solution is often the best, especially when it comes to texting. You want to meet her in person. So ask her to meet on a specific time and date. If she says she's busy, ask when she's free. If she doesn't know, she doesn't care about meeting up with you and you can move on with your life. You're wasting your time with these small talk texts - how are you, how was your weekend, what'd you have for lunch on Thursday. You met her on Adult Friend Finder, she sure as hell doesn't want pointless small talk.
elaine567 Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 You want to meet her in person. So ask her to meet on a specific time and date. If she says she's busy, ask when she's free. If she doesn't know, she doesn't care about meeting up with you and you can move on with your life. You're wasting your time with these small talk texts - how are you, how was your weekend, what'd you have for lunch on Thursday. You met her on Adult Friend Finder, she sure as hell doesn't want pointless small talk. They have not just been sending small talk texts, they have been sending explicit texts, but TonofBricks now wants to meet for sex and to turn those graphic scenarios described into real life encounters, hence the small talk, but she doesn't interested in that and she has disappeared on him.
LD1990 Posted October 19, 2016 Posted October 19, 2016 They have not just been sending small talk texts, they have been sending explicit texts, but TonofBricks now wants to meet for sex and to turn those graphic scenarios described into real life encounters, hence the small talk, but she doesn't interested in that and she has disappeared on him. I know they have been sending explicit texts. It doesn't matter. He wants to meet her. Asinine small talk doesn't accomplish that. If she wants to meet him, the direct approach will facilitate that quicker than any other method. If she doesn't, the direct approach will reveal that quicker than any other method.
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